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Misplaced Indignation.

Last week most of us had the best laughs we had had in a while, all thanks to the First Lady Dame Patience Jonathan. Yesterday at work someone played the video of the white woman who mimicked the First Lady. It was a very poor attempt but I laughed nonetheless (more out of trying to be polite to my colleague who showed it to me than genuine amusement). 
      While we laughed a couple of people expressed outrage and righteous indignation. 
Basically their grievance was how dare she? How dare a white woman/foreigner make fun of our First Lady!? She should be sued, this is defamation (LOL). This is outright disrespectful. Would she dare do this to the wife of the President of the United States?

I honestly could not believe what I was hearing. And so I asked, how dare you be upset? You're upset that a foreigner made a mockery of your First Lady when you spent the last few days doing even worse, ridiculing and insulting her in every possible way? If you didn't laugh and shake your head or make any "Diarris God oh!" jokes after watching that video then I can excuse you. But no, we all laughed and shared the video and showed anyone who hadn't seen it so that they could laugh too and we could all laugh some more. We insulted her online, one of our former legislators, Dino Melaye, even wore a Tshirt further making a public mockery of her, and you want to express indignation and outrage because a white woman did same?

No love, it doesn't happen that way. Do I come out and insult my mother and jeer at her in public and get angry when someone outside insults her too? Hell No. 

You can't treat your own thing with disrespect, disdain and derision and expect someone outside to respect and honour it, the word for that is "deluded". 

Basically my point is this (Patience Jonathan aside) treat your own how you want others to treat it. If you live in a filthy home you can't get angry when your friend who comes over to visit makes a mess and doesn't clean up. 

If you come around me and you're constantly insulting your spouse, don't get too mad the day I see him and say "oh, here comes that stupid man". 

If you have no respect for yourself, do not be surprised or get upset when others don't respect you. 

So eventually after seeing the flaw in their reasoning they quietened down and thought about it. Yes, one was still adamant that the white woman was wrong. Maybe she was. But who's fault is it? 

Happy Friday Happy People.  


  1. Our own fault. When I was younger, we used to live in one rented apartment. It was an estate and the houses were so closely built. My next door neighbors-couple, were always fighting calling themselves all sort of names. One day, the man hit my brother while playing with him and the next thing he said was...Stupid man, U can't even provide for your home. My mom slapped him and my brother replied...but that's what aunty Yombo use to say everytime. They stopped fighting soon but still moved out in shame.

    Treat your property the way you want others to.

  2. So true. #Enjay#

  3. Spot on Thelma. If you can't value your own how can you expect others to value it?

  4. It's just like dressing the way U want to be addressed...

    Yet my friends wonder why I keep the flaws of my parents and bfs hush hush!!!

  5. It's always been like that. Nigerians can insult Nigeria or Nigerians, but Non-Nigerians can't insult Nigeria or Nigerians.

  6. I didn't find dis video funny @ all I didn't find people making fun of d first lady funny either.
    So wat if she can't speak good english. She called that meeting for a good reason!
    As for dis lady, nor be her fault. Na we cause am! Lubbish!

  7. Yes, the white woman was wrong. I have the ticket to abuse all government officials in Nigeria including their husbands and wives feeding fat on my taxes; but the white woman cannot enjoy same right..
    It is a common knowledge that you should not join in to criticize/insult except if you have the right, you cannot assume the right simply because your friend is qualified.

    The freedom of speech in America has limits when it comes to foreigners, and Americans are less tolerant of foreigners making comments about their country, policies or leaders. Remember Piers Morgan and the gun control saga.

    Wondering why people bother with Patience Jonathan anymore, I don't find her comments funny at all. Listening to her is a terrible reminder of the state of the nation and how far deep we are in the mess.

  8. I beg to disagree, but whoever didnt find that funny vdo has lost his/ her sense of humour, for goodness sake spare me... no finesse, no poise, no charisma for a first lady? there's always a prompt before camera rolls, how do u displace so much drama? the wailing part is provokes me.

    i do not blame the white lady at all, Patience on her own ridiculed herself- im supposed to put up a fight for her? i hate to say this GEJ's our cross to bear since we voted into office, but to force Patience on us and expect us to accept her one too many flaws is totally unacceptable.

    BTW, i find that video more annoying than funny,

  9. Oh laughed oh and am still laughing


  10. Truth is Nig have attitude problems. We think we have exclusive right to insult and redicule ourselves and others but others don't have the same right over us. Twitter is a prefect flatform where that happens. And I am truly ashamed for that Malaye man. He's (and many) just lucky Goodluck aint nothing like the North (or is it South) Korean president...

  11. I honestly agree with anon 4.04. Annoyed rather than humored was what I felt watching that video. A provocative attempt at diverting our attention from the issue at hand and Nigerians being who we are took the bait. May God help my country Nigeria!


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Just checking in to sign the register. Lol. It's been a very busy week and it looks like it might be an even busier weekend. I was hoping to get some writing done when I got to the airport yesterday but I even almost missed my flight. It was hopeless trying to do any work on the plane as it was bumpy af, and this toddler behind me wouldn't stop screaming in piercing shrieks like he was being exorcised. 
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