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I'm The Only Girl In The World

Yes I am. 

At least that's how I feel. I'm the only female in this place guys. I'm the only female on my team. I'm the only female on site. I'm the only female lodged in the hotel. I'm the only female I see. 

It's a bit unnerving. The men see me and they're shocked. As in, the kind of shock you experience when you see a hen playing with dogs. Sometimes I feel vulnerable. Sometimes I feel naked. Most times I feel like an alien. 

I'm caught between being a girly girl or being one of the guys, I wonder which will pay more?. My female friends say I should be one of the guys, I should blend in and hang out with them, have drinks with them etc.. My male friends advise that I play the girly girl part, I should flirt and be all demure. 

So far I've just been me; drawing lines and creating boundaries. Let's be polite and professional and let's leave it at that. Yet I'm being friendly still, because I need friends here, this is no place for a woman. I need to have one or two people who I know have my back and are looking out for me; here isn't very female friendly. 

Well I'm exhausted but I thought to drop in and say good morning. There's no network service at all at the site and I'm likely to be there all day, that means I may be off the blog all day. 

Do have a blessed day ahead. 

PS: it's barely been a few days and I've changed already. Last night dinner was stale bread dipped in milo. From age 3 I've always found that idea of dipping bread inside beverage and eating it soggy rather disgusting, but last night nothing tasted better. Also there's no hot water but that hasn't stopped me from taking my bath, has it?


  1. Don't let the condition of the crayfish bend u biko...
    And whatever happens there,just be on the alert and careful and play whatever card u need when necessary...

  2. Hmmmm, biko this is an emergency! Am dialling 911..... Oops, number incorrect.
    Oya Endure small T. Sending loads of hugs ur way!

    Seriously though, Just be in the middle, a lil girly girl. A lil manly girl. But size the fish very well & throw ur net for a big one! I'll love to hear some emotional not just financial good comes outta this hon.
    Be good/safe.

  3. Oops I was about to ask how u were finding ur stay and u already md a blog post of it, pele dear will b over bfor u know it u might end up enjoying ur stay, this things hv ways of turning out well. Stay safe E-hugs

  4. Ah! Take it easy o.. Aren't there places u can buy stuff around? Even if it's a mallams all be cAreful Biko..and don't get too friendly with the guys.. Be nice but still know when to call it a day.

  5. My vote is for drawing lines and creating boundaries plus good to be polite and professional. It is a winning strategy anyday.

  6. I think u're on the right track; be nice, be professional, be friendly but still maintain a distance. that way u don't come off as a snob but u don't come off as over-familiar either. Sending good vibes n E-hugs ur way luv. It will be well.

  7. Lol @milo and bread.just be yourself and do what you think is right,create time to have fun and rock abuja.much love sweets.

  8. I'm confused T(not that I needto be though), but are u in Abuja or in Edo state? Travelling is now too much. Pele. Meanwhile if u're in Edo(or benin. To be. Precise) plz try and pay Homage to Our King Omo n'oba NEdo for Blessings....

  9. Pele dear T..keep being yourself dearie and enjoy all the same. *kisses

  10. Pele dear T..keep being yourself dearie and enjoy all the same. *kisses

  11. Yes, just be you., and secure the trust of 2 people as backups. If you act girly girly, some can get the wrong message. If you act like a macho, some might think you are trying too hard. So, simply be YOU!
    Kpele o.


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Just checking in to sign the register. Lol. It's been a very busy week and it looks like it might be an even busier weekend. I was hoping to get some writing done when I got to the airport yesterday but I even almost missed my flight. It was hopeless trying to do any work on the plane as it was bumpy af, and this toddler behind me wouldn't stop screaming in piercing shrieks like he was being exorcised. 
I got into town pretty late and needed to keep an appointment ASAP. I'm heading out right now and it's going to be a long day, but thought I should drop this first. 
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After listening to a song "IF YOU LOVE SOMEBODY TELL THEM THAT YOU
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