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He Smiled At Me - By Obam Afah

Lusted at everything physical
With open mouthed toothed grin
I watched him ogle the rise in my bosom
And as I excused myself
The sway of my hips
He smiled at me…
Ignoring my most important facts
His primitive inhibitions taking hold
His squinted eyes betraying composure
He smiled at me…
Disrespecting the very essence of me
Longing for a night of animalistic passion
To ride and forget me
He smiled at me…
I look him straight in the eyes
In no words my disgust was depicted
I felt sick to my belly
He smiled at me…
The nerve of that bastard

This poem was written and sent in by blog reader Obam Afah. She sent in a few pieces but I'm at a place in life where I can really relate to this; being objectified. 

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  1. Some people look at women as only sex objects...cant deal....hmphh....that naughty wife

  2. "Disrespecting the very essence of me". Hmmm. You're so right, they do not look beyond the boobs and ass. Rme.

  3. Me sef I sabi warn them, I don't waste time in letting them fools know that I know what they are thinking, that always end the friendship or whatever, I don't hang around to see if he would have made a good friend or not, just so disgusting.

  4. Women will always been seen as sex objects. Don't you wonder why in churches they reprimand women for wearing short sleeves or gowns that are above knee length? So as not to tempt men. Why don't they teach men not to look?

    1. Haba! Teach men not to look, train the eyes not to see or the ear not to hear? That would be contrary to why the eyes were given in the first place.
      Temptation is different and you have to look at the men that fell in the Bible to understand why the churches want women to dress appropriately. Do not cause a brother to sin..we are not all at the same level of spiritual maturity to deal with that cleavage.

      I think women, these days, actually present themselves as sex objects! And they also enjoy the power it gives them! Just my 1kobo opinion..but then, what do I know.

  5. I prefer stories to poems...

    1. Yeah well, some poems are stories too. Like this one.

    2. I usually prefer stories but this poem is deep, very practicable.

  6. LoL... my dear!!!
    Reason why I always wear bubu on my 1st few dates!!!
    See nothing, say nothing! I cover everywhere!

    1. Nd ur later dates ll be themed: see something, say something.....LMao,.,.,.cos u ll nao b free to open up

  7. it's so annoying being with a guy and he is so obviously checking you out,undressing you with his eyes.Mega annoying sef, smh.

    1. Hmmm, some men can have sex with you just by looking at you. God forbid.

  8. Men react to what they see; that's why u ladies wear make-up and dress mmmmmm...
    Women react to what they hear; that's why guys tell you sweet things(pronounced L I E S)....
    .............runs away to pluto........

  9. The worst part? Once you are beautiful (even in the least sense of the word), you are automatically seen as dumb and only good for sex. But if you prove intelligent, men are surprised to realize you are; some are fascinated, a lot are intimidated and tag you as arrogant, not-submissive etc.

    1. aaaah F, you're in my head, the thing tire me. They act all shocked when they realize that "beautiful woman" is brainy and get intimidated RME.


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intelligent, smart, tall, dark and handsome. Believe me he got
swag, but he didn't seem to notice me. (I'm a nerd but a sassy one
if I say so myself).  So oneday I decided to take it to another level..
After listening to a song "IF YOU LOVE SOMEBODY TELL THEM THAT YOU
LOVE THEM and watching the season film of The Secret Life of
American Teenagers. ..when Amy Jeugerns mum told her "you are only
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great chemistry between us.. hehehe both the covalent and
electrovalent bonds....

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