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Fat. Love. Tears & Joy.



I was getting tired of hearing them complain, of the things their men did or didn't do. He doesn't call, he's too possessive, he's peepee is too small, too big, too curved. He's a one minute man, he takes forever to come. He stares at other girls when he's with me. He gets too jealous. He loves me too much. Sometimes I'd just want to ask them to shut up. At least you have someone to love you so what are you complaining about?

Look at me, fat and unloved. Never been touched or kissed or loved. *George seemed to love me. We spent hours chatting on the phone, talking about everything and nothing. In a few short weeks George became my everything. Only problem was that George had never seen me. 

So we set a date to meet, nothing serious, just lunch. I warned him before hand; I'm a bit overweight George. To convince him I sent him some pictures but he said I looked beautiful to him. 

Lunch was ok. George seemed distracted. It wasn't really what I had expected but I didn't mind. We talked and had a few laughs and I fell even harder for his cute face and boyish charms. Lunch soon ended and he said he would take me out the next night. 

The next night I didn't hear from George. Didn't hear from him the next week or the next month either. Eventually I asked the friend who had hooked us up why George wouldn't take my calls or call me back. Reluctantly she confessed. That night after we met, George, her boyfriend and their other friends had dinner George said to her boyfriend "tell your babe never to hook me up with that sort of person again. She looks like a blimp!". 

I thought George loved me but it turned out my weight had put him off me completely, and he told his friends I looked like a blimp, I, a blimp, a fat blow up doll... That hurt me no end. 

It had been two years and I'd not found anyone who loved me. Till I met *Camron. And last night while we lay in bed and he started to kiss me I froze. "Let's put the lights off, please", I begged. I couldn't let him see me; my rolls of fat and my dimpled thighs. I couldn't bare to imagine the look of disgust on his face. 

"No darling, I want to see you, all of you" Camron said sliding down my nightdress. I cringed as he kissed my lips, my neck and every inch of my body and as he made love to me I couldn't stop the tears that flowed; it was a mixture of pleasure and joy. Joy of both seeing the pleasure he was obviously getting from making love to me, and knowing that someone finally loved me for me. 

Camron and I just celebrated our first year anniversary and are expecting our first child. I never got skinny but he helped me to eat better and takes long walks with me in the park, he also bought us bicycles which we ride together on Saturday mornings. I've lost some pounds and feel healthier. 

I've learned that when someone loves you your looks don't matter. They love you for what's inside and not the body you inhabit. I've also learned that when someone loves you they'll do what they can to better or improve you and your life; be it helping you get fit, helping you do better in your career or academics, teaching you to love yourself, giving you a new wardrobe, encouraging you to pursue your dreams.... whatever it is you need to be a better version of you. 

Yes. When someone loves you they accept you for who you are, they don't try to change you. No, they accept you and strive to make you the best version of you you can possibly be. That's what love is. 


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*fiction....sort of. *.
I'm really pitying myself, still awake by 3am when I have to wake up by 5am. The sad part is that I'm not remotely feeling sleepy. *sad face*. 

Comments

  1. Exactly. Someone who loves you doesn't try to change you. He tries to make you better. Lol @ the blow up doll. T did that happen to you?

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  2. Thanks Thelma. I really needed this.

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  3. Awwwww, Wiping away my tears. Some things just make u smile & tear up at the same thing.
    Biko one man's meat is another's poison.
    Don't kill urself for NO one.

    I've always believed there's our male equivalent somewhere. I only pray he locates us before menopause! LOL

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    1. there she goes,*wiping away her tears* lol, TMI my dear

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  4. I have a friend that can totally relate with this story. She isn't overweight she is obese. So obese and short. But she is got a pretty face. She had a complex because of her weight and it annoyed me. I said to her one day, "you have a food addiction, people have addictions. You are fat because you don't want to work on your addiction. Focus your anger on trying to loose weight. Don't. Do it for me or any guy, do it for You. If you aren't happy with the way you are, do something about it. I can't pity you because I know you can turn your situation around. So many people have. I am not obese but I have a rather bad addiction, which is really damaging, and I am doing something about it. Do something about yours".
    I can't be attracted to someone who gives up on herself. I can't love a fat girl that doesn't love herself. I can't love someone that won't take the bull by the horn and work hard to get what they want. Whether it's a figure 8 or getting a PHD. Even If you don't get there, just keep trying...that's what makes you a winner. I would love a fat girl that has the drive to loose weight but I won't love a fat girl that feels sorry for herself and gives up on what she wants so badly.

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    1. Hey Anon, I'm curious. Please what's your addiction?

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  5. Nice and true write up but remember there wld always be guys who like em big. Its just their preference that's all...its not bout what she looks like bout how he likes em looking. then from there,her xter decides if she's a keeper...

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  6. Fat is becoming a serious issue in our society. But sometimes self-confidence is an even bigger issue. Some overweight people have really good carriage that you don't even see them as fat anymore.

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  7. I had to lol @ a fat blow up doll.

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  8. Very inspiring post. Any genuine man will love u despite ur imperfections.

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  9. Reminds me of that John Legend song.

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  10. You gotta have some flesh in all the right places! Bag of bones is only good for TV..

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    1. I'm skinny and I'm taking ur comment very personal. If u don't like em slim,praise ur preference w/o negatively referencing those who don't.
      You are not every girls spec don't mean ur not someones spec...pls let's choose our words wisely!

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  11. Loved this story to bits. No matter what, there's always someone out there who would appreciate u, and help u to become better.

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