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There Are Still Good Ones Out There!

My life is a testimony, the enemy has aimed for my life several times, but God has always pulled me out of darkness. No matter how many times I'm struck down, I rise again. Then God blessed me with the most amazing life mate. My husband is really one that defies the norm, I truly believe I'm the luckiest girl alive. This man loved me as a size 10 and also as a size 18 when I blew up in pregnancy, he never made me feel anything less than beautiful. At the end of all that pregnancy weight and hormones I lost my baby at birth and this man has cried with me, prayed with me and prays for me. He ached as I ached. When I told him I can't go thru it all again he told me children or no children it's me he married and me he loves. He fightes my battles and fights for us. He is a hardworker and a provider. I can't think of him and not be overwhelmed with intense love. He is not perfect but he tries he damn hardest. He always ask me what he can do to make me happy. Even when he is angry with me he doesn't hold a grudge. Maybe God has seen the ups and downs of my life and sent me his best because he is definitely my best. My Oyeyemi definitely defiles the norm. I love him to the moon and back. 

The poster put this up as a comment but I had to make it a post. I'm not one of those that read a comment or post and says this brought tears to my eyes, but this literally brought tears to my eyes. Dear poster I am so happy for you. We need to hear more stories like this (yours and Tolulope Alabi's) to rebuild our faith in love and marriage. With all the negative stories we hear these days it's so easy for one to accept that there can be no good in marriage. I thank you for sending this in. May God continue to bless you and your home. 

Ps. I'm not doing this for just myself. I've got some single friends who already believe their marriages to be doomed and it's mainly as a result of the stories they read on blogs and stories they hear. There's one who starts most of her sentences with "I know my husband will cheat so...." Or "I know my marriage won't last so I'm just going to have my two kids and leave". I keep begging her to stop prophesying negatively.
       We really need these positive stories to rebuild our faith and hope in the institution of marriage. 


  1. Yep,there are still very good ones out there. Your bf might sound perfect but its only tested when he becomes a husband!
    And while we pray for a good spouse,be a good person ur spouse out there is praying for...

  2. My people, I have been married for almost ten years and we have shared the most amazing times and also some back-breaking difficulties. It takes a lot of understanding and the grace of God to make it work.
    You see, most of us watch too many hollywood flicks on relationships, love and marriage and I can tell you from experience that it isnt a bed of roses.
    1. NEVER enter marriage with expectations
    2. Understanding that it is not difficulties that break marriages, it is lack of the will to resolve them that does that.
    3. Like it is said, pride goes before a fall. NEVER let your pride get in the way of saying 'I am sorry' even if you know you are right
    4. If you are wrong, say 'I'm sorry'; if you are right, shut your mouth!
    5. NEVER stop dating! No matter how difficult or stressed out you get, always make out time for yourselves. Afterall, that was what you were doing before you got married.
    6. Laugh with your spouse, not at him/her and NEVER lose your sense of humour.
    7. Treat him like a king if you want to be treated like a queen; treat her like a queen if you want to be treated like a king.
    8. Yes, you (the man) are the head of the home. ALWAYS make sure there is no pain in the neck. A neck pain is worse than a headache!!
    9. Children are a gift from God. Try (bcos it's not easy) not to let them make you lose sight of your spouse. Have you ever wondered why Adam & Eve didnt have children while they were in Eden?
    10. NEVER compare your marriage to anothers' because you dont know what is really going on in theirs. make your own mistakes and learn from them.

    I'm not a marriage counsellor but these have worked for me. There are no hard and fast rules about marriage. What works for one may not work for another so keep an open mind!

    1. This is great @Eazee E, but I think #3 and #4 are conflicting. I'd prefer "shut your mouth" when you're right as stated in #4. #9 is doing a crincum crancum in my brain though. Please explain this new *WONDER*. Lol

    2. Thanks Eazee E, great nuggets for both married and single

    3. I forgot 2 ver important ones:
      11. NEVER enter a marriage with an exit plan because you will never give it your best shot.
      12. ALWAYS buy gifts for one another, on and off season, whether there is something to celebrate or not!!

    4. Lol...pls explain #9.

    5. Eazee E, thanks a lot. And BTW you've been missed, welcome back.

    6. ((((Big hugs))) to u T! Hve been really busy chasing the greenbacks!

      @ Sasha & 9. The answer is an explanation i have given myself and when you believe it, it makes u see marriage in a whole new light. Adam and Eve didnt have children while they were in the garden because the most important people in a marriage are husband and wife. When both keep themselves happy, children or not, what do you think happens? Contrary to what most people think, LOVE is not the foundation of a good marriage. Before love will come friendship and companionship and compromise and understanding.
      Children are an extra gift! The most important gift in marriage is the gift of companionship.

    7. Great message Eazee E, thanks

  3. Yay! My name was mentioned in a post lol. That post broke my heart, poster I know it's God that gives children and he understands every phase of our life. Don't worry u will see how God will amaze u, please don't give up on him. Kudos to ur hubby, he seems amazing. God bless your home

  4. Nice.... although, Everyone, please do what works for Your individual marriages!!!
    What worked for A's marriage, might doom B's marriage.
    Just ALWAYS use the Bible as your yardstick fir determining roles!!!

  5. Nice.... although, Everyone, please do what works for Your individual marriages!!!
    What worked for A's marriage, might doom B's marriage.
    Just ALWAYS use the Bible as your yardstick fir determining roles!!!

  6. Aww Thelma thanks for making a post out of my little comment and thanks for ur prayers I really appreciate it. Please tell ur friend confession is possession, all those negative comments about her marriage are wrong wrong wrong. There is power on our lips and knees and that power should be used to build not tear down. I have also learnt a few things from Eazee E's comment, everyday is an opportunity to grow and learn more. Don't be afraid of marriage, the bible says perfect love cast out fear... that kind of love is what we should all work towards. It's a journey


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