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The Straw That Broke The Camel's Back.

"My SO (significant other) was not happy with the amount of time I spent with my friend, resulting in a few fights. He had been in a pretty bad motorcycle accident a few months prior, and was still working on recovering from a broken femur. We were arguing about my division of time and she says, “I wish your friend had died in his accident.” Our relationship had been on a downward spiral for a while prior to this, but it was limping along because we were both still trying to make things better. This was the straw that shattered the camel’s back, I immediately ended the relationship."

I read this on Reddit and almost went apeshit! Some people can be so horrible. Well, I once had someone say to me "I wish my SO will die so I can be with you" Obara Jesus! I have never had so many goose pimples on my skin as I did at that moment. 

Back to the straw that broke the camel's back, what is that one moment/thing/statement that your FRIEND/BOO/SIGNIFICANT OTHER said/did that made you say "No more. This relationship is over"? 

I'll share a few of mine with you. 

# A few weeks into my relationship with *Tobi he said; "If you ever cheat on me, I will kill him, then I will kill you. And I promise you nothing will happen to me". I tried to act like his was joking but he assured me that we had a well-loaded revolver, then proceeded to show it to me. Ok.. Tobi wouldn't let me leave him though no matter how hard I tried. He spoiled me silly but frightened me shitless! A few weeks after that he bought me a pair of Gucci shoes and when I said thank you without getting up to hug him he totally flipped and hurled a heated iron at my head from across the room. If I did not move an inch away before it got to me....  So yes, I knew Tobi was controlling and potentially abusive but that was the moment I said "Mba biko. All the money and gifts in the world cannot buy happiness". (I'll share the whole story soon). 

# I had barely started dating *Femi when he said "I don't really like blow jobs but I like it when a girl licks my ass. You'll lick my ass-hole abi?" Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew for weeks! That relationship ended before it began. 

# I thought my friend *Nkem was just misunderstood when she'd forward texts and messages from some random chics asking her to leave their men alone, complaining to me that she didn't know what they were talking about. Till the day we found out she was sleeping with her best friend's boo. When confronted via SMS she replied saying "fuck you, fuck him and fuck the world. It's all a game to me." Not the remorse and denial we were expecting. That day I put my shoes on and took a walk. If she could do that to her bestie then who am I? LOL. 

So hey, What was the straw the broke the camel's back in your friendship/relationship? 


  1. 1) This guy was my friend (or so I thought) for over 10 years until his ex chatted with me and told me things the guy said about me when she asked after me. Being stabbed in the back by somebody I was trying to pull up was too much for me to bear, I figured this guy was too jealous of me and could harm me. I cut him off so fast it felt so good.

    2) Dude was my friend but started sleeping with his brother in law's fiancee and our friend's sister who was having problems in her marriage. Didn't want to be dealt the same card as I just started dating my wife then, I ran as fast as my legs could carry me.

  2. Thelma you wont kill me with laugh. Something similar happened to me but in my own case he wanted threesomes. HeLL No. Btw i'm waiting for the full story of that Tobi guy.

  3. Lol @ the heated iron dude.deep. Ok my ex once said to me (after I had finished crying for hours) that "you need to be humiliated if you want to be with me". After that day, it all just went downhill from there and I eventually told him to stop calling. I can only feel sorry for the woman he is maRried to now. Poor thing.

    1. He probably meant that u need to be humble... Lol, pele

    2. Lol, trust me he meant "humiliated", he aint that dumb. He stared at my swollen eyes n al n said it right to my face.some guys r wicked I thankGod I didn't marry him.

  4. Your femi got me laughing,lick ass hole ke?

  5. We had been dating for months and dude was already acting majorly serious,then dude had a bombshell, apparently he had a 12yr old son that he never told me of.While I was still trying to deal with that news and its ramifications, dude comes back later and says his son's mother called him and says the boy is not his,that we could go for a DNA test if that would make me believe him and all.

    I RAN.I mean who does that?first you had a 12year old son(which you never told me about by the way), now you don't ?like seriously?do I have 'mumu' pasted on my forehead?

    1. Favourite are you sure its not same man that told me his son is not his, after came back to tell me its his cos he has health issues. He cannot impregnate any woman. He was once married and the wife left him cos he deceived him. he lives in Lagos.

  6. Well, I once asked my Ex why he had so many girls around him (friends, girlfriends, friends with benefits etc, Thanks to my snooping) then ME too.

    The guy said, his exact words oh: "R, I love/enjoy it when so many girls want me & can literally do anything to be with me because it makes me HAPPY & I feel like A man , but U are always my Honey"...

    That was the day I took a long walk on my imaginative beach into the reality of my singlehood.

    A boyfriend who needs other girls to validate him is a husband who needs mistresses to validate his married status!!!

  7. My ex bf then would call for hours,send messages,apologise for missing my calls,return my calls,surprise me with gifts...he was basically doing all those lil things that makes a woman go "goo goo ga ga" then, one day,it all stopped. Asked why the sudden change when it was too much to bear, he snapped at me and said "YOU ARE NOT MY PRIORITY AND NEVER WILL BE"..I slowly pulled out of the rel.,stopped taking his calls and he's been begging to know what he did but I've refused telling him. Fina

  8. My ex bf then would call for hours,send messages,apologise for missing my calls,return my calls,surprise me with gifts...he was basically doing all those lil things that makes a woman go "goo goo ga ga" then, one day,it all stopped. Asked why the sudden change when it was too much to bear, he snapped at me and said "YOU ARE NOT MY PRIORITY AND NEVER WILL BE"..I slowly pulled out of the rel.,stopped taking his calls and he's been begging to know what he did but I've refused telling him. Fina

  9. My so called bestie talked about me behind my back. Called my fiance then and said so many bullshit about me, he had to tell me " u don't have a friend o". I just cut her off without an explanation. She was shocked. This is someone I had all the no of the guys she dated but never called anybody to talk about her waka about. Didn't talk to her for one year till she started asking people to beg me. I forgave her but didn't tell her what she did till date. I'm very careful with what I tell her n make her know about me now and we are not that close anymore.

  10. Be careful, with friends like that we don't need enemies. Had a friend like that once,she would go telling other people nasty things I never said about them and they would believe cause we were always seen together. The day I found out ehn the confrontation was serious. From that day the friendship ended. #Sussy

  11. Its funny how some men act like they taking oestrogene or going thru menopause. I'm surprised with all the gist from above...hmm

  12. My ex would rather die than see me talk with another guy...he was my first and he defended his actions by saying that he loves me and couldn't stand the thought of me being with another guy. In my mind, I was like chai, see love ooo. He called me point 1, not knowing he had point 2, 3, 4 and so on (serial cheat oshi).

    In my naivete, I felt I could change his jealous attitude...Oh well, when the beating started nobody told me to take off and years down the line he's coming back to say he wants to get married....rotflmao

    1. Rotfl @ serial cheat oshi

  13. I attended a friend's wedding last year where I met some old school mate. while exchanging pleasantries my senior back then in my dept said ''thankGod U are still not married'' see me se wahala oh,while am here praying for God to bring my Boo.that day I feared for my life,pple nt wanting others to move on jst cuz they are attracted to U.


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