I know some things in life are truly beautiful and often times we just must talk about these bursts of joy with other people, but it would do some others a whole world of good if you thought about it before yakking on. Miss Sunshine is very close to me, she gave me her phone to read a chat she had with someone and another chat to see an argument she'd had with her sister. And then I read her chat with a friend and my heart kind of broke.
Miss Sunshine is a very cheerful lovely person, thus her nickname but sometimes she can be thoughtless and that thoughtlessness was exhibited in her chat with this friend. The friend is in her late 30s and single. Miss Sunshine is married with 3 kids. The whole chat revolved around her family and last baby in particular. How baby is walking like a penguin, seeking for attention and pretending to have cough, laughing like tinker bell on and on. How hubby is doing well, just bought her this and that, family plans for summer vacation in Maimi, ladida... I wondered if she was too blind or insensitive to notice that her friend was replying with only monosyllabic words; lol. hmmmm. lol. And more lol. How do you tell a friend who's close to 40, husbandless and childless, especially one whom you know would give anything to have her own family, about all the joys and pleasures of marriage and motherhood that you're currently experiencing? To me that's the height of insensitivity.
It's just like when you're whining about your job or your boss or salary to your broke unemployed friend. I've been guilty of this and when I took the time to think about it I realized just how insensitive I'd been.
And yes, because I've been at the receiving end of this particular brand of insensitivity I just must talk about it. Skinny beeches who stand around very-not-skinny/fat beeches and whine about needing to lose weight or being too big. WTF??! You're a size 10 sitting beside a Size 18 and you keep whining about how big you are and how you need to go on a diet and hit the gym, how you need to lose weight because you're so FAT... That's so thoughtless and insensitive. I've been in that situation several times and there are times I feel the motive is to make me feel bad and rub it in my face, other times I know the person is plain insensitive, sometimes I wonder if the person is simply taking the piss. Most times however I know the person is just plain clueless and insensitive. Yes several of my friends do this, thoughtlessly and harmlessly but still, sometimes it rubs me the wrong way. Can you discuss your desperate need to lose weight when you're with your fellow size8-10 skinnys and not with someone who's practically twice your size?! If you're lamenting about needing to lose weight then where do you want me to begin?
So yes, before you speak spare a little thought for the person who's beside you, the person you're speaking to or the person on the receiving end. Share your issues with someone who can truly empathize with you and not with someone who's listening to you while praying to have even half of those same problems you're complaining of.
So yes, this is my rant. FEEL FREE TO RANT ABOUT WHATEVER!
BTW something I cannot explain is going on with me today. I've gbaguan'd terribly three times ;
No I didn't feeled it.
She had three childs before him.
Yesterday he comes here.
.....hmmm, I hope nobody is putting something in my coffee.