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An Anal-ogy Of Anal...

"This is just an innocent question please but I kinda need answers, isn't anal sex unhealthy and painful? It seems so many people are warming up to the idea, I'm just wondering though... anyone kind enough to provide answers?
Thelma can you please make it a blog post or is it too " raunchy" (for lack of a better word) to talk about?

So let's talk about it. I'll tell you what I know. 

What I know is not based on personal experiences but on what I've read and heard. Just after I got this request I saw an  article  on why women should be having anal sex. The writer listed a number of reasons:
Birth controlled sex
Kinky wide side
It builds trust between partners
You feel powerful
Intense orgasms.(I'll put up her explanation on this one): This is my favorite reason. Orgasms are god’s gift to women for being so loving. Sadly, 66% of women are FAKING IT. Statistically only 34% of women experience an actual orgasm. Why? Do you not enjoy sex? Ladies, the first step to a real orgasm is to actually enjoy sex and embrace the crazy dirty hot nasty side of it. Yes, you both get sweaty and slick, your hair that you spent hours on gets all tumbled and he’s kissed off most of your make up. Relax…he thinks that you’re pretty damn hot especially when you’re bent over offering that forbidden fruit. Luckily, anal sex, like doggy style, allows the shaft to hit a woman’s g-spot at different angle (side note: men, the g-spot is not hidden…she’s either uncomfortable to the with orgasm about to explode or you’re just not very good). Ever rub the palm of your hand? Feels pretty good and kind of ticklish. Now rub the back of your hand. The sensitivity is higher and it feels even more tingly! That back-of-hand caressing is kind of how the g-spot’s being stroked in anal sex. The tingling pressure builds and then it’s an earth shattering, soul-searing, ear-poppin’, sky-soaring orgasm. Not that you can’t get that same feeling from vaginal sex too, it’s just more tingly and intense. In Short…Fireworks.

(Her Conclusion) I am not a self-depreciating, submissive mouse of a woman. I am a successful corporate working business woman with a sharp fashion sense and heels as high as my standards and my sex drive. I LOVE anal sex. Of course it took some time, practice, and 2 really hot men to get me to love it, but now I can’t imagine a sexy romp in bed without a little anal action. Don’t get me wrong…if you absolutely hate it, then don’t do it. But I think that all women should try it at least once. Do it because you choose it as an act that makes you feel like a woman who is desired and powerful in her sexuality. Not as a woman who is degraded and wants to be brought low. 

I also found this one a Nigerian blog last year. Wives Round Table (if I remember correctly)

So maybe the above are the reasons "more people are warming up to it". However they both did not address the health effects. I guess the 'explosive pleasure' makes every other thing secondary. You can check here  for those. 

Is anyone here having anal sex? What can you tell us about it? Do you agree with what the both ladies above said?

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  1. T like too scared to allow anybody put an injection in me talkless of allowing le boo put his thang in me...blood of I can't oh....that naughty house wife

  2. I tried it and HATED IT..... Brings about no pleasure what's so ever only to please my bf at the time. GOD forbid

  3. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm,

    *thats all my comment for now*

  4. Its something for couples who are confident sexually and comfortable with each other sexually. Obviously it needs to be discussed first. And it should be accepted that not all parties will like it. But at some point missionary and doggystyle may just not offer that frisson that every sexual interaction should generate.There's no harm in experimenting. I didn't find it mindblowing but but it was worth the try.

    1. LOL, hmmm Cyclone I see you!

  5. Nba. I'm not that adventurous.

    1. In bed or on paper? I rather suspect you're a lot more adventurous than you give yourself credit for. But some things are rightly outside of our individual comfort zones. Though am sure you have an imagination to rival Salvador Dali's.

  6. Tried it, hated it. The tot still makes me shudder t'was painful as hell

  7. Damn!! That hole should be exit only!!!

    1. Lol! You Got me laffing Eazee. Well Anal is not meant for the faiint hearted. Yours truely got her bekee then talking, so I asked if he had tried it and I got a yes! Jealousy came in so I wanted to prove a point aswell, we got lubricated and I started shivering, next was tears(iyanmi), bekee noticed it before penetration and apologised not to try it ever. Mbok that was how the cookie crumbled(chai I fall my hand sha)

  8. My openness has limits; never tied it, never will.

    If you try it or enjoy it as a single person, you are toast if you cannot find a husband/wife that matches you at that level. Me thinks people should factor this into their dating/searching for husband/wife if they plan on getting married someday.

    1. Meant to write "never tried it, never will".

  9. this is something I will want to try ( and also have an orgasm)with a partner in the future (hopefully he has done it before).. I don't want a learner like myself lol.

  10. My Boo mistakenly stuck his thang in the anal zone by mistake, I cried all night long, and dat was the end of the whole fantasy. I hate hate it. Don't ever wanna go there, besides it's not healthy, all the bacteria is re-transferred to the vee jay jay. Mbanu, I see UTD (uninary tract disease) spreading faster.

  11. No! No! No! And No! Call me a prude but I strictly maintain that everybody part should stick to its originally designed function. I'v always known it just wasn't and most likely would never be my thing and reading the risks contained in dat link was all the reminder I needed to never love any man 'that much', that i'd do it for him.

  12. Never tried it. Though it's on my bucket list.

  13. Thelma thanks so much for putting this up, I saw a comment on the fetishes post about the lady not reaching orgasm unless it's anal sex so I wondered, thanks also for the link, just like buby said im not sure I can love a man that much o.

  14. Hmmm...I wish there were gay guys up in this blog. Wld wanna know why they prefer a guys butt hole to that of a woman's (even if she's a tomboy).

    1. Sasha, you took the words outta my mouth. In the words of a friend of mine when asked to make an input on this matter(in very strong Owerri dialect), "So ,I go see this very correct thing wey Baba God create put for woman body, na shit hole i go put my own for inside? Tufiakwa!!"

  15. How can I wake up and decide that what is meant for vee jay jay is now meant for anus eh? Chineke melu umugi ebele o.

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  17. The anus has a set of sphincter muscles which control the passage of faeces. Consistently poking things into an orifice that is meant to be exit only will in time weaken this muscle. When this happens, your guess is as good as mine. i have heard of people resorting to butt-plugs to stop the leaking.
    By the way,I'm no doctor and I could be wrong. This thing tire me sha!

  18. Hiaaaaaaaa o. Like Wale said , Singles should think of their future relationships especially when deciding on sexual adventures. You might not be lucky enough to find someone with the same adventurous spirit. Anus ke, doing it normally sef can be painful if the guy is large. Dnt wanna imagine it biko. Tufiakwa

  19. Me thinks anal sex is indirectly related to homosexuality, so when a guy asks for that, be very worried

  20. Me thinks anal sex is indirectly related to homosexuality, so when a guy asks for that, be very worried

  21. I stand to be corrected but I've always had this belief that any man who can do anal with a woman, might do same with man.


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