A few days back Myne Whitman did a post on engagement rings; on what your reaction would be if a man proposes with a tiny and cheap ring Here. Quite frankly I never really thought this was an issue, or let me say I'd never thought about it. However just yesterday afternoon I had a chat with some of my good friends from secondary school. Desola, Busola and Chiamaka (not real names). Desola's boo is about to propose to her, he told this to Chiamaka who introduced them to each other.
Ok, let me tell you how Desola and her boo met. Her boo and Chiamaka used to be colleagues. He got promoted some two years back and Chiamaka congratulated him on BBM and used his picture as her Display Picture. Desola on seeing the picture of the handsome young man immediately pinged Chiamaka and asked "who's this fine guy on your DP?". Chiamaka explained that he was a former colleague. Desola asked if he was single and when Chiamaka replied in the affirmative, Desola said she would like to meet him and asked Chiamaka to set it up. Pins and numbers were exchanged and now, two years later the young man is about to propose to Desola. Ok back to the matter...
So we talked about it, I think it's meant to be a secret but somehow Desola found out. Then at some point yesterday she asked Chiamaka if he had picked a ring. "He better get me rock. I want people to see my rock before they see me." She then joked that the rock should be so big that she'll have difficulty lifting her finger. Lol.
Busola laughed and said it shouldn't matter if it's a tiny ring or a rock. If the ring is tiny and cheap or if it's expensive; what matters is the thought behind it. An argument ensued and Desola pointed out that Busola got a rock. Yes Busola is married and has a rock to show for it...
Ok let me tell you how Busola and hubby met. (LOL). Busola had been single for over a year and was feeling lonely. She had gotten tired of being single and lonely and she really wanted a boyfriend. She had gone to the right places where she was likely to meet the kind of man she wanted, Gallery openings, Art exhibitions, church, singles seminars, theatre performances, the orchestra etc all to no avail. One day out of frustration she told one of her senior colleagues "you have a lot of single friends, please introduce me to one, I really want a boyfriend". He thought she was joking but when Busola made the same request the next week he knew she was serious. Later that weekend he asked her to come and meet him at his friend's family home in Ikoyi. Well long story short she and her colleague's friend are happily married today and I cannot think of a better suited couple.
Busola insisted that she never asked for a rock and would have been contented even if the ring was GL. The argument went on. Chiamaka said the least. She's engaged and has a really small ring with a tiny stone. Up until yesterday's argument she hadn't given it much thought. Now she's beginning to wonder, should she be concerned that her beau proposed to her with a wee tiny ring?
Ladies does the size and cost of an engagement ring matter? What would you do if your man proposes to you with a ring like the ones above even though you know he could afford a better one?