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What Love Is (TTRWT) - By Osieme Joy

“Hi, he said” How are you?

“Am fine thank you, I replied”.

“You married now? He asked

“Not yet", I said.

"Anyone in the picture?" He asked yet again and I wondered and so another begins.

After a whole lot of chatting, midnight calls and all the feeling of being so much in love,
he said “I love you babes and I want to marry you! 

Me being me replied “marry who? Abeg park well, if na play stop am cos i ain’t in the mood”
Him being him persisted and as a woman I succumbed.
Fast forward 3months later.

“baby, can you pick a date to come see my folks? I told them about you” he asked

“hmmmmm, two weeks time ok?

“Yes, let me make the arrangements, he replied

And so I began the journey feeling so in love that “yes, I have found the one”, was received with joy from both parents and siblings with love in the air. Told my mum all about the trip and she was so happy praying for me but also with caution.
And so he started having a problem at his work place then we started praying together for a better one and it indeed came with a lot of benefits but he had to be on probation.

“hi, girlie you know my former place of work, right? He asked

“Yes, I said”

“I have to pay them one month in lieu salary before I can leave the company, and it’s becoming very tough for me” he said feeling so sad.

“hmmmm” I said

“How much is it? Let me see what I can raise. (did not have a problem with assisting thinking after all it is within the family)

“So babe when will you come see my mum? I asked (Mums are always the first to know)

“ok, ehmm I will come next weekend, he replied”

And he did, my Mum God bless her actually cooked for him to welcome him into the family
Phew, she loved him and his simplicity. The initial family getting to know one another began and things are looking up making plans for the future, getting a bigger apartment having my very own kitchen to furnish as I like with my bedroom. It seem too good to be true.

Then the calls started reducing.

“my love, what is going on with you, hope all is well? I asked

“You know how it is with work, trying my best to be able to give you all you desire, and struggling can you please send some money to me?" He asked and again I gave to support his ministry or our ministry.

After a period of silence of 3 to 4 months, I had a wedding to attend which will make me go through the state where he lives (long distance relationships sha). Don’t know why my heart kept on insisting that I go to the house without informing him.

After the wedding I went there and this is how it played out, that is after crossing seven seas and seven forests just to get home to my boo.

“knock, knock” the outer lights went out,

“Who is it? He asked,

“It’s me” I replied,


“Haba!, its Peace or don’t you know my voice again ( after all you gave up on picking my calls)
He comes to the protector sees me and stands shock still.

“Why didn’t you tell me you are in town?" He asked,

“If I had called you would you have picked your call? I asked,

“Please just open the door let me come in and rest am too tired, I said and the funniest thing happened. He went back into the house leaving the door ajar, I waited and waited, knocked and knocked called out with the loudest voice, for where no answer.

“chai, my God is this the reason you asked to come here, to be embarrassed like a homeless person? I asked

I ran to the gate as soon as I heard a car reversing hoping to hitch a ride to the nearest bus stop to get a taxi to take me to our family house but with no luck.
I went back in and started begging, crying pleading, 

“just let me spend the night out of the cold then I will be out of your hair I promise”.

The main gate opened and his neighbour drove in, and in an instant he was out of his apartment asking why am crying, disturbing his neighbour, that I should come inside the house let us talk

“Fred, you saw me outside your house and you locked me out, me Fred" i cried with all the bitterness in my heart. While we were outside i just picked up my hand bag and went into my room to rest and not look at his face again.

The door opens and I see a girl on MY bed with MY blanket.

“WHO ARE YOU AND WHAT ARE YOU DOING ON MY BED? I asked by then I had locked the door.

“emmm, no ma, am a friend of his friend who told me to stay here first because he had an emergency that’s why am here, I will be leaving first thing in the morning” she replied I saw my heart shattering to pieces right before me leaving me speechless.

Meanwhile Ultimate warrior was trying to break the door down to enter the room, thank God for steel doors, he could not.

“Ok, I said, but you heard me crying out there why did you not come out to open the door? I asked,

“I tried but he warned me not to interfere, she replied.

“I see, I said, no wahala sleep well”

I opened the door for Mr Macho asking him is that the reason you did not want me in your house?

“He said, I knew you will not understand but let us go into the room and talk”

I screamed at him and the next thing I saw was stars’ clouding my eyes with me landing on the bed cowering like a frightened dog.

“OMG, is this what I have turned to, I thought.

Still pinned down, he said, “now listen you remember that my married friend, well this is his girlfriend and he is having some family crises so he asked her to stay here that’s why I left you outside because I was calling him and he wasn’t picking up”

I nodded my head like a lizard because the fear of another slap is the beginning of wisdom; at that point all I could do was nod my head to any and everything he says. He finally released me and talked on and on and on.

The next morning saw him taking the girl (sitting in front as the madam) to the park after she ironed her cloths like a woman who knows her way around her man’s house, telling me how sorry she was about the event of the previous day that she is going home and that there is beans left over from the day before that she made for the guys.

To cut the long story short I dusted my feet while leaving his house with a promise to myself never to return, after 2 weeks I got a text “baby good morning, my car is in the mechanics and I need some money its urgent am in the spare part market”

“Chai you don see maga, even maga pay sef dey finish. Now how do i respond to such?
Ps, I love love, this will not deter me from opening my heart, so now am free as a bird still wishing, praying and hoping that there is still love out there somewhere.

SMH. All I can say is "it is well", or at least it will be. 

I'll wind up TTRWT posts next weekend or thereabouts but you're still free to send it posts/articles/stories etc afterwards.


  1. Some guys have just taken all single ladies for fools, they think all single ladies are desperate and will do anything to be called 'MRS SOMEBODY" na wa ooooo. "who get iyeh may e yeh"

    1. It is well Joy... just like ur name implies, God will bring ur OWN joy in due time without pain & tears!!!
      Keep trusting on Jehovah!

      Whenever I read all the TTRWT stories, I close my eyes to the errors & embrace the message/lessons! I love my blog family Jare! A bundle of STRONG women.

      I am a learner in being the giver in a relationship. U have tried Joy. Keep ur heart open for love, cos yes, it will Come!

    2. Thanks Ruthie! Joy

  2. Lol..some guys are just to funny.after what he put u through.I love ur blog Thelma keep on the good work

  3. Some guys have mind sha, sometimes I wonder if they were given birth to by women or if they have sisters. Ladies if your man doesn't worship the ground you walk on and prevents you from spending your own money on anything especially not on him except in situations where u just want to surprise him with a gift or something else, think twice before u swallow hook, line and sinker.

  4. Someday soon u ll meet someone that ll make you forget all the pain, jus ve faith

  5. Joy pls let me reply his msg on your behalf! Plsss na

    1. Lol, alright please do. Joy

  6. Wow...hmm...r/ships do come with some unbelieveable dramas sha.
    One Q I have is:Who raises Sons like this? Hmm

    1. I don't think it's his parents, just him. Joy

  7. Glad you made the decision to leave that house and never go back. You will find joy soon, I promise.


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