I just recently started seeing this guy. We really click. He is just my kind of man except for the fact that he smokes like hell. Anyway, he wants us to be in a committed relationship, something serious. I want to date him because I really like him. The problem is that he has a girlfriend. Their relationship is on the rocks. He is trying to break up with her. He said he doesn't love her, and I believe him. But I feel guilty. They have been dating for 2years. She has fibroid, and she is 31years old.
I am way younger and feel as though am stealing from her. Is it a bad thing to snatch her boyfriend even though I don't know her. Is there anything like boyfriend snatcher? Will karma work against me? Should I tell him to go back to his girlfriend?
Please help me.
Karma may not work against you, that's if in fact karma still exists..... She seems to be on an overextended vacation. That said, please leave that guy alone. Don't try to justify it. It's inconsequential that you don't know her personally, you know OF her and that's enough. If and when they truly break up then you can give him a chance.
"Smokes like hell"... Being an Ex-smoker I can tell you for free that a person who smokes isn't worse than a person who doesn't. I've met satan's siblings here on earth that have never smoked or tasted alcohol. I've also met and know some amazing angels that smoke like chimneys. In fact I doubt it has much to do with personality (and like my father said when I was caught)" it's your health I really worry about". So that's the one reason I think every smoker should quit; HEALTH.
That said if it's something you cannot deal with then you shouldn't subject yourself to that. Remember you will have to kiss him and (again) as an Ex-smoker believe me when I say smoker's breath is pretty disgusting. Besides that you'll find yourself constantly complaining, turning your face away and holding your breath when you're around him, and believe me, if he's addicted he will choose his cigar over you any day anytime. Be guided.
Good luck Hun!
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