Hey guys! So I just got home. I'd decided not to talk about what I've been getting up to; dates, men, outings etc for some time but I just have to share this. Nothing serious except my night was a total anticlimax. You know how it is when you meet someone who you've kind of known or seen around for sometime and you've had fantasies and expectations,
... Well that's what happened with this 'man'. Long story short, after several weeks making both suggestive and awkward eye contact we actually got to talk, finally and today we went out for the first time.
I should have seen the red flags when he asked if we could go clubbing. Clubbing. Two grown people. On a Thursday! But hey, I disregarded it. I said that was out of the question, it would be our first date and as such I thought we should go to somewhere we could talk. My mistake.
We went out and long story short, my people I've never met anyone who is as unaware as this guy. At some point I had to ask if he just crawled out from underneath a rock?! This is the first person I know who isn't aware of the Jay Z-Solange incidence. He doesn't know anything about anything in the celebrity world, doesn't read blogs, doesn't have any social network accounts, doesn't know that Ciara just had a baby, hasn't heard of Tiwa Savage's Wanted video, isn't sure what a blog is, doesn't know who's dating who, hasn't heard Beyonce's Drunk In Love and what not. But that's not really a problem, most men don't know these things. But he doesn't know anything about politics, knows nothing about the political parties in Nigeria, knows no current affairs, has no opinion on any matter, was just plain blank! Ok, you don't care about Nigerian politics, let's talk foreign news, that one too- no way! Oya Football nko? I don't watch football at all (I'm sure you've noticed by now) but most men do and I was hoping this one does. No o! He's not a fan of any club, just doesn't like or watch football at all. Just like someone who has been in jail for the last 15 years I tried to give him gist and tell him what's happening around him and at some point he said "It's amazing the things I just don't give a fuck about". Haaaa! Very amazing indeed. I wanted to ask PLEASE WHAT DO YOU GIVE A FUCK ABOUT? But at that point I was past caring. I just couldn't deal with that level of ignorance and complacency.
He's a good looking guy, he's into properties and real estate but he is just .... I really dunno. It's one thing not to know, it's another thing not to even WANT to know. We couldn't talk about anything besides our personal lives because everything that's happening in the world or here in Lagos seem to elude him. We parted ways and when he said something about going out tomorrow night (club) I nodded distractedly. First off, it's almost safe to say my clubbing days are over, secondly I would really like to hang with someone that has an opinion on things besides if he should eat rice or garri for dinner.
And the weird thing is that he's not exactly boring, it's just this complete lack of general knowledge and indifference that baffles me. I cannot put it all in words but this guy simply does not know or give a hoot about anything. When my attempts to talks about social media, celebrity news, current affairs, politics, Boko Haram, Nigerian government, (the extremely little I know about) football, marriages/relationships etc failed I decided to talk about religion in Nigeria. On this one too he had nothing to say. Hia! At least talk about TB Joshua or Chris Okotie and his divorces or the COZA pastor (Ehen, he didn't even know about the COZA scandal) or something that everyone talks about.... Mba kwa, no opinion still.
I dunno if I'm overreacting but I would like to hear what you think? Let's assume I was thinking about dating this guy (which I'm not doing in the least), would you be with someone who is so unaware of what's going on around them, completely uninterested and has Zero opinion on anything?
BTW the picture above is exactly how I felt at some point. Pls forgive me for any typos or if it's all over the place. I just got home and I do need to get ready for work tomorrow and hit the sack.