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Four different conversations today, at different times with different friends all brought to mind the 'dreaded' 30s. Actually 29 is practically 30 so why are we all dreading clocking the Big 3-Zero officially? 
       I guess it's like mourning your 20s, those golden years, those years when you were invincible, when the world was yours and you were super woman/man and could do whatever you wanted. Those days when you thought you would live forever. 30 seems like the death and burial of all that.

Speaking of death, I just watched a video on Facebook about Nigerians who try to get to Europe by foot through the Sahara Desert. Most of them end up dead from dehydration, fatigue, hunger etc. I saw so many dead bodies scattered around on the desert, blackened by the severely hot sun, eyeballs almost nonexistent as the sun seems to have melted them away. Male and female. The voice in the video said over 100 people are the time try to walk from Nigeria to Europe, only about 5 ever make it alive. Seriously guys, is Nigeria that bad that people would do anything at all to get away from it? Damn! He also warned that people should stay where they are and work hard to make money. God can bless you anywhere, doing something with your hands. It's not only in Europe you'll find blessings, even on the farm in your village God can bless you. 

Speaking of God's blessings, today marks the 14th and last day of Our Daily Manner 14 day fasting program, and on the last day (today) there's an anointing service. I don't know how long it will last for but after the 21 day fast in January, the vigil started at about 7pm and we ended at almost 6am the next morning, so it's likely that this take up most of the day; it begins at 7.30am. As it's likely to be a whole day's affair I may not be here for most of the weekend. So just in case I'm MIA for long, that's why.  

Good night guys, I should be up in a few hours. 


  1. Every woman feels that way about turning 30. I think its the realization that your youth has completely come to an end, and it's worse with single women. And T you people that do this 6 to 6 fasting are strong ooo. I've never fasted be4, I don't think I can do it. please remember us in ur prayers.

    1. *hey guys! just noticed my grammatical/typographical errors, I was half asleep when I typed this post. E ma binu.
      Anon, when you occasionally do dry fasting for three days or more then fasting from 6-6 becomes almost easy. In any case it's not strength but grace that enables us to do it. And of course I remembered y'all in my prayers.

    2. "In any case it's not strength but grace that enables us to do it". Truth.

  2. I don't think there is any age where you can't feel invincible and like a super woman. I have friends that are over 30 and they are rocking it. You won't believe they are over 25yrs old sef. You will be fine Thelma.

    1. Thanks Subomi. But I have absolutely no problem with turning 30 o! In fact although I'm a year away from 30 when asked my age I say 30, that's how much I embrace it. I was just voicing the thoughts of some 20 somethings I know. I had dinner with two 29 year olds this night and when I told them they're 30 they almost killed me. Lol. That's how terribly some people dread it. My only wish is that I would have done more by now.

  3. May d Lord answer our prayers....pls do remember me in prayers Thelma

  4. I'm turning 30 soon. no boyfriend, no husband, no kids, no job. and I'm turning 30. it feels like my life is so empty. pls remember us in your prayers.

    1. *Hugging you* may God grant all of your heart desires.

  5. LOL. Anon 7:45 ur life can never be over!!! NO way. Everything will be fine.
    But as for me Ruth, I believe I can rock ANY age thanks to my mentality. #BubblyKid
    When I was a teen, people thought I was 20 something. Now am 20 + & people think am 19/20.
    It's insulting but then I knew it's my gold mine. No one believes my real age so I keep using the fake one! 28!!!

    T, biko enjoy ur weekend & ask for your heart desires from God.

    1. But seriously u av always sounded like a kid...

    2. ROTFL... oh yes am a kid. my parents & Gods... But make this ur hatred no affect ur organs oh!!!

  6. Pele that has always sounded like an the matter at hand,lately,I've been thinking of my life generally,what I've accomplished,what it'd be like to be 30 and all and trust me,my heart skips each time I think of 30..oh well .. Fina

  7. Don't I just love Ruthy??? Just love that sarcasm....or do I call it humor??? Una doh o blog fam!!!!
    Has anybody been able to reach "Diary of Dido"? I'm hoping she's fine.

    1. I've been wondering about her as well. Hopefully nothing's wrong.

  8. I can comment at last since i changed my fone.yh I got d fone I wished 4 b4 my bday next sunday sef.

    1. Aww! My bday is next sunday too. HBD in ADv dear. @ it's not only single lady's who get scared of turning 30 my dear. Last year wen I turned 30 I kept saying " God, I don old Oo°˚˚˚°! Chai, I don old Oo°˚˚˚°!
      @ anon 7:45 use ur hand and clean ur mouth. U may not have all u've mentioned, but remember there r persons who didn't live to see 30, some persons r alive and have spent half their lives in d hospital due to ill health. When d devil tries to make u feel bad about ur life, give him reasons why u should be thankful. There is someone out there who has it worse than u no matter how bad ur situation is. It is well my dear!
      @ Thelma may God reward ur fasting wiv testimonies in d name of Jesus. Amen!

    2. HBD in advance to Steffi and Tokoni. Steffi I'm so happy for you @ your new phone, when you mentioned it in a comment I was wishing I was buoyant enough to get it for you. Well, maybe next year. @ Tokoni Amen! Thanks a lot.

  9. Ruby I missed U, welcome hon.
    Steffi congrats oh...

  10. My cousin told me a story about a friend who attempted the same route, but ended up in Spain. He said, many of them passed away, that this friend was dehydrated to the point of death, but survived miraculously. He is married with children now. When I asked about the background of this friend, I understood his determination to move out of Nigerian by all means. He lost his father. Could not attend school. Learnt a hand-skill. And being the first son,with 6 younger siblings, he was desperate to make it by all means.

  11. Hmn... about approaching 30 and feeling like one can no longer do as they wanted depends on how one feels about age and sees things generally. Some ladies are in their 30's and rolling as smooth as a cue ball on the pool table.
    About my fellow Nigerians trekking and 'stowing away' to diaspora, I wonder how they have such 'liver'! Or is it that they don't hear of the death toll?
    I pray God answers your prayers, mine and everyone else's.

  12. I'm 30 today. It's bin a bitter sweet journey Tee its no biggie bin 30 they shouldn't tell u nada abeg. I'm married n expecting a baby soon but it still doesn't change a tin maybe I'm just lucky cos my mum never asked us wen we were bringing a man home n all that. My older sis doesn't even act like someone who is ready to get married any time soon. Mrs m

    1. HAPPY BIRTHDAY MRS M!!! And congrats on the baby.

    2. Happy birthday Mrs M! Wish you a safe delivery.

    3. Thanks loves

    4. Thanks loves

  13. Being 30 and single is a biggie because people make it so. What will all the pressure and raised brows especially if you have married siblings like me! My younger sisters are married with at least. So you can try picture my position atm. All the friends I grew up with are married with kids...people will compare. They will make reference for sure not becos they intentionally want to irk or sadden you. I'm visiting my dad today and I have a strong feeling he will ask even if it's not directly, all his prayers for me will revolve around 'oko alalubarika'. The grandkids never do him. Should I then avoid him? I can't keep hiding from folks jare. My only prayer is for strength to wisely turn around these questions. Am I bitter? Absolutely not! The truth is after marriage, pressures will still come for kids and if you have one, pressure will come for more. There will always be a mountain to climb!

    Plus Happy Birthday Mrs M. Wishing you many more beautiful years in good health and abundant wealth.

    1. Yes o, there are pressures in every stage you get to in life. Starting from when are a child.

  14. @tokoni fnks nd hapi bday in advance too.finally get to see a bday mate.@thelma fnks o!I wud hold u too it o, wud be smal tin 4 u den.ur testimonies are on d way...


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