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6 People Born Out Of Twisted Situations Spill. (Plus; Blog Reader Asks)

This is quite sensitive so if you've got delicate sensibilities you might want to skip this post. These are stories of people born out of incest, rape or both. 




My friend and I read this article together and for some reason he asked me to ask you guys:
If a few weeks to your wedding you find out that your spouse-to-be is a product of (brother-sister) incest will you still go ahead with the marriage?


6 People Spill. 
1. Incest. Okay, so my real parents are my mom and her twin brother.
      No, I’m not Joffrey. (Game of Thrones)
      I found out when I was 15. It was night time and I came down a staircase to get a glass of water. My mom was laying on the sofa, she had been drinking earlier. She doesn’t usually get drunk, she likes to drink wine, but never really enough to get drunk, but this time she was really drunk. I passed her on the way to the kitchen and she just spoke up and said that she was glad I wasn’t her husband’s child. I asked her wtf was she talking about when she told me that her brother was the father of me and my siblings. She stated it was the reason why we were so perfect.
      I haven’t confronted my mom or her brother about it. My mom either pretends she never told me, or she was too drunk to remember.
     I’m 100% sure it was consensual incest, not rape. My mom talks to her brother a lot, and she always visits him. My dad is always away, so sometimes my mom will bring us to her brother’s house and we’ll sleep over. Me and my siblings even have our own rooms at his house.


2.I am the product of rape incest. My father/grandfather raped and impregnated my mom when she was 13. We came from an extremely religious family at the time, so abortion was never an option. From my understanding of things, this had been going on between him and my mother for a lot of years. He went to jail, where he is still is. I have thought about going to see him a lot over the years, just out of morbid curiousity, but I have never done it.
      There was never really any secret about it. My mom and her mother raised me. They scaled the information about the situation to age appropriate levels, but they never hid anything. It was weird, and I got some counseling about it when I hit my teen years, but to be honest, I feel like it never really strongly affected me.


3. I am the product of a rape.
My mother told me when I was five, but thankfully used language that wasn’t violent or distressing. She told me she loved me very much but that this was the reason I “didn’t have a daddy like the other kids”. She was 18, drugged at a party and ushered into a private room by several other girls when she started to feel weird. She passed out on the bed fully clothed. She had been invited to the party by a guy she knew. She awoke to that man raping her. She blacked out again and woke up the next morning naked and badly bruised. This was in the 80s. She reported the incident to the police, including the man’s name and where he lived with his family (he was 16 or 17). Nothing happened.
      I’m glad my mother told me so early. We have our own issues and are now estranged, but I’ve always been thankful that she explained it to me in a clear and gentle way.
      I have self worth issues that I sometimes think could be connected to being the child of a rape. I’ve never hidden this fact from people who ask, and sometimes volunteer it to those that make disparaging comments about ‘rape babies’.

Awful people in my past have used the circumstances of my existence as a way to hurt and belittle me. The most common response I receive when I share my birth story is “I’m so sorry”.


4. Product of rape. Basically, my birth mother was in the army, was home and at a party. Some guy she met followed her home and raped her. She was back overseas when she found out she was pregnant with me; she was 21 and not really able to have a kid so she made the decision that I’ll always be grateful for.

It honestly hasn’t affected me that negatively. Yeah it sucks to think about – I wasn’t necessarily “made” out of love & pretty much all my physical features come from my biological father (just based on the description my biological mother gave in the paper work about the rape). I hope to some day meet my biological mother, but know that I probably won’t meet my father (nor would I want to) just because of the fact that he was some random dude that followed her home. It’s also heavily influenced my opinions on abortion.


5. I was the product of incest. My mother came from a very backwards community that was very messed up with drugs, and well… incest. My dad is my mother's uncle.

My mom went to America with my dad and their family to see New York and left me there. They dropped me off at an orphanage and didn’t fill out papers. They just left me there.
The only thing they gave the orphanage was my name, which was written on a piece of paper, and my weight in grams. They wanted to give me an American name, so they named me after a state in the united states. My name is Vermont.


6. Product of rape. When I was about 14 or 15, I found out my birth mother had been raped repeatedly by her stepfather. One of those times had resulted in me. I have always known I was adopted, but I had been told that my birth father was my birth mother’s boyfriend. It was when my anger issues towards him became too much that my mother told me the truth. I still have some anger issues about it, but they are directed at the correct person now.



Source: Ask Reddit. 
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I find it hard to believe that some people were created by God just like the rest of us relatively normal people. 
BTW I laughed @ "No I'm not Joeffrey". LOL. At least now we know those things don't only happen in Game of Thrones and people like Sersei and The King-Slayer walk among us. 



Comments

  1. I wont proceed with the marriage, it may affect our children genetically. Ihe na eme na uwa nke a.

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  2. LOL. Thelma I love how you love taboo topics. There's a dark side to you.

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  3. There's nothing wrong marrying such a person

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  4. I wouldn't proceed with the marriage immediately. I need to take in the info. And if it be that my fiance too has just known, then I would most likely marry him after he's dealt with the thoughts/issues the news would bring him.
    Also, it would be easier for me, if the father; his mum's brother were either out of their lives or dead.

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  5. I could definitely marry the Victim of a rape but not that of incent....
    No medical or scientific reason oh.

    Just for my peace of mind...

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  6. How would being the product of rape or incest change the fact that you both love each other so deeply to contemplate marriage? If God used that means to create this person (in His own image) that you love so much, who then are you to question it?
    Questions aside, it wont be an impediment for me.However,it will be much more comforting if the incestuous parents arent alive. I know there might be a battle and pressure from the family,especially if they believe that it could be hereditary.

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  7. It doesn't really matter as long as I love him, who cares about how he got to this world? God creates, nd everything He created is Good...

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  8. No, I won't proceed with the marriage if the person involved is a result of incest.
    This is my reason:
    Deuteronomy 23:3-6 And,read this link: http://www.becominglikechristjesus.com/2013/06/breaking-generational-curses.html#.U9q5D_ldVNo

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