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Heartbreak And Decisions. ('Cleansing' the blog)





So here's why I'm heartbroken; there's this really cute guy, you know; dark skin, broody eyes, understated class, full lips, grown man swag for days. I've been sort of day dreaming about ...fantasizing if you will. Unfortunately just yesterday I found out he's married. Why does this always happen? *sad face*. And also married into one of the wealthiest families in the nation. I never knew he was the one that comes around in the bullet proof luxury ride with the numerous mopol men. I thought he was just a "clean" looking average joe. Anyways even if he wasn't married it's unlikely we would ever have been more than acquaintances. I guess I just felt like whining this morning. 

I also wanted to take out the opportunity to let you in on a few decisions concerning the blog. While I will not authorize/approve comments, I will begin deleting comments. In fact I've already begun. The comments by the Anon who has been on Ruthylicious' case in the last few posts have been deleted. I also deleted some of Ruthylicious' comments. Comments I find unnessecary, irrelevant to a post, offensive or just plain distasteful will be deleted. I love my blog and my readers and I panic when I visit Thelma Thinks and I just do not recognize it. I'm not so hungry for traffic that I need each and every person or comment, I honestly think the blog can do without the madness. This is a sane and mature place and I will not have anyone tamper with that. Most importantly I value my older readers to the moon and back and I will not want to lose them for reasons that are less than good. By older I don't mean age, but those that have been with me for several months, those that have shown me support and have dropped comments when most others didn't. I wouldn't begin listing them, they know their selves and I really really do not want to lose these people. 

I'm also very grateful for my new readers and I hope that we become friends too, I hope you guys stick with me and stand by me. I'm looking forward to your input and contributions towards making OUR blog better. 

For those who just seek to make inflammatory remarks, I'm sorry but I won't be honouring your comments anymore. I had hoped that I wouldn't have to delete comments and that those people would just stop but instead they chose to take the piss and I cannot have that. I stopped visiting so many blogs because of such comments, so far be it from me to condone it on mine. 

After all said and done, I wish we can all just get along. (Impossible i know, but I'm allowed to dream). 

Comments

  1. A request- can you please time your post?

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    1. yes thelma plz time it. Some of us likes to know the precise hour a post was made.

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  2. I'm in total support of deleting horrible comments, I stopped visiting most entertainment and gossip blogs cos I actually felt a little less intelligent after reading some comments and I realized it was a waste of my time.
    Keep up the good work T, eventually all the hurt and bitter people looking for who to pour their bitterness on will delete themselves.

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  3. Thank you for this decision. We need sanity restored. So many of us come here because so far the readers have been sane and civil.

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  4. You have done honourable

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  5. Well done Thelma. It's part of the reason why most of us who visit here, stopped commenting on other blogs. Like Steele pointed out, their replies actually make you wonder how, after contemplating on the issue at hand, you could possibly have sounded so silly. If you must disagree with someone, do that politely. That way you hit a reasonable cord. Everyone is entitled to his/her opinion, no matter how bone-headed it may sound. It's a great blog here and VERY interactive. Let's try to be reasonable with each other, please.

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  6. Thelma you were right about losing your old readers. I for one was about to run away. You're doing the right thing, don't let a few immature trouble makers ruin a standard you've been able to maintain. Take a look at Bella Naija for instance, they don't condone trash and yet they're the best. You don't need every tom, dick and Harry on your blog.

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  7. Yayyy!!!
    T, U are allowed to Dream, but now that u know Joe is someone else's reality, biko wake up from that dream oh. LOL

    AND, it is VERY Possible!
    Thank U for restoring sanity & peace to this PURE blog of ours.

    Am particularly sorry for contributing to this stressful routine. But it's all for the BEST.

    Thank U.

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  8. I only make comments on two blogs - Bella Naija and here. Most blogs make me feel too old to be visiting (i.e. the comments). However, in recent times, I am beginning to feel same way here. I know I do not comment as often as I should, but I do read every post since I stumbled on this blog. Thelma, it is in your hands to make your blog what you want it to be. I wish you all the best.
    -F

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  9. Thank you for 'cleansing' the blog Thelma, it was getting out of hand as Steele said all those who post nasty comments will delete themselves. Your blog is a beautiful place dear and I believe we can all get along.

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  10. Um,I don't think u shld have outrightly deleted them but instead given advanced warning to such acts. You might not want traffic but I want traffic for u...
    Well,looking forward to enjoying the rest of the posts and comments that are to come..

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    1. What other kind of "advanced" warning?. I asked politely that they stop and they chose not to. I deleted the comments and it felt very good, just like how you feel after a good detox. LOL. BTW don't get me wrong, I do want traffic but I want peace and sanity biko. Even I was beginning to avoid the blog till I remembered, oh it's my blog, I have to go back there *sad face*. How much more someone else?

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    2. Lol @ you too were avoiding your own blog. Abeg o

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  11. Thank you so Much for this,it was getting to that point where I feel like a stranger here,I find it so hard to comment so that one anon won't pick on me..thank you for restoring tht TT I used to know,but I missed your stories,I really do!

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  12. LOL. Mariam u have forgotten am also ur voltron? Ayamm here to defend U.
    Welcome back though.

    Our haven is back.

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  13. Bless you! Bless you!! Bless you!!! The decorum here had inspired me to start my own blog in the first place. Until recently when it was becoming something else. As always I'm glad you made this decision. I am fully back! #teamolderreaders LOL.Goodluck T *In Ruth's voice*
    www.eniwealth79.blogspot.com

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  14. Welcome Eniola... Biko give me back my voice. warrahapen? Na free?

    Off to ur blog!!!
    T, see how inspiring U can be?

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  15. Welldone Thelma. Itz beta dat way ooooo. #Straight delete#. #Tas#

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  16. goshhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh this ruth is soooo childish!!! ugh!

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  17. Thelma has saved the day! Lol..

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  18. Thelma, The rubbish has started. Can this Anon just rest? Leave Ruthy please Get a life.

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  19. T honey? The venom is back. But for your sake; I'll ignore.
    #TwerkingAway

    Ruthy the child.

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    1. LOL Ruthy if i may ask, do u have a 9 - 5? a life perhaps? u seem to monitor all the comments 247 damn gurlll get a life asap so u dont give urself a headache. kiss kisss

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    2. Errrm, Anon. I DONT have a life actually.
      I breathe, eat, sleep & will die on this blog...

      Sending loads of hugs to those sweet kisses of urs.

      Btw, U with a life, are U monitoring me to know I monitor others? #JustAsking

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    3. Mehn this babe u really need to chill out a bit on the use of words and death in particular. Last time u wished sumone death and now u say u will die on this blog. There is power in the tongue dear. U seem to have a lot of supressed anger and tend to blow hot n cold, I hope its not affecting ur relationships with ppl generally. Just take a chill pill n try to breathe. Thelma pls if u c this, mayb u cn have a private convo with Ruth to take sum time off n work on herself n whatever anger she's holding on to. Time off the blog too. Some of us do care.

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    4. Thanks Keke. The most sensible comment ever!!!

      Guess ur back? #Ehugs

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  20. Thanks ruthy,I apreciate u big

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  21. Fnks Thelma,I̶̲̥̅̊
    dnt comment much but I̶̲̥̅̊
    love dis blog to pieces.I̶̲̥̅̊
    was gettn scared of commentn b4 sum1 tells me my life story.#steffi#

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  22. See, Thelma, I love u but, really, do u really not see that Ruth is downright annoying and troublesome? People have a right to express how they feel, she should rather learn a thing or two- we all learn everyday, through a myriad of ways- regardless of how the person writing rants, I still believe a thing or two can be picked up. Eg, look at this post, she commented, and then comes back to either welcome someone, " defend" someone, cuss someone out- no one really does that here which doesn't make me surprised she's picked on. I 'm sorry to have to say this- I literally grit my teeth when I read her and i chanced on your blog, loved your mind and maturity and so when I see such a blatant display of immaturity, I am so ticked off, like, really? My goodness. She should be called to some sort of order- I saw that a lot of people tried to nicely caution her in yesterday's post to no avail. It doesn't make any sense to delete comments if u do not also delete the comments that incite and elicit such venom. I wouldn't want to know Ruth, and yet, there are few people I can't stand. Go figure.

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  23. See, Thelma, I love u but, really, do u really not see that Ruth is downright annoying and troublesome? People have a right to express how they feel, she should rather learn a thing or two- we all learn everyday, through a myriad of ways- regardless of how the person writing rants, I still believe a thing or two can be picked up. Eg, look at this post, she commented, and then comes back to either welcome someone, " defend" someone, cuss someone out- no one really does that here which doesn't make me surprised she's picked on. I 'm sorry to have to say this- I literally grit my teeth when I read her and i chanced on your blog, loved your mind and maturity and so when I see such a blatant display of immaturity, I am so ticked off, like, really? My goodness. She should be called to some sort of order- I saw that a lot of people tried to nicely caution her in yesterday's post to no avail. It doesn't make any sense to delete comments if u do not also delete the comments that incite and elicit such venom. I wouldn't want to know Ruth, and yet, there are few people I can't stand. Go figure.

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  24. See, Thelma, I love u but, really, do u really not see that Ruth is downright annoying and troublesome? People have a right to express how they feel, she should rather learn a thing or two- we all learn everyday, through a myriad of ways- regardless of how the person writing rants, I still believe a thing or two can be picked up. Eg, look at this post, she commented, and then comes back to either welcome someone, " defend" someone, cuss someone out- no one really does that here which doesn't make me surprised she's picked on. I 'm sorry to have to say this- I literally grit my teeth when I read her and i chanced on your blog, loved your mind and maturity and so when I see such a blatant display of immaturity, I am so ticked off, like, really? My goodness. She should be called to some sort of order- I saw that a lot of people tried to nicely caution her in yesterday's post to no avail. It doesn't make any sense to delete comments if u do not also delete the comments that incite and elicit such venom. I wouldn't want to know Ruth, and yet, there are few people I can't stand. Go figure.

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    1. Standing Ovation to your Epistle!!!
      Oshe...
      Still ROTFL... Biko remain Anonymous.

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  25. Ruthy forget this Anon above. The person sounds Pained. Live your life and comment all you want, those of us that matter love you.

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  26. Ruthy dear,I know you try to act this way just so you make them feel their words don't get to you(it shouldn't) but seriously,your replying 'everything' in itself is becoming too annoying(my opinion). That said, started reading this blog just last week and I've come to love how people like steel,memphis,enjay,sasha bone especially,ifesinachi and co intelligently make comments without trying to sound "I too know" like someone stated about memphis. Well done Thelma. Fina

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  27. I would not talk 2 d anonymous who isn't bold enuf 2 show his or her face 2 bully pipu, dat is sheer cowardice. Ruthy dis is 4 u, u can't control ow pipu act u can only control ow u react, pls do dat, ur replying 2 everytin d anon says make u in d same mental level with d anon. I believe u are beta dan dat. Thanks

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  28. What is that? I particularly love how ruthy has been handling this anon. these Anons can't go on insulting people up and down. If she has the time she should deal with the anon pls.
    #B

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  29. I have being on this blog for quite sometime now,though I comment as annon,ruth joined dis blog march and since then there's been hateful comment mostly about her,even most of the popular readers knows this,mind you,am not trying to hate on her,but she needs to curb her excesses,must she comment on all posts?must she always come back and greet people?even our ogas on this blog,mariam.steele,fifi,ruby,ccc,enjay etc don't talk much..when 2 Or 3 people start saying the Same thing about a person,you know what it means,ruth Cool down,thelma you need to talk to this girl and cool her down.thanks

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    1. This Anon is cruel. Did you Google ruthy on this blog to find out when she joined? It is only one anon commenting by the way. So zip your mouth.
      #B

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  30. Dis is Anon 7:58a, I stil maintain my stand. Abuses and insults are meant for shallow minds. U don't ve 2 respond all comments u knw, even some positive ones not 2 talk of negative ones. Pls let move ahead and stop all dis unnecessary squabbles

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    1. Are you paying subscription for her? What if she choose to reply everyone? Stop drinking panadol on her headache. Pls

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  31. Thank you Thelma for doing this. I for one was considering running away as the bickering back and forth was getting to me.

    I love the blog and am glad I found it

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  32. it seems ruth self don codedly join anon gang, na wah o!

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  33. Tot the cleansing had started....can't bear this T *covers face*.First tym commentin, really love ur blog.Opemipo

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  34. Proudlydarkskinned12:12 pm, June 10, 2014

    Please the love you guys show on this blog is the attraction for me, lets not spoil it naaa. and sometimes a little constructive criticism is needed. It shouldnt always be seen as hating. Am not supporting anyone ooo abeg oo

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