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Does Size Really Matter?

Get your mind out of the gutter, it's not what you're thinking. LOL.

A few days back Myne Whitman did a post on engagement rings; on what your reaction would be if a man proposes with a tiny and cheap ring Here. Quite frankly I never really thought this was an issue, or let me say I'd never thought about it. However just yesterday afternoon I had a chat with some of my good friends from secondary school. Desola, Busola and Chiamaka (not real names). Desola's boo is about to propose to her, he told this to Chiamaka who introduced them to each other. 

Ok, let me tell you how Desola and her boo met. Her boo and Chiamaka used to be colleagues. He got promoted some two years back and Chiamaka congratulated him on BBM and used his picture as her Display Picture. Desola on seeing the picture of the handsome young man immediately pinged Chiamaka and asked "who's this fine guy on your DP?". Chiamaka explained that he was a former colleague. Desola asked if he was single and when Chiamaka replied in the affirmative, Desola said she would like to meet him and asked Chiamaka to set it up. Pins and numbers were exchanged and now, two years later the young man is about to propose to Desola. Ok back to the matter...

So we talked about it, I think it's meant to be a secret but somehow Desola found out. Then at some point yesterday she asked Chiamaka if he had picked a ring. "He better get me rock. I want people to see my rock before they see me."  She then joked that the rock should be so big that she'll have difficulty lifting her finger. Lol. 

Busola laughed and said it shouldn't matter if it's a tiny ring or a rock. If the ring is tiny and cheap or if it's expensive; what matters is the thought behind it. An argument ensued and Desola pointed out that Busola got a rock. Yes Busola is married and has a rock to show for it... 

Ok let me tell you how Busola and hubby met. (LOL). Busola had been single for over a year and was feeling lonely. She had gotten tired of being single and lonely and she really wanted a boyfriend. She had gone to the right places where she was likely to meet the kind of man she wanted, Gallery openings, Art exhibitions, church, singles seminars, theatre performances, the orchestra etc all to no avail. One day out of frustration she told one of her senior colleagues "you have a lot of single friends, please introduce me to one, I really want a boyfriend". He thought she was joking but when Busola made the same request the next week he knew she was serious. Later that weekend he asked her to come and meet him at his friend's family home in Ikoyi. Well long story short she and her colleague's friend are happily married today and I cannot think of a better suited couple. 

Busola insisted that she never asked for a rock and would have been contented even if the ring was GL. The argument went on. Chiamaka said the least. She's engaged and has a really small ring with a tiny stone. Up until yesterday's argument she hadn't given it much thought. Now she's beginning to wonder, should she be concerned that her beau proposed to her with a wee tiny ring?

Ladies does the size and cost of an engagement ring matter? What would you do if your man proposes to you with a ring like the ones above even though you know he could afford a better one?


  1. I even like really small, dainty rings like the first picture - bold jewellery repulse me.
    The daintier, the better.

  2. Thelma I mean no harm so don't take this the wrong way but how does it feel knowing that al your friends are either married or engaged? Can you honestly say you don't feel bad about it?

    1. Ifesinachi Okonkwo12:50 pm, June 16, 2014

      LOL. This Anon your boldness is endearing but your question (sorry to say) is lame.
      I don't believe in engagement rings. It's stupid because most times it's only the girls wearing in it and the guys just walk around empty fingered. If it's not a wedding ring, den am not wearing except my fiance is wearing his too.
      Size doesn't matter. It's just an engagement ring nt even a wedding ring.
      About d matchmaking thing. Am so excited. But please pictures should be involved to avoid embarrassing situations. You know what I mean naa.

    2. Anon no I don't. Life is neither a race nor a competition. What I probably feel bad about is the distance that's created... Wrote something on that recently. Long story.

      Ifesi when I find two possible matches then I will ask for pictures, that's the first step naa. Lol. Either that or I may pair them and ask them to exchange pictures and proceed from there. Still trying to decide but I may go with the former.

  3. I prefer small rings. Small, simple and beautiful. Not interested in a massive rock. Not interested in weight (Lol).

  4. Whether small,big,tiny,mighty,rock or needle,I don't care,all I care about is the man and the motive behind. The ring..

  5. What can I say?Desola and Busola are just my kinda of ladies.Goal getters, they knew what they wanted and went for it, they didn't just sit down in their comfort zone expecting their husbands to drop into their laps.

  6. The funny thing about this size of the rock is that, the one above is probably more expensive than the one with the big "rock". The big rock most times is not a diamond and the rings with very small stones most times are diamonds and more expensive.

  7. is not diamond*

  8. For me size is not a big issue, but I wouldn't want a cheap ring though it has to be tasteful

  9. Exactly.... I Just want an expensive ring biko. not cos I want to be vain but something I can fall back on confidently on a rainy day!!!!
    But the size doesn't really matter though, I hate big rings esp the white "diamonds". mbanu....

  10. Haha at big rock. Many rocks are cubic zirconia. The bigger it is the likelihood is higher that its fake. Real diamonds cost money and women need to respect their mans decision and wallet. Not everyone is into diamonds. People are fighting for diamonds and can barely tell the difference btwn glass and a diamond. They arent knowledgeable about the 4cs of diamonds.
    i never for once dictated the kind of ring I wanted, and I collect diamonds.
    My ring is 2.1 carats tw. IF Clarity, ideal cut, D color. With an asscher cut 1 carat diamond in the middle. I am very uncomfortable wearing the ring because I understand the sacrifice he made for me in getting the ring.
    I never asked for it, but he went all out.

    1. Thank you very much miss pynk, you've spoken wisely. Honestly if I sense that the woman I intend to marry is more concerned about the size and cost of the ring than how we are going to build a family then I will have to reconsider because I'm not too comfortable with someone who bothers about what people think or what her friends will say if her ring is small. Today it will be ring, tomorrow it might be that she can't live in a 3 room duplex when all her friends are living in 10 room mansions... Not that I wouldn't want to give her that but I don't need to pressure just because she has to keep up appearances.
      That been said, I like what Ifesinachi said about only the girls wearing the ring, some men use the ring as a way of marking their territory because they are insecure and don't want any other man toasting their girl, I don't see anything wrong with that though. What I have a problem with is proposing to a girl then keep on living life like a single randy bachelor.
      I honestly wish I would meet someone who isn't concerned with anything but the real wedding ring.


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