It seems everybody has got dirty laundry. Last night I heard a really tricky one on the Love Lounge. A lady sent in a mail, she's married with kids, she and hubby both work but it's hubby that pays the house rent. And unknown to hubby the house belongs to her.
As I tried to process this several thoughts raced through my head. Thoughts like how did it happen that the house you and hubby rented happened to be yours, why did you never say anything or was it your plan from the onset, how would you now open your mouth after all these years and say "Errr, hunny... I'm your landlord and all the rent you've been paying has been entering my pocket" ?
In my mind it was a bit confusing and amusing till I took a closer look at Dr Lanre Olusola and Mr Soriyan and from the expression on their faces I knew that this was no minor issue. Just by looking at him, I could see that Dr Lanre put himself in the husband's shoes and struggled with so many emotions; hurt, pain, disappointment, humiliation, anger and betrayal. And then he kept mumbling that the woman needs redemption. She needs redemption.... And then a thought occurred to him; if the husband is not very bouyant and has had to struggle or borrow to pay the rent.... ah! This is not a small issue o! When he finally got over the initial shock he advised that the woman find ways to redeem herself. She must come before him and say "yes, it's my house and I've been collecting rent from you, but this and this is what I've used the rent to do", basically the woman must have been investing all the rent and must have evidence that she has saved or invested all the rent for the family, she should say "here, these are the documents for the (shares) I bought, I invested the money for us".
The show ended there, in fact this wasn't part of the show as during this time the credits were already rolling and the voices had become whispers, I had to go closer to the TV to see and hear everything.
It finally ended where he said the woman should have evidence that she invested the money for the family. So I was wondered, failing that, how does such a woman proceed? What do you think should happen in this kind of circumstance? Is there any justification or rationality behind a wife secretly owning the house her family lives in and collecting the rent and putting it into her own pocket?
Do I have any dirty laundry to share?....
When your life is as boring as mine you practically have none, the only thing that comes to mind is when I was in a serious relationship with some guy some years back and he said he was ready to settle down. He took me home to meet his siblings (he's the last child) and one of his much older cousins was there. I'd also dated his cousin too and well, it was a messy situation, because I was still sort of involved with this his older cousin. I was confused and didn't know if I should just come clean. Some friends said come clean, most others said Don't! He was tall (6.4"), dark, handsome, successful and born into wealth and I remember a friend asking where I intended to find another guy like that. I was scared because I knew his cousin whom I'd dated will blab about us but my friends (the ones that were aware of this) said "Nwando it's your word against he's. if he should talk DENY IT!". I desperately wanted to come clean but ended up not talking, not because I wanted to deceive him but because he's a very conservative person and I didn't know how he would take the fact that I dated that particular man, and had not completely disengaged myself from him although we were now dating. Eventually the relationship ended for other reasons so I never had to talk, thankfully!
That's the only dirty laundry I think I've ever had. What's your dirty laundry?