On Saturday my friend and I mused over some ironies, we wondered why some people have had everything in life easy. Go to high school, make good grades, come out and within a year get into the university, four years later they're done, with good grades, and then within a year they're doing their NYSC program, the week after service they get a great job, two months later boyfriend proposes, three months later; lavish wedding and then the next time you see them they're coming out of their nice car but before you can say 'wow' you notice the baby bump and scream an even bigger 'WOW!'
While for some others, at every step of the way they have to struggle. Struggle to get into school, struggle to graduate from school, struggle to get Call-Up letters, struggle for years to get a job, get a job and the pay is peanuts, all the while waiting for a boo who is not in any way, form or shape prepared to propose... Struggle every step of the way.
We sat in the car and we mulled over it and then I told her about someone I met back then in Enugu who once said to me "I don't know why other girls will go for 'runs' and in the morning the man will give them 50k, 100k. But when it's my turn they will give me tin of milo or milk, or nasco corn flakes. If they want to give me money it will be 2k or 5k". My friend and I had a good laugh but then we sobered up and asked why someone goes somewhere and gets so much favour but other people go to that same place and return empty-handed? I said to my friend that people have different "oil" on their heads, some people's oil is stronger than others. (Please don't ask me to explain this, I'm not very sure I can). She agreed and seemed to have just received some form of illumination.
I mean we've all had that one friend that never has to work for anything, people meet them and immediately want to help them. Everywhere they go they meet open doors and smiling faces. They get tons of freebies and unexpected cash and gifts. They're not necessarily the nicest of people, they're not the finest or smartest either, they're just inexplicably lucky.
When I was in QC there were some people who were Perfect 10s physically, they made straight As, had wealthy parents, vacationed abroad every holiday and belonged to the perfect social circles. It was when looking at these people back then as a teenager that I wondered; is God partial?
And I'm still wondering as they've gone ahead with their perfect bodies and flawless faces to school in the best schools abroad and return back to Nigeria and snag the juiciest jobs and now have the handsome dapper husbands in the perfect neighbourhoods with their perfect little kids. I'm like; did God single some people out and bless them more?
A blog reader who noticed that I've occasionally been a recipient of unexpected favour once said to me "Thelma please how do you get people to give you things, how do these people just dash you money or help you? Nobody has ever given me anything in my life, I've had to work for even the tiniest thing I have. When I hear some people's stories I always wonder, why is my own different? Why is my own like this?"
And then I stood in her shoes for a few seconds and wondered; is God partial?
Are you one of those who constantly receives unmerited/unexpected favours and blessings, have things always come easy for you? Somehow when you desire something in your heart you get it without even asking? (My friend *Matty is one of such people and he accepts that life has been unusually kind to him)
Like the blog reader, are you one of those who have had to sweat and struggle for everything you need and have in your life? Does it seem like you always get less than what you deserve? Do you see people who possess much less than what you have physically and intellectually, yet it seems they always do much better than you and you're wondering why?
PS; I know nobody's life is perfect and all that glitters is not gold, yet I'm sure you understand what I mean when I say some people are unusually fortunate and some others are usually unfortunate.
PPS; to the blog reader; I don't exactly count myself as one of the lucky ones. My sister, when you hear/see me going on extended periods of prayers and fasting and even dry fasting, it's not because I enjoy it, it's because I sometimes need to go the extramile to get what I want. If things came so easy trust me I would fold my arms and enjoy life.