Over the weekend Director and TV Host, Kemi Adetiba posted this online. I was outraged to say the least. I know I've written on this particular issue before and I've been in this situation a number of times, here in Lagos, in Abuja and Port Hacourt. In Abuja I've experienced this insubordination several times at JEVENIK RESTAURANT in Wuse 2 among a few other places. Sometime this year one of our blog readers, two of my friends and I went for drinks somewhere on the Island; Double Four to be precise. We were four decently dresses, financially independent, upward mobile women but for close to thirty minutes we were ignored. At first we were carried away by gist till I noticed that others who had all come in after we did had all been approached by waiters/waitresses to take their orders but not us, because we were all female. Of course I demanded to know why we hadn't been attended to and demanded an apology.
When a staff of Spice Lounge was questioned by thenet.ng this is what he had to say:
If men want to bring prostitutes, it’s fine but they don’t want any of them hanging around anyhow’, the staff who’d rather speak in anonymity told NET....
This is the stupidest reason ever given for anything to the best of my knowledge. But hey, that's just my opinion. Apparently most people think it's valid and that their action was justifiable. And guess what, these "most people" are apparently women! Haha.
When I first saw the post on Laila's blog I expected outrage from the girls/women; How dare they?! They should be shut down! Are they insane!!! Were the kinds of comments that I'd expected to see. But to my utter shock and disappointment I saw comments insulting Kemi Adetiba, cussing her out and calling her names, asking her who she thinks she is and making insulting references to her career. Asking her if she dressed like a prostitute on the said day and several other hilarity. And yes, these comments were made by us women.
I honestly could not make sense of it. How do we win the battle for gender equality when we ourselves see ourselves as subordinate and lesser beings?
As I pointed out on Laila's blog, as long as women are viewed as the lesser, weaker, lower, subordinate, less than important sex, stories of rang rape, stoning to death, forced marriages, child brides etc will continue to reign in our world. The one that bothers me the most is the sudden upsurge of gang rapes all over the world. The only reason men do this without fear of consequence or repercussion is because; oh the victims are just women. Who are they? Yes, so they rape, maim and murder women without impunity most times because the victims are WOMEN.
We need to begin to see the bigger picture.