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Let's Be Random Together! (Open Keypad).





Hey guys, a while back blog reader F said something about creating an Open Keypad post, where you can write whatever you want in the comment section. I thought it was a fun idea!

So who is interested? Comment on anything you feel like, ask me or anyone a question, talk about how your day went, your job, your interests, tell us something about you that we don't know, share a testimony with us, rant about anything you feel like, talk about your crush/boo/spouse/relationship/marriage, challenges you're facing, ANYTHING AT ALL! 

I'll only make one request; that we stay civil. 


(F it was you who made this suggestion, right? I'm not too sure and I can't even remember the post the comment was made on). 

BTW please Ejoec come out come out, wherever you are!

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  1. I'm in an emotional affair with a married man n I dnt care if its right or wrong. This life is too short to be unhappy.

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    1. This is not about un happiness.... That's someone's joy u r stealing and raining curses on ur head but carry on if u feel it's worth it

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    2. Ha anon take it easy, she probably just needed to get it off her chest and you're already "judging" her.

      BTW Thelma, I love love love your blog, I've finally made up my mind to stop being lazy and comment regularly.
      L.

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    3. Ha anon take it easy, she probably just needed to get it off her chest and you're already "judging" her.

      BTW Thelma, I love love love your blog, I've finally made up my mind to stop being lazy and comment regularly.
      L.

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    4. Yay!!! Thanks L. I really do appreciate it.

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    5. emotional affair sweety, I'm assuming its not physical, she's not really hurting anyone yet except herself especially if the married man doesn't even give a rats ass about her.

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  2. Why are destructive things the most addictive? Why can't I be addicted to something positive for once, like exercise? Why can't I be one of those people that get a fever if they're unable to exercise for more than two days. Why did i wear my tracks and Tshirt and spend the next two hours contemplating how to get off my ass and go exercise? Why did I eventually just grab my ipad and fall back into bed where I'll be till tomorrow? *sobs*

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    1. Lots of water (to suppress your appetite) and 5 - 10 minutes of deep breathing every morning. Don't eat fruits or veges in the afternoon(they are notorious appetizers). Milk in the morning, fruits and veges at night.

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    2. Memphis how do you know so much about these things? And while you're telling me what and what not to do, can you please tell me where to buy some discipline; therein lies the problem.

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    3. Lol. I've been an asthmatic from birth; practically lived on aminophylin and ventolin almost all my life, till I was let in on Water Therapy. It does wonders. The slim add weight, the fat lose weight, your system is healthier, your bones are stronger, you're immune to most diseases...it's virtually an *all rounder*. I for one haven't had an attack in 3years! Amazing right? So, you really don't need to buy discipline for that. It's quite easy. What you need discipline for is exercise. If I see am for market I go holla. :D

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    4. I wish I can say the same about having not had attack for years. As much as I want to believe I've outgrown it, the 'once-in-a-while' forced trip to the hospital for aminophylin is depressing for me.

      My day would have been perfect but for this hitch about my inability to drive. Wrote my final exams today...went for job interview(stage 3 o) and the only thing separating me from guaranteed selection is my not being able to drive. Oh my!

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    5. *I wish I can say the same about not having had attack

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    6. What kind of job requires that you be able to drive?

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    7. It's a biz dev manager role that requires Lagos-driving mastery.

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    8. Memphis you are right water therapy does wonders, my dad who was asthmatic when we kids has been attack-free for over twenty years now after he tried water therapy.
      Thelma about exercise engage in what you love that way it won't feel like you are exercising, for me I love to walk so that is my way of exercising, I walk to and from work everyday. Try doing what you love and see how it goes.

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    9. Gosh Memphis, your avatar gives me the chills

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  3. Oh!!! The Perfect post for this:

    I Just received my 10k!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! *drumRoll* Thank U T & TTB readers.

    I can't wait to come hug U'all at our end of year party... #Twerks

    Btw, am thinking of Serving my NYSC in Lagos (November Batch C). The stress sha! SMH

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    1. You're welcome Ruth, on the behalf of myself and HSF and TTB readers.

      NYSC is stress everywhere, what might be stressful is getting posted to Lagos, once that's done it's just as stressful as every other place (dunno about the north though). Kai! NYSC is stress sha, after those 3 exciting weeks in camp just prepare yourself for one year of infuriatingly long queues and stress in general.

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    2. Hey ruthy, I learnt there is no longer a november batch bt its now august so make haste in ur enquiries so dat u won't have to wait till next year. :D

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    3. Congratulations on your win Ruthy

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    4. Thanks for your words T. Sharon thanks too.
      Memphis & Oyinlola keep being STRONG!!!!

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    5. Thanks for your words T. Sharon thanks too.
      Memphis & Oyinlola keep being STRONG!!!!

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  4. Found a condom in my hubby's traveling bag. He keeps asking why I've been moody and unhappy, I haven't said anything. At times, I just feel like I made a huge mistake marrying him. Life is so unfair.

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    1. Oh wow. A friend of mine said the exact same thing yesterday, she too regrets marrying him sometimes. I feel so sorry for her but sometimes I don't, she saw all the signs but the pressure to be married before thirty drove her to make a decision I told her she would come to regret. (Of course then it looked like I was trying to discourage her because I was single. Now everyday she tells me " Nwando take your time, there's nothing in marriage".) *The condom fell out of his pocket and he said it has been in his pocket since before they got married.... They got married over two years ago*.

      Anon I'm so sorry. If I knew the words to make you feel better I would say them.

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    2. Lmao... Please forgive me for laughing but that lie was too hard. Is it that he hasn't washed the trouser in two years? Na wa

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    3. Thank you T.

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    4. Thank you T.

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    5. The condom has been in his pocket for two years..... hmmm ok o! That's a new one sha! lol!

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    6. I have the words to make you feel better, confront him with it and decide what you want straight and simple. The future would be terrible if you keep being moody and unhappy. You have two options, stay with him or leave; either of the options are not so easy but can be worked out depending on several other factors.
      What you want to avoid is to continue to keep quiet, may you find the strength to handle this.

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  5. I have so many problems in my life right now, it feels as though i'm moving in reverse or at best stagnant in life. But for some unknown reasons I feel light and happy tonight! Just like the previous anon, this is me getting off my lazy non/never-commenting ass! Hehehehehehe

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    1. Wow!! Tot i was d only one feeling like this ooo!! But then again i tink bout hw far i hav come n bcme grateful for jus being alive. It is well.. Off to drink smirnoff ice n snapps😜😜 #BL

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  6. My bf of 4yrs popped d question n i returned d ring after a week cos i dont think i want to marry him, i hate bayelsa, i jus want to b happy n i had d most amazin sex with a friend of mine some weeks ago n nw i'm hooked!! Dear God, CHAOS is my middle name!!! #BL

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    1. Was it a post-breakup sex or there was just mad chemistry for this particular dude? Pls spill...(Don't mind me,I love gist!!!)

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    2. @sasha bone, ive known d guy for a while n theres always been mad chemistry but d sex happened while i n d bf broke up... I used to think it was more than sex but in d past week i'm beginin to think its jus sex ooo!! I don tire for man wahala oooo!! Which kind life������

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    3. Hahahahaha. BL forgive me for laughing. I'm not laughing at you o, I'm just so happy I'm over and done with 'I used to think it was more than sex but now I'm beginning to think it's just sex ooo'. Don't worry babe, this too shall pass. You're still going to shag him even though you know it's just sex but apparently the sex is good, so in its own little way that makes up for your dissatisfaction in the 'emotions department'. But then again, it never does...

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  7. Bikonu, lemme talk about my crush on sunday, I have never Crushed on any guy be you president or Hawrtness himself, but on sunday khaki pass leather oooh! Your babe Was humbled. We had family fare and it was a great oppurtuinity for singles to mingle @the Summit bible church. Before the evening was over, I sighted one dude chatting with his phone less concerned about the event, with all the hotties swinging and dancing around. That attitude got me attracted Already, as a smartie, I got an usher to fake a hook up while I stood and acted like nothing happened(batts Lashes) this dude is tall, dark, cute, slim, dressed to save, nice watch, effortlessly handsome. Well he walked up to me and I acted the Hello...Hello greeting, the usher left us(winks). He spoke and I couldn't help itt the more, his diction and nice choice of words was great, his deep tone was soothing(give me excess of it). Down to the matter, we got talking and the rest is Updating(smiles). Sorry to bore you alll, but its a free post. Thanks Tee

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    1. Bore ke? Babes please keep us updated. My body was doing me 'sugar sugar' as I was reading this, as in my body was sweeting me. LOL, I dunno how else to say it.

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    2. Nice story to. End the nyt, you can give amebo eeeeh. Thelma my body sugar Sugar pass yours oohoo, I love me ladies that go for what they Want. What a way To smile to bed. First time comment

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  8. See intimidation today @ work ealier today, one young Babe, drove into the complex with a G gard(however Its spelt I meant Mercedes) she walked pass me, I said Hi good-day she Didn't respond. @that moment a security staff said to me "aunty na Senator pikin ooooh" Me: and so? I felt like crying, I flipped my hair and walked briskly to my office(shebi na me cos am) anyways I walked to My match box of a car, still thinking......One day e go better#in ruths voice

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    1. U are just hilarious blink, can't stop laffing. Nice blog thelma

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    2. Wow! Blink,ruthylicios, F, just got a new fan. Your gist was out of here Blink, I can imagine the security man's face. You Will get there. Where is Cccc?

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    3. G Wagon.

      One question; do you greet everybody that walks into the complex? Or the G Wagon suddenly made you friendly/humble/polite? Just curious.

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    4. G morning T, I don't great everyone that walks into the complex, I just Great whomever I cross path with, I am a bit old. Fashioned, so I say the "good morning" kind of greating. But for this babe, I added Hi-good day(to sound posh) and Yes I saw her drive in cos I was @ d lobby(my greatin had nothing to do with her car,I was only happy twas a young lady). I still don't see reason why she was uptight though, cos we've got "Who is Who" kids with us.

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    5. Good morning Blink. I see you've got yourself a blogger account. Awesome! You're just like me @ being old fashioned and greeting everybody I see. But I think it has something to do with going to QC, we were very many and as such you get to run into your former school mates after school. After saying hi to your former classmates and they just look through you like a glass or squint and ask "sorry, have we met?", my sister you will master the art of knowing who to greet and what reactions to get.

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  9. My hubby said the day ill leave nigeria for America for gud will be the day he will divorce me cause he is sure ill divorce him first. Im still in shock.

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    1. Oh wow...hmm. But then again does it matter who divorces who first?
      Well just keep cool and pray for wisdom for both u and ur hubby ok...

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  10. Ma boify thinks I'm cheating! And I'm tired of trying to convince him dat I'm not! I think he is just being insecure! Cos he has neva seen any implicating tin on me! I tire ohh!

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    1. Sweet he's cheating! Shine ya eye

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    2. @olori, i totally agree with u ooo.. Guilty conscience tins oo #BL

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    3. Babes concluded he is cheating? Nice one

      Sit down and talk to him, the insecurity will ruin the relationship. I hate insecure people, man or woman.

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  11. Omg!! Network makes me wanna cry here, after typing a long post it decided to treat me this way. *so sad*

    Wish I had more to say...

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    1. You actually had more to say but network didn't allow you say it, pele. Maybe you should port to a better network

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    2. Steele, which network is the 'better network'?
      -F

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    3. Swift 4G lte, lol. Abeg if you want to go and buy it use me as your referee. Thanks in advance

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    4. Swift 4G lte, please when you go to get yours use me as your referee. Thanks in advance

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  12. Random it is.... Ok am going to b blabbing a lil so pls bear wt me.
    Am in my mid twenties and yet to ever b in a meaningful relationship. I tend to gravitate 2wards guys dat r either in another relationship (unless marriage is d relationship in question) or just totally unsuitable (d suitable and available never interest me). Somehow that doesn't bother me as d only reasons I consider marriage an option for me are for d sake of my unborn kids (I totally want them and would rather they have a solid family foundation) and d fear of hell( fornication is my one obstacle to righteous living).
    Am more in love wt power, building my career, and making more money than I can spend and I so wish d heavens wud permit me to achieve it all as a single mum.
    Also, been meaning to get ur take on something thelma, and nw's as good a chance as any. I totally hate watching porn, it's all animalistic and all. But porn somehow happens to b d only way I ever get to experience orgasm (sex just doesn't get me there). Almost... but never! and wen I say porn I don't neccessary mean videos, images wud do d trick and lately its starting to give me cause for worry. I'd like to have a guy make me come and one of my deepest fears is dat it may never happen in my lifetime. Cud it b psychological?cos I know it's not a lack on d part of my past n present lover(s). So while I hate porn (it leaves me feeling weak and dirty), I can't seem to stop. I really do want to feel d earth move while beneath prime male flesh!
    Phew!!! Finally I let it out n yes... thot of spewing it under d 'dirty linen' post but just didn't av d courage d type it. Thanks 'F' for d idea, and Ehug to thelma for d platform.

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  13. What do you do if you're in an intimate live-in situationship with one of your closest friends but neither of you wants to commit for different reasons, her reason is that she enjoys the attention from other numerous men and the generous perks that come with it, she's definitely not ready to give that up just yet. Your reason is that you know she loves the attention too much and you don't wanna get hurt so you decide to cage your feelings and live as friends with benefits instead.

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    1. Why are you living together if she's dating other men? It sounds like she's just using you for her convenience, you deserve to b with someone that feels d same way about you unless you are satisfied wit the benefits you're getting from ur live in lover.

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    2. Steele someone has told you that you may be suffering from emotional abuse once on this blog, the person seems to be right.

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    3. Yes I remember the statement but no who said it, I dare say he/she might be right. To answer the why are we living together question, it's because she's been house hunting but hasn't found somewhere yet, and I really don't mind the company and the cooking she does which is a lot. Hehe

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  14. Random it is.... Ok am going to b blabbing a lil so pls bear wt me.
    Am in my mid twenties and yet to ever b in a meaningful relationship. I tend to gravitate 2wards guys dat r either in another relationship (unless marriage is d relationship in question) or just totally unsuitable (d suitable and available never interest me). Somehow that doesn't bother me as d only reasons I consider marriage an option for me are for d sake of my unborn kids (I totally want them and would rather they have a solid family foundation) and d fear of hell( fornication is my one obstacle to righteous living).
    Am more in love wt power, building my career, and making more money than I can spend and I so wish d heavens wud permit me to achieve it all as a single mum.
    Also, been meaning to get ur take on something thelma, and nw's as good a chance as any. I totally hate watching porn, it's all animalistic and all. But porn somehow happens to b d only way I ever get to experience orgasm (sex just doesn't get me there). Almost... but never! and wen I say porn I don't neccessary mean videos, images wud do d trick and lately its starting to give me cause for worry. I'd like to have a guy make me come and one of my deepest fears is dat it may never happen in my lifetime. Cud it b psychological?cos I know it's not a lack on d part of my past n present lover(s). So while I hate porn (it leaves me feeling weak and dirty), I can't seem to stop. I really do want to feel d earth move while beneath prime male flesh!
    Phew!!! Finally I let it out n yes... thot of spewing it under d 'dirty linen' post but just didn't av d courage d type it. Thanks 'F' for d idea, and Ehug to thelma for d platform.

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    1. There are two ways to look at this. Not having an orgasm and Dependence on pornography.

      What have you tried to do about achieving orgasm? Most women find it difficult to orgasm through vaginal sex so your case really isn't so different, and it takes more than a well endowed man to make a woman come. I really don't want to go into detail but there are things you can try, however these are things that you should try with a partner you're in a committed relationship with and not just a random lay. Among other reasons is that he needs to be invested in giving you an orgasm, setting the right mood, helping you relax, taking his time to get to know your body, your sweet spots (they could be everywhere/anywhere between your head and your toe), you guys may need to introduce some toys, try a variety of positions to know what works for you, spend more time on foreplay and oral sex, and you have to get it out of your head that you must orgasm; just take your time and enjoy it. And sorry but someone else's man isn't going to take the time to do this for you.

      Dependence on pornography. If you're serious about what you said then let go of the porn and masturbation (I'm certain there's masturbation tho you didn't mention it). Although you may not admit it you have a porn addiction and that's where there's a problem my darling. The thing with addictions is they're not easy to break away from. So find a way to sort that out. Find a way to end your addiction to porn, which has in turn lead to your dependence on porn and then you can proceed to finding a way to achieving that elusive orgasm with a man.

      After all said and done, remember that a majority of women don't orgasm during sex, so your case is quite normal and not necessarily a problem. You're able to achieve orgasm when you watch porn because you're naturally turned on by visual stimulation. Find a way to break away from pornography in its entirety. And not just because you want an orgasm but because a habit that leaves you feeling disgusted and dirty afterwards is not healthy for you and your psyche.
      Or just do whatever makes you happy.
      Or just not have sex.
      Or just date a guy that is available, suitable and yours.

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    2. Jeez I just typed that epistle? I forgot to add that I'm not an expert on the topic o! That is just my uninformed opinion and is therefore subject to debate (which I will not partake in as I'm already worn out after typing all that) or rebuttal. In any case good luck in your search.

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    3. Hian Thelma you're obviously an expert.

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  15. still searching for a job...no romance yet..although, I would not mind being "chased".. you know.. the guy or guys calling you just to talk, texting to check in and want to take you out (then I form initial gra gra lol) .. I miss those things.. thing is, the period is just tough for me.. money nor dey, I cant keep asking my aunt and mom for money.. what would make me happy right now is a job, then I can open the door for romance...it is well.

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    1. You're not alone, me too no job, no relationship. But I want anyone to happen first.

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    2. I want to be chased too, men no longer do that and I wonder why

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    3. Had to talk to somebody last night about jobs in Nigeria, there are not so many out there and the pay are kinda poor.
      Can you girls find something to do, anything at all..please write here, you may be able to get some help.

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    1. Subnomi dear sorry. About last Nyt rift, just be strong ok. I think your Hubby is also sorry about the quarell. In other words, the anonymous thing didn't work out welll ooooooh! But no to worry we wont Use it against U, We are closely knitted in thelma thinks. Good. Morning to U too

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    2. You r not anonymous love maybe delete the post if u want to be

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    3. Please, please, for the sake of your health, the life of your baby and yours too, don't argue to the point of "almost" resulting to blows. Biko. My hubby will say, we can't be hot at the same time, we will explode. One has to cool down for the other. If you can't, please go into another room or go out.

      Your words will make better sense when both of you are calm. Justice delayed isn't justice denied.

      He's sorry already. Be strong please. I'm sorry you had to go through that. *hugs*

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  17. Oh! What I wouldn't give to get a job right now..studied geology,made a 2.2(maybe that's the problem?),done serving(2013),HSE certified and yet to get a job! Till now,no feedback from where I dropped/forwarded/sent my CVs,none! Really discouraging but I believe this month is MY MONTH OF PERFECTION..

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    1. Send your CV to Thelma and she can send it to me, I am not promising anything but will get the CV into the HR of an IOC.

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  18. Hahahahaha@annon didn't work out well..I think ur hubby is truly sorry...it takes a man that cares to do wat he did.It is well dear

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  19. Hahahahaha@annon didn't work out well..I think ur hubby is truly sorry...it takes a man that cares to do wat he did.It is well dear

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  20. Ok..ma bf playd a fast one on me to test me n i failed n it led to a brkup... now m abit hurt,n m single agen* dancing* dat air of freedom is soothing buh i miss him like crazy... ve apologised n m tired of doing so jooorrr... im stl very young,beautiful n well packaged... i can get a new bf asap... buh ild rada face my career n make money.. hope im nt boring u oh.. shebi na *talk am as e be post* lol... wait oh' i luv errone on ds blog... stay strong y'all... we re covered..

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  21. Emmm nwando,is it me or its d ntwrk?I actually typed a long epistle o buh it jst wiped.Its my Birthday!Happy 4th of july.Charsy

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    1. Happy Birthday Anon. Wish you more beautiful and glorious years
      -F

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    2. Happy Birthday, Charsy. May all your desires be fulfilled IJN.

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    3. Happy birthday darling Charsy! Sorry I think it's network, you're not the only one who's complained.

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    4. Same here, network tins I'm so annoyed. Fourth tym I'm typing I hope it shows. My friend tells me dat a writer is never bored, d words aren't evn flown so I didn't write. I hope Oau resumes soon, I really want to graduate soon. I tell myself dat I'm nt too young to date but I'm definitely too old to play games. I dnt want a fling though I v guys I lyk I'm nt in a relationship. Yet dere r tyms dat I'm lonely nd I think of avn a bf. I hope I didn't bore anyone here. Hibek.

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    5. Happy birthday and best of luck for the future.

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  22. Can't wait 4 my service in august,afta a whole year.gettn dat part of my life ova nd done wit.wonda y errbody keeps telln me i need to get married am just 22,dnt understand all dis old women o!besides nobody is popping d question yet.

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    1. Jesus Steffi please I beg you ignore them. From your previous comments I thought you're even close to 30. Babes you're still young and you have your whole life ahead of you. Most of us hadn't even graduated by 22 and you keep complaining that your classmates have moved on and gone for service etc, babe you have so much to be grateful for. You're young, beautiful and obviously driven. Please do not focus your thoughts on marriage now, right now you should be enjoying the golden years of your 20s and contemplating how to take over the world. I take God beg you Steffi. Don't give in to pressure.

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  23. Ouch, I'm late! Yes, Thelma, I made the suggestion.
    Well, I've got a lot of things on my mind.
    1. Oshiomole's cancellation of competency test for Teachers in public schools and the recall of laid-off incompetent teachers (who failed the competency tests) has been making my headache worse. And to add insult upon injury, confab delegates are recommending creation of 18 additional states; WTH!
    2. My job: my boss (MD) keeps calling me a top management staff. He introduced me yesterday as Head of......and others (others?). He gives me all manners of unrelated jobs which have pratically turned me into a 'F of all trade' and 'shock-absorber'. Meanwhile, I earn less than 50% of the guys in the samecadre! Is it because I am a woman (and the only one amongst them)? I AM PISSED!
    3. I need someone to whoop my bum now as I have some talents I am allowing to rot away. Somebody, please give my senses a shake

    Okay, I'll leave it at these for now.
    -F

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    1. Thanks for the suggestion F. Isn't there anything that can be done about #2? I'm even pissed on your behalf, that's injustice.

      #3 just think of all the explaining you will have to give to baba God when you face him; "What did you do with all the talents I gave you F?" Remember the story of the rich man and the servants he gave talents to and on his return he demanded to know what they had done with them? Remember what he did to the servant who buried his own talent? (I'm presuming you're a Christian, forgive my presumption if you're not.) So please, I cannot whoop your bum, but I can ask you to get off ya bum and get to work. Good luck.

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    2. Thanks so much Thelma; I love you already.
      Yes, I am a Christian and I remember the parable of the talents very well.I shall start working on it.

      As for #2: the most effective way to get justice is to threaten resignation. The first time I tried that, something good happened but I do not want to over-use that. The next time I threaten resignation, I want it to stay and not change my mind. However, I shall find other means. May God teach me.

      Meanwhile, thanks so much for accepting the humble suggestion. I hope it helps some of our ThelmaThinks family members.
      -F

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    3. @ F
      Im in the same both with you, I've already started job hunting, its even worse when you're listed on the coy website as one of the partners…haba. Its so not fair,the worst part is as one of the members of the recruiting board, I tend to negotiate salaries waaaaay above what I earn for people that get to do half of what I do. Sometimes it sucks being a woman especially as there glass ceiling is obviously very real. SMH

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  24. I want a job. I don't want work again. I'm tired of doing "osho free". I want something that will pay me. Been working for more than a year now and I haven't gotten a kobo from it. Instead, I'm spending the little I'm getting outside to cab to the office, cab out to work.e.t.c.. I want JOB. Yesterday @work, I greeted one girl. Even if she senior me, e no reach two years. She shunned me eh...the shunning no be here o!!! Even my colleagues were surprised. Tcheww... Its done bothering me.

    Things are fine between Dee and I and I'm sooo happy. I really want things to remain this way?

    I live with my God father and there's this witch I wish can scramble out of the house as I speak. It took soo much self control for me that I didn't beat her this morning. Sincerely. I want to move out joorh. If the witch leaves, I can return to live there.

    What else do I want to talk about? *thinking. When I remember, I will return.

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  25. Nwando where you in Obi house, QC? Figured ill start commenting enough of the Silence. I hail all.

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    1. I hail you right back!
      Yes I was. You?

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    2. Ehen Senior Nwando. Yes ma na yellow I de.

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  26. Have been trying to comment since yesterday but the network wasn't supportive

    I can't describe the feeling I get whenever I think of what tommorrow holds..
    Am just worried of how life is and I just realized both won't change anything,so I have decided to get a bottle of wine tonite,select my favourite movies and enjoy life while it last in my own little way.mio le wa ku

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    1. hahahahahahahahaaaaaaaaaa.....LMAO........OMG! I am trying hard controlling my laughter @'mi o le wa ku' (roughly translated into 'I cannot come and die')...........
      I say that a lot especially when I'm about drinking Amarula and my kids remind me of taking in too much calories. As it is, I fee like I have added 8 out of the 19kg I lost. Abeg, this life is too short to be too serious everytime.
      -F

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  27. Happy birthday Charsy

    I want to be chased, men don't chase any longer.....

    Subomi,.your hubby is obviously sorry.Please always think of your unborn child first.

    I need a NEW job,am bored shitless in my current one

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  28. Happy birthday Charsy

    I want to be chased, men don't chase any longer.....

    Subomi,.your hubby is obviously sorry.Please always think of your unborn child first.

    I need a NEW job,am bored shitless in my current one

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  29. Oh God am so tired of this my job. Been on it for 2years plus and I cant boost of 500k in my account. Been sending out CVs since after service 2012 and no hope yet. Ok got some interviews to attend tomorrow, I pray it goes well and don't just end up like others.

    Broke up with my bf of 3yrs cos I don't see me staying faithful to him even after marriage. Now met this cute and hotter dude, but the ish is am loving him than he luvs me. Gone outta ma way to do things for him, told him I love him more than i have ever told any of my ex bfs. Am tired, I just want him to luv me more just like my ex did.

    Family; God pls bless my sisters with fruit of the womb. I don't understand why most ladies nowadays find it hard to conceive. God pls bless them and answer their prayers plus all other married couples seeking it too.

    Lastly, God save Nigeria, this is the only country we've got. Where we middle class wan run to na...

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  30. oooh wat can i say.. 2months now no salary paid yet.. just tired of this office of mine... gotta pay rent next month..looks like al d money hubby n i saves goes to a landlord every year..we need our own APARTMENT LORD. pls help...hmmmmm.

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  31. Hmmm, I don't know if I have any random stuffs to say, Ruthy there is batch C , it start on the 4th of November and my advice is that you pray about it rather than influencing it. My random thought is this I wish to be closer to God but mostly I don't feel I am. I am a misfit, I don't fit in with most people's opinion or thought. Is it bad. And I criticise as if I get paid for it although I am not rude with it.still on the Random note, I know this person who feel it is a most to correct any mistake in others spoken english, it gets me annoyed although I don't show it. I get taken for granted a lot because I try to put others first. It makes me wonder if being a bitch isn't better like a post Thelma did sometimes ago

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  32. Fnks jare thelma.am not listen'n 2 dem o!its just annoying hearn all dis ur beauty wud soon fade nd no man wud come again,lyk serzly?!nd wat are we saying bout d party o!can't wait o! *dancing skelewu*

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  33. I need a man that will love me for who I am, and a better job that pays well. My boss yells Monday-Friday and that gets to me. There's no week one of my colleagues does not shed tears cos of this man. He is so rude and disrespectful. I always give him the silent attitude and just do my job. But I thank God for what he's been doing in my life so far. After a bad divorce from my hubby he hid his health issues from me(Impotent), God has lifted me up that you will never know i passed through a lot. Still waiting for the good man meant for me.

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  34. i am soo totally over dealing with girls! Have been househunting for over a month for a place which i was to share with a "friend". Finally found one and she refused to commit to the contract! Found out she had found a place for herself solo and now i'm stuck with looking for a place for myself alone with just a week left on my current contract! And all the places i've been seeing are above my budget or really crappy! And she still has not said a thing...not a word of apology! I knew i should hve just hunted with a guy...more straight forward in matters like this. Has got me so stressed out my hair is beginning to fall off (which is a big deal cos i hve thick locks), guess i'd better go to the gym and punch something cos if not i'll punch a face soon. The only good thing abt this is having to go to the gym more to deal with the stress and anger.

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  35. Impotent as he cannot have an erection. How come you didn't know even if you had no sex before marriage,you guys never made out and u never wondered why he didn't get a stiffy. hmmm

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    1. We made out but he stops me half way, me been naive i'll just believe him and we lived in different states. I just said let me chill since we'll get married, we dated for 6months. I wasn't in any for of pressure to marry him, I was just a young girl in Love. Anyway,It's history don't want to go into detail cos it was bad. and Yes NO ERECTION AT ALL!

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    2. That is a good ground for divorce even in a catholic church. Full disclosure is mandatory in situations like that. sorry you went through that.

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  36. It all started as loss of orientation, impulsive thought, insomania, confusion, severe brain fog, anxiety later ocd, chronic fatigue etc. This were some of those symptoms that did stand my way then, I battle fiercly with the hope that all will be well after the life hounding phase and Glory be to God most of it subsided. Still, when will I really be that person I was before the predicament started? I used to dream so big, even myself knows I can be overambitious. But NO, all things being equal, this are things I am 80 percent sure I'ld have achieved. My dreams are realistic, my plans are feasible, my strategies are workable and I can always work out ways to get the financial support to push it. Can I really still reach that height and achieve those goals that I did dream of? In this present state with this alien nature that has taken over me? Where's the old me? People will say its all in your head(my idiot cousin said that when I was dealing with some of the symptoms I mentioned above), NO its not in my head. I know whom I used to be but now I'm just left with a fraction of my whole self. Even though that vibrant me appears once in a while, in a twinkle of an eye it disappears. Maybe it would have been better wasting away was on my own volition, because at least I would be catching fun in some ways. God please bring me back.

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    1. Anon God will bring you back but you know what they say about God helping those who help themselves. Please you might need to see a professional for this and get medical assistance. The sooner the better before things spiral out of control. You know how health issues can be, the longer we leave them untreated the worse the problems might get. If you can afford to pls see a good doctor that deals with mental health issues, a psychotherapist maybe perhaps. Praying and wishing our problems away is usually to our own detriment.
      I desperately want the old you back, the old you sounds super awesome and we can't let that just go. Please be proactive in bringing the old you back. Please.

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  37. I want to say I have issues but I would be lying to myself cos I have a way of making up issues that are not meant to be.
    I miss being in a relationship and I'm so scared that I wont find the 'one', at my age (I'm 29). I had so many suitors after school and I drove all of them away. I just keep praying that I've not driven away my husband too. Then, I have this problem of doubting every guy that shows any interest in me.
    Chai, I just feel for myself.
    God please, send me a good man and I will love him so much.

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  38. God will bring you back dearie

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  39. Something i have never told anyone-As i young girl in secondary school, i had no toaster, no one wanted to ask me out even if i would refuse, so i would write letters from my imaginary boyfriend to me, whenever i felt sad or alone, i would read the letter to myself and be happy. Unfortunately for me, my mum saw one of the letter and spanked the hell out of me but i couldn't tell her i wrote such things to myself otherwise she would take me for medical evaluation or something worse. I never tried it again. Funny how those guys would see me now and stare at me with the' i never knew you could be this hot expression on their face"
    Rant- Why is it impossible to meet a guy who doesn't want to sleep with you after two seconds and to think i met someone recently, he wasn't as financial stable as the guys i had met in the post wanted to go down too until i gently told him it wont be possible o for good reasons, after three weeks, i have not asked for anything from him o, i even decline lunch dates cos of my tight schedules,and pay for my stuffs when we eventually do cos he explained the so- called setback he is having, only for him to ask him to loan him money for fuel and recently to send him recharge card. I gave him the warming of his life and moved on sharply. Do i look like CBN? I just tire

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  40. hey you guys won't believe me but guess what?????? I made the 100th comment heyyyyyy

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    1. Yayyyyyyyyyy! My first ever 100th comment and it was by Nwamaka! I'm not surprised. Lol.

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    2. Nwando I was just waiting for the comments to clock 99 lol.Nwamaka

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  41. Im very very bored! I just completed university and im sitting home everday..I have nothing to do except go to d gym which is becoming very boring..I dont hav any friends to talk to so im kind of a loner..my bf is in a foreign land and is actin really strange these days..im almost sure its over..I cant wait to start my national service in October at least I wont be this bored..I need friends!!! *hmmmmmmm* long sigh
    From:lonely in accra, ghana...

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    1. well are we not meant to be lol.. same thing..done school, no relationship though, no friends because I did not school in my current city.. job hunting..always home, there are places to go but I have no one to hang out with..I feel like I'm wasting away.. I mean, i can be shy but I'm a cool person lol..I do not go to a nigerian church (besides it's very far)..I plan on joining a youth bible group this weekend.. hopefully I meet cool people..I'm not looking for a bf.. i just want friends to network, hangout and just have fun.

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    2. You got friends here! How can gym be boring or have you achieved your reasons for going there?

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    3. Its not like I have achieved my purpose for going to the gym but it has become too monotonous...this is the only place I come to everyday that gives me joy..you guys are the best! :-)
      From:lonely in accra, ghana

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  42. Had to talk to somebody last night about jobs in Nigeria, there are not so many out there and the pay are kinda poor.
    Can you girls find something to do, anything at all..please write here, you may be able to get some help.

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    1. Please when you say find something to do, can you give us ideas, anything at all?

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    2. I need to know a bit about you to give ideas, otherwise my ideas may confuse you.. Give us a bit of who you are and what you like to do, what you wont mind doing, where you live, etc. I believe there are opportunities in Nigeria if people do not mind starting small.

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    3. First, I'm not a degree holder, my circumstances made that so plus, I wasn't encouraged by the number of unemployed graduates. I love to read, write poems, I'd love to do learn about handwork that can benefit me if my plans to travel out eventually works. I stay in Lagos mainland. I can be open to diverse things if you're willing to suggest. Thanks.

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  43. just watched this video of nigerians getting married..
    https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=320662318093135&fref=nf

    LAVISH!!! chaii!! ..made me think of my life for a second..I'm 22..just finished school so what next..yea, money is not everything BUT!..seeing the way people live (hopefully the legit way) I must live a very comfortable life. I just have to strive to be the best in order to attract a correct partner!..
    My folks are not rich.. father isn't involved self so I have to be the best..buckle up, good grades, rediscover myself, meet people and get involved, and not be an introvert! that is my biggest problem..but it is well.. oya, I'm going to register for GMAT..

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  44. @Wale: Good evening. I have sent my CV to Thelma like you said..Thanks so much for wanting to help,means a lot to me knowing someone I know not could actually truly care about one he's never met or seen before. @Thelma dear: please,check your mail. I sent you a mail and attached my CV to the mail. Please,kindly send to @Wale. Thanks T #inruthy'svoice#

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    1. Great, let's see how it goes. I have gotten help from people I never knew and I am committed to paying it forward.

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  45. Alright, here is a knotty one. Would you hire somebody that used to crush on you? How would you handle the work relationship if you end up hiring him/her? How and what kind of boundaries are you gonna set from day one?

    On another note, why do many girls seem so fixated on marriage and relationships these days? I kinda have an answer if I go with the Bible but time have changed so I have no clue as to why this is so.
    Can the ladies throw more light on how not to be financially stingy in a relationship, I have heard many women saying the bf or husband is stingy. What exactly does it mean?

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    1. Stingy boyfriend/husband: One who refuses to come to terms with the fact that his spouse's needs more than double those of his. It's their nature though. I remember the days my dad would grimace at the demands of my mum and three sisters. When it was my turn to ask he would say, "Hope you know you can't get me with all these fallacious requests? I was once like you". Hmmm. The girls' requests aren't questioned, but mine would bring up a conference. Issorai... :D

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    2. key words wale "used to" if we are sure it's in the past, why not ? I'l hire him or her and there will be boundaries because we both don't want to be in a weird or awkward position.."used to" the guy has moved on abi ? no wahala.

      about females bing fixated on everything relationship and marriage..because we have sooo much time on our hands guyyyy lol.. hmm I think is because of the society..that's a good questions because I don't know why either.. like it's natural..either relationship or marriage talk.
      a guy that loves to hug his wallet..does not like to spend on the babe..just on his self alone...will rather go to the market himself than give wifey money to buy groceries.. I've heard stories..some guys may be stingy but what if the reason is because they do not have much money (but they don't even look it) to spend and splurge. While some do have a lot but they have troubles spending it on anyone other than themselves.

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  46. My girlfriend broke up with me in April 2012. Reason: there was this guy her family wanted her to marry then. She was 19. During the pendency our relationship, we did not go under the sheet. She was virgo intacta. And I felt there was indeed no need to rush; for with her, I was thinking about the future.... I really loved her,though I must admit I was not the best boyfriend, for as you can see- I was mischievous. But I loved her to the point that when she left, I was literarily, 'torn apart'. Long story cut short- the guy ended up not marrying her again.

    Then I (who was left) pleaded with her to come back. But it didn't work out. Having thought about it over the years, I'm came to the (rebuttable) conclusion that maybe she's no longer 'virgo intacta'. Reason being that she gave way to a person she thought she'd spend the rest of her life to. Now, she thinks I may 'punish' her for that if she ever comes back. (My opinion o)

    Now, I'm over her. For real. But my problem is: I need a woman in my life. A woman who will, inter alia, have a deep influence on me. For you see? I don't want to cheat on or maltreat my woman (in any way). And I fear that may happen if she doesn't possess what it takes for me to be crazy about her.

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  47. Chimezie I tink not cheating/maltreating ur woman is a personal decision nd shudnt necessarily bt based on how she makes u feel,seeing as feelings are known to flunctuate

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  48. @ Chimezie,Kim Kardashian wld have been perfect for u but she's already taken...I'm sorry!

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  49. Where have I been?! Reading! I just finished writing a professional exam, wish me luck guys, wasn't as easy as expected but I tried my best, had to submit cos my head was aching and I was presses.
    My ex used to call me every morning to say "good morning dear how was your night, did you dream of me? Blablabla and no more calls until bed time, "hello my baby, how was your day, any gists?" And then I used wonder what kind of man he was until my new relationship, boo calls me like kilode! Registered my line on his CUG network, I have my hands free on almost all day, knows everybody in my office by voice, even my favorite cleaner. Now his voice sometimes bores me. Am I cray?!

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  50. Hmm I dont understand why single girls do this.
    So I wanted to read this blog and network was crappy so for the first time in more than 10 years of getting married, I picked DH phone and went through it.It was so dry i was about dozing off when I decided to go through his BB, Im so not a BB person and then I saw a chat with this girl that was toasting him.I was taken aback with the chat , I mean why do women throw themselves so cheaply at men, I was even more saddened at how DH addressed her, very disrespectfully yet she was still begging him for a date. What is wrong with ladies of nowadays, p.s Im not young oh but married really early and so I can be considered a "gen y" too but I obviously don't reason with my ass.
    whatever happened to some self-respect?
    The next day I asked DH about her and he told me all about her and even invited me to please call her off, I felt sorry for her, I swept this issue under the carpet and now 2 weeks later, he came back from work and told me he missed her call again and I went ballistic, why don't you freaking tell her off. well it was past 9pm and as a britiko man that he is, mentioned that it was too late to call a single unmarried woman as the call might be suggestive.One look was all I gave him, and he called her, asked why she called, and she didn't give any reasonable answer. and then he proceeded to tell her never to call again , the girl was shocked and almost in tears , asking why? he was like are you freaking kidding me? I am a married woman and the shameless url started begging again.

    choi…enough of this rant, I just don't get it, whatever happened to some damn self-respect.someone help me out here.

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    1. married man*
      vex dey catch me as I dey type am, make una no vex.

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    2. Chillax HSF, at least your spouse is not having anything with the woman. You gave him one look and he called her! Do you know the meaning of that one look?

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