When I'm out with someone and they ask "What are your regrets?" I'm always quick to say I have no regrets, and then I add that every bad experience is a lesson learnt and not a regret. (I don't even know if that makes sense but it always shuts people up).
In truth I do have regrets and I hope that by talking about a few of them I'll let them go. These are some of the regrets I never acknowledge I regret:
I regret breaking the heart of my first love who loved me more than he loved oxygen. Who loved me so much someone said "Nwando you'll never find another guy that loves you like this guy". I dunno if it was a curse because ten years later, I still haven't.
I regret not taking my grades and academics more seriously in the University.
I regret dating my elder brother's friend when I was in my early 20s. Till date it has caused some irreparable damage to our relationship. (Bruv if you read this; I was naive, clueless and ignorant. My thinking was I won't mind you dating my friend so you shouldn't mind me dating yours. I was wrong).
I kind of regret not hearing both sides of the story and taking sides with one friend which completely ended my friendship with the other one. (DON'T EVER PLAY JUDGE WHEN YOU DON'T KNOW THE WHOLE STORY).
I regret setting limitations for myself and not grabbing the opportunities that came my way because I thought I wasn't good enough.
I regret trying to influence my Law School posting. Maybe if I'd just filled the forms and trusted in God I wouldn't have been sent to Kano campus and had the worst experience and met the worst people ever!
I regret not giving E.M a chance.
I regret changing my hostel from Manuwa to Lady Ibiam in my first year. I strongly believe my life would have turned out much better if I'd stayed put in Manuwa in what was the most formative year of my life in university.
I regret listening to people who said I was too skinny and I needed to put on weight.
I regret not pursuing that job because I thought I didn't possess enough qualification only for it to be given to someone less qualified than I was.
I regret not saying I wanted more when he suggested we should be just friends.
I regret all the chances I never took and the adventures I never had because I was too scared come out of my comfort zone.
I regret not pursuing that career as a music producer and grabbing the opportunities I had to learn the ropes when they came my way. I really really really regret this. Nothing would have given me more fulfillment. Yep! I wanted (want) to be a music producer.
What do you regret?
It's ok to acknowledge your regrets just as long as you don't let them hold you back. Remember, "Move on with hope".
*Very busy day tomorrow so I may be MIA*.