Maybe I'm a tad ignorant but I think the right word should be clueless. I'm clueless in this regard. Last night while I was struggling to stay awake till midnight and say (fire) some prayers LOL, to keep me awake I decided to scheme through my ever faithful Thought Catalogue. I read an article on why feminism isn't about gender equality. The writer made some arguably valid points but no, that's not what this post is about.
He mentioned something about Male Rape and how less women are convicted for it than should actually be. At this point I stopped to think. I hear about men getting raped and I never think about it past surface level. Most times it's with a tiny voice sniggering "yeah right" in the recess of my mind in an exaggerated tone. But seeing it in the context of the article it was obvious that this is pretty serious and so I was forced to think.
As a lawyer my first definition of Rape was as defined in the Criminal Code and based on that definition only a man can rape. So my mind, obviously following that thought pattern struggles to understand how a woman rapes a man. It seems almost physically impossible. Does she force him to become aroused, force his penis to become erect, force him to penetrate her, force him to move in and out of her/massage her genital with his? Remember that once again, it's almost physically impossible for a woman to overpower a man.
How exactly is a man raped by a woman? Do you think the time has come for a Review of the Nigerian Criminal Code? Should the law begin to recognize male rape victims. (This calls to mind the story of a man in Benue , in 2012, who on returning late at night from a beer parlour was raped to death by his six wives. Of course these women may have been charged with manslaughter but certainly not rape as that isn't recognized in Nigerian law.). Also in reviewing the Criminal Code do you think it should also recognize a man being raped by another man?
But first, is it possible for a man to be raped by a woman?