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Tonight Was The Biggest Anti-Climax In History!

*Forget 6 packs and 6 figures, the brain is what's sexiest in an individual.*

Hey guys! So I just got home. I'd decided not to talk about what I've been getting up to; dates, men, outings etc for some time but I just have to share this. Nothing serious except my night was a total anticlimax. You know how it is when you meet someone who you've kind of known or seen around for sometime and you've had fantasies and expectations,
... Well that's what happened with this 'man'. Long story short, after several weeks making both suggestive and awkward eye contact we actually got to talk, finally and today we went out for the first time. 

I should have seen the red flags when he asked if we could go clubbing. Clubbing. Two grown people. On a Thursday! But hey, I disregarded it. I said that was out of the question, it would be our first date and as such I thought we should go to somewhere we could talk. My mistake.

We went out and long story short, my people I've never met anyone who is as unaware as this guy. At some point I had to ask if he just crawled out from underneath a rock?! This is the first person I know who isn't aware of the Jay Z-Solange incidence. He doesn't know anything about anything in the celebrity world, doesn't read blogs, doesn't have any social network accounts, doesn't know that Ciara just had a baby, hasn't heard of Tiwa Savage's Wanted video, isn't sure what a blog is, doesn't know who's dating who, hasn't heard Beyonce's Drunk In Love and what not. But that's not really a problem, most men don't know these things. But he doesn't know anything about politics, knows nothing about the political parties in Nigeria, knows no current affairs, has no opinion on any matter, was just plain blank! Ok, you don't care about Nigerian politics, let's talk foreign news, that one too- no way! Oya Football nko? I don't watch football at all (I'm sure you've noticed by now) but most men do and I was hoping this one does. No o! He's not a fan of any club, just doesn't like or watch football at all. Just like someone who has been in jail for the last 15 years I tried to give him gist and tell him what's happening around him and at some point he said "It's amazing the things I just don't give a fuck about". Haaaa! Very amazing indeed. I wanted to ask PLEASE WHAT DO YOU GIVE A FUCK ABOUT? But at that point I was past caring. I just couldn't deal with that level of ignorance and complacency. 

He's a good looking guy, he's into properties and real estate but he is just .... I really dunno. It's one thing not to know, it's another thing not to even WANT to know. We couldn't talk about anything besides our personal lives because everything that's happening in the world or here in Lagos seem to elude him. We parted ways and when he said something about going out tomorrow night (club) I nodded distractedly. First off, it's almost safe to say my clubbing days are over, secondly I would really like to hang with someone that has an opinion on things besides if he should eat rice or garri for dinner. 

And the weird thing is that he's not exactly boring, it's just this complete lack of general knowledge and indifference that baffles me. I cannot put it all in words but this guy simply does not know or give a hoot about anything. When my attempts to talks about social media, celebrity news, current affairs, politics, Boko Haram, Nigerian government, (the extremely little I know about) football, marriages/relationships etc failed I decided to talk about religion in Nigeria. On this one too he had nothing to say. Hia! At least talk about TB Joshua or Chris Okotie and his divorces or the COZA pastor (Ehen, he didn't even know about the COZA scandal) or something that everyone talks about.... Mba kwa, no opinion still. 

I dunno if I'm overreacting but I would like to hear what you think? Let's assume I was thinking about dating this guy (which I'm not doing in the least), would you be with someone who is so unaware of what's going on around them, completely uninterested and has Zero opinion on anything?

BTW the picture above is exactly how I felt at some point. Pls forgive me for any typos or if it's all over the place. I just got home and I do need to get ready for work tomorrow and hit the sack. 


  1. He needs to be with someone with his same level of indifference otherwise there will be problems, his wife will one day see one man outside that loves to discuss goings-on and then they'll become friends. This is how most emotional cheating begins.

  2. Wait,u mean he aint never heard of Boko Haram??? Did u ask him if he's heard of Google?
    Its one thing to be intelligent and its another thing to be enlightened.
    Heard of a chick who ended it with a dude cos during a general hangout with friends,she realised the dude didn't know P-diddy,2-pac and She cldnt phantom how and why an adult male wldnt know them (neither can I)
    Well,if ur gonna go further with him,ur gonna have to make google his new bff..

    1. He has heard about Boko Haram, just doesn't care or have any opinion or anything to say about the sect.

  3. lol this made me laugh! I was reading quickly to see where you asked him what he cared about and even soccer too! I mean I'm not in the country but I am very current with what goes on. I find it funny how one can be absolutely be clueless is what happens around them..if he's so unaware about these things how come he's not boring ?
    I cannot be with someone with your date's mannerism.. na so so chop and knacks we go dey do ? hiann (I hope my attempt to write in pidgin was GREAT lol)

  4. Going further ke? For me, that will be suicide mission. Boring will be an understatement.

  5. lol this made me laugh! I was reading quickly to see where you asked him what he cared about and even soccer too! I mean I'm not in the country but I am very current with what goes on. I find it funny how one can be absolutely clueless on what happens around them..if he's so unaware about these things how come he's not boring ?
    I cannot be with someone with your date's mannerism.. na so so chop and knacks we go dey do ? hiann (I hope my attempt to write in pidgin was GREAT lol)

  6. I'm going to play the devil's advocate here.... What if all he thinks about is making money and can't be bothered to familiarise himself in things that doesn't add a kobo to his wallet! Maybe his upbringing made him that way?! Maybe he might not be for u but there is someone out there who doesn't give a hoot about if he knows solange and Jay z....maybe things have happened to him that makes him wanna just live in his own little world. Something has made him the way he is and I don't think there is much wrong with that. We all have our own form of escapism..... I'm guessing date number 2 isn't on the cards lool

    1. I would've agreed completely with you, but this guy sounds weird...scary in fact. He knows absolutely nothing?? Mehn...

      Even if he's into Real Estate and Properties he should know what affects his business and the economy in order to improve. EVERYBODY strives to improve in business and can only achieve that by being current. But this guy...I can't understand. That's quite dangerous. I think Thelma should be extremely careful. 2015 things are at hand. Who knows...

    2. Date number 2 ke? Only if it's to discuss that property he wants to dash me. Lol, on a serious note though I'll keep him as a friend for business purposes as I've been eyeing the property market, but nothing romantic or serious.

  7. Hian,d guy scares me 4 real.dats just weird!not even boko?bros wetyn U come know na

  8. ...And you are sure he's not a ghost?cos I find it so hard to believe

  9. Best believe it that there are people like this,I have a good friend lyk this, he is too phlegmatic,has no interest or knowledge abt anytin that doesn't better him. At first the friendship was a struggle but later I realized he is a genuinely good person.lool tho cos of the way he is we can talk lyk once in 3mths abt personal,career plans etc. His wife has to understand him wella if not she will tink he is indifferent to her.

  10. Awwwww, have U'all not noticed how he knows something about going to the CLUB?

    LOL... u people should leave me oh! Ghost keh. Am Sure this guy will be the last person on earth to have a HBP.
    His female equivalent are everywhere though.

    He should just leave our T alone...

  11. I happened to know an aide of an ex governor of a north central state who told me that the Governor knew nothing about the entertainment industry both home and abroad. He (the Governor) just could not be bothered and found entertainment a sheer waste of resources. I know countless guys who do not give this kind of business a hoot - Solange, JayZ, Chris Brown, PDiddy, Rihanna? They just don't live in the world of these kind of guys.

    However, concerning this your date, I do not believe he has zero opinion about happenings. The world is too much 'techy' and globalized for anyone to be opinion-less about issues. I'm guessing he just wanted no general conversation but wanted the conversation to go in the direction of 'you and him'/romance so as to quicken the achievement of whatever his aim is. I may be wrong however but I have not seen anyone, not even kids these days who has no opinion about socioeconomic/political happenings.

    1. Im with you on this, he might just be pretending at least to get to know you more
      haba , even kids know of BH and have an opinion on the sect.
      Just like someone asked earlier , if he's so unaware about these things how come he's not boring ? That's a million $$$$$ question. Secondly, pls Nwado, I take God beg you, Im with Abiola , please investigate that this is not a ghost first, I know Im a freak….

    2. He's not boring in that when he's talking about his life, childhood, family and personal experiences he's very animated and fun to listen to, but beyond that he has little or no further interests.

  12. Is his name Kola? Sounds like smone i knw

  13. Hmmmm my husband always says dat a man dat neither likes sex, nor soccer, nor alchohol is a bad person. Abeg watch dat guy well

  14. Ahdonbelevit!!! #bbm surpsrise# even my papa for village know every. Thanks to "googuru" (google)

  15. Reminds me of a footballer I once dated


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He was my coursemate, crush, then my boyfriend.... he was super
intelligent, smart, tall, dark and handsome. Believe me he got
swag, but he didn't seem to notice me. (I'm a nerd but a sassy one
if I say so myself).  So oneday I decided to take it to another level..
After listening to a song "IF YOU LOVE SOMEBODY TELL THEM THAT YOU
LOVE THEM and watching the season film of The Secret Life of
American Teenagers. ..when Amy Jeugerns mum told her "you are only
young once". LOL that part got me.
Hope you know what i mean?

Though I'm okay with chemistry class I approached him to coach me for
the Quiz that was coming up, we found out that we had this
great chemistry between us.. hehehe both the covalent and
electrovalent bonds....

So one thing led to another till one unusual Saturday. I invited
him to my house and he came. The guy got swag, he even came
with a packet of durex condom.
We talked for a while and and and and and and
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