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Just When I Was Whining About The 'Haves and Have Nots'...

Good morning lovers. 
For the past few days I've been in a zone. I guess it had something to do with the 'not where I ought to be' frame of mind.

So everyday I'm caught between praise and worship (to be honest it's not because I've been feeling like I have a lot to give praise for, but because they say that Praise is sometimes the key that opens the door) and lamenting to God. Lamenting, whining, complaining, demanding, asking, pleading, begging. 

Last night I couldn't sleep (when I got back home around noon yesterday I slept from about 2pm to 8pm. So I was awake through most of the night). I couldn't sleep so I did something I don't often do. I visited Facebook. I'm not really a social network person generally but I sometimes avoid FB because there are times I go there and I leave feeling somewhat empty. Sometimes seeing people's pictures (which often aren't a true representation of their reality) reminds me of how much more I'm yet to have/accomplish/achieve.
       But then yesterday I went on FB and I saw the status of one of my former classmates from Queen's College saying "Help me praise God. I'm finally a graduate!". Dear Lord, just that one sentence and I immediately felt remorseful. 

Here I am complaining about this and that in spite of all that I have when someone I went to school with only just made it out of University and the person is still thankful! Why then should I open my mouth to complain?

Dear Lord, for all that I am and all that I have I give you thanks. I sincerely apologize for all the times I've failed to acknowledge your blessings and thank You for them. 

Guys, no matter how bad you think your situation is, there's someone out there who's praying for just a little of what you have. 

And as I write this I realize how insensitive I've been sometimes. I've got this friend who I met in Uni. She was a couple of years ahead of me but till date she's still struggling to graduate. Sometimes she calls me for a chat and asks how things are with me and I have the effrontery to complain about this and that, complaining about the inadequacies of my job or challenges I'm facing with some professional exam I'm writing when all she wants is just to leave the university....

I feel somewhat guilty and I guess this is a reminder to me and everyone else who needs to be reminded to be grateful to God for what I (we) have. No matter how bad the situation is it could actually be a lot worse. 



  1. @Thelma is dat you?so pretty..........GOD deserves our praise every minute!

    1. Your welcome dear.......

    2. All your jogging and exercising is paying off girl, good one! This post is so true, No matter how bad it is, there are loads of other people you are better than, as much as we strive for higher things, let's not forget how much we do have right now. a thankful heart is always tankful.

    3. Thanks Veev. But I must warn you, my face isn't a good 'meter' for checking my weight gain/loss.

  2. Exactly, there are people who sleep on the streets. Yesterday I tried to pump my tyre cos it was getting low and when the vulcanized finished I gave him 200 and was expecting my 100 naira change, then he brought out 20 naira from his pocket and it was obvious that was all he had. I told him to keep the change and I felt sad. I'd been complaining that I need a new car, sorry want, because there's nothing really wrong with mine, I just think it's below my status. Then I ask myself, what status is that sef? I see people hawking under the sun, crowds standing at bus stops with no hope of bus coming any time soon. And I'm here inside ac, still complaining.
    I'm not saying we shouldn't aspire to be better but if we are too insensitive to be grateful for what we have now, then how do we expect to be blessed with more. As my former boss used to say, you can't get a promotion by coming to the office and whining about your job all day, if you can do this small work then how do you expect the company to trust you with a bigger position?

  3. Exactly what I thought when I read your not where I ought to be post. You have no idea how blessed you are. People would kill for half of what you have. As for me I'm forever grateful to God.

  4. am i the only one that is seeing the toothpick in that pic?

    1. What's wrong with the toothpick? You don't use toothpicks abi? People just be forming unnecessary tinz. If it's Pdiddy now you will say it's swag. Yes Thelma be thankful no matter the situation. Things will keep getting better. Btw am I the only one watching the haves and have nots. Is season 2 out?

    2. this toothpick nu! oya Nwando, remove that toothpick from ur mouth now now. u dey fall hand sha

    3. Oh puleeaze. That's not a toothpick, it's the stylus for my android.
      ROTFL @ I dey fall hand. Ok Anon, I'll remove it, just because you made me laugh.

  5. When upon life’s billows you are tempest tossed,
    When you are discouraged, thinking all is lost,
    Count your many blessings name them one by one,
    And it will surprise you what the Lord hath done.
    Count your blessings, name them one by one;
    Count your blessings, see what God hath done;
    Count your blessings, name them one by one,
    And it will surprise you what the Lord hath done.

    Are you ever burdened with a load of care?
    Does the cross seem heavy you are called to bear?
    Count your many blessings, every doubt will fly,
    And you will be singing as the days go by.

    When you look at others with their lands and gold,
    Think that Christ has promised you His wealth untold.
    Count your many blessings, money cannot buy
    Your reward in heaven, nor your Lord on high.

    So amid the conflict, whether great or small,
    Do not be discouraged, God is over all;
    Count your many blessings, angels will attend,
    Help and comfort give you to your journey’s end.


  6. I needed this. Thanks T. (in Ruthy's voice)

    1. U people will crack my voice here oh. Or better still, finish it... Omalicha u too have joined... #NowSearching4U

  7. Ha! Thelma dear, coincidentally I've been feeling soo thankful n grateful to God today, dunno why. Been listening to 'imeela' (by nathaniel bassi and enitan adaba) all day, and I cnt get enough of it.

  8. Yes I thankGod. I also know of some of my peers still struggling to graduate from the university and many who still have no jobs. I thank God for what I have.

  9. Nice one, great lesson for all of us.

  10. As long as you have breath in you, you have every cause to be thankful.
    - Jay

  11. Am so thankful to God for every second that I breath.thelma shebi u av a car,eeeennnn am yet to own one but am hoping that b4 d year runs out God will elevate me.infact my slogan thru out dis year on my bb personal msg is '' a grateful heart,living testimony''. I will write my own story and send to u one of these days so u can edit and post.I was really careless in the past with my sexual life,I have been a living ghost since january dis year,was considering suicide until I had second chance encounter with God. Finally had the nerve to go for an Hiv test cuz I recently met some one from the past who is seriously considering marriage,and the result was ''Negative''. I could hardly believe it.Yes God drew me back to him the hard way,why should I nt be grateful for the gift of life.abeg my story is long,manage this one 4 nw.

    1. Thank God for your life o, I'm really happy for you

    2. Cuttie I thank God for you. I hope you share with us soon.

  12. Let me first come and comment on the picture before I read d write. look so pretty and natural thelma,I love me some T....

  13. "Grateful heart,living testimony".. I love that.
    Dear God this heart is always GRateful,this soul is Thankful!!..appreciation,modupe,onibu ore,baba gba ope mi..

  14. Really Great lessons... Loved all the comments...


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