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Dear Thelma,

I just recently started seeing this guy. We really click. He is just my kind of man except for the fact that he smokes like hell. Anyway, he wants us to be in a committed relationship, something serious. I want to date him because I really like him. The problem is that he has a girlfriend. Their relationship is on the rocks. He is trying to break up with her. He said he doesn't love her, and I believe him. But I feel guilty. They have been dating for 2years. She has fibroid, and she is 31years old. 
I am way younger and feel as though am stealing from her. Is it a bad thing to snatch her boyfriend even though I don't know her. Is there anything like boyfriend snatcher? Will karma work against me? Should I tell him to go back to his girlfriend? 
Please help me.


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Karma may not work against you, that's if in fact karma still exists..... She seems to be on an overextended vacation. That said, please leave that guy alone. Don't try to justify it. It's inconsequential that you don't know her personally, you know OF her and that's enough. If and when they truly break up then you can give him a chance.

"Smokes like hell"... Being an Ex-smoker I can tell you for free that a person who smokes isn't worse than a person who doesn't. I've met satan's siblings here on earth that have never smoked or tasted alcohol. I've also met and know some amazing angels that smoke like chimneys. In fact I doubt it has much to do with personality (and like my father said when I was caught)" it's your health I really worry about". So that's the one reason I think every smoker should quit; HEALTH

That said if it's something you cannot deal with then you shouldn't subject yourself to that. Remember you will have to kiss him and (again) as an Ex-smoker believe me when I say smoker's breath is pretty disgusting. Besides that you'll find yourself constantly complaining, turning your face away and holding your breath when you're around him, and believe me, if he's addicted he will choose his cigar over you any day anytime. Be guided. 

Good luck Hun!

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Comments

  1. Dear writer,
    Errrrm you gonna get your heart BROKEN. For the fact he let you know there is a SHE in the picture simply means he just gave you a fair warning so every and anything you do from hereon now, you of your own free will and consciousness. If a married man will deny his family to date a girl he's really interested in, a single guy can break up with whoever he is with to be with a girl he clicks with. Most smokers don't have bad breath but when you meet the ones that do, it is a run for your life situation. If you have a problem with his smoking now, when will you stop having a problem with it or do you think you'll be that girl that will make Jim quit? My sister once told me that any guy that tells a pitiful story just before he tells you he likes you is not worth my time and trust me that shit is true.
    Just saying, if he wanted to really be with you, he would not have to tell the story to rope you in

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  3. Don't do it. If he even remotely was a man, he wouldn't tell you his ex's issues he would detach himself from her quietly before dating you. And even if he marries you, at the first sign of trouble he will be looking for how to bail out on you. He has no regard for someone who dedicated 2 years of her life for him. That's a red flag.
    He sounds very much like someone I know
    Dude dumped the chic for similar reasons. And she ended up married to a better educated and far richer man exactly two years later. The guy is almost 40 and busy parambulating around.

    As for dating a smoker its neither here nor there.

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  4. Miss Pynk U are intelligent...
    Ur comment is Spot on!!!

    Poster have u heard? I have nothing to add except this: Any Man who leaves a Woman for U, will leave U for another woman.
    #Bye

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  5. T please delete this Madam Jane Ashleys comment.
    This blog is NOT for BS!

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  6. Thanks You guys. I am the poster and I appreciate your comments. Thanks Thelma for posting. Am taking you all's advice. It's hard but I am taking a walk.

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  7. Oh dear, Ehugs... it's alright. Uv done noble...

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