Someone shared a video with me on Facebook. It's one of these Madea's (Tyler Perry) videos and this clip touched me so much that I had to write it out and share with you guys, since I couldn't post the video on the blog. I think so many people need to hear/read this:
"This is what i've learnt; if somebody wants to walk out of your life let them go... Especially if you know you've done everything you can do, you've sat around and been the best man or best woman you can be and they still want to go, let them go. Whatever they're running after, they'll see what they once had but by then its going to be too late. 'Cause 3 years from now you're not even going to remember their last name. How many times have you seen an Ex somewhere and you were like what the hell was I thinking? You'll be like what was wrong with me? What was I going through, I must have been lonely as hell to hook up with you!
Let them go!
Some people come into your life for a lifetime, some people come for a season. You need to know which is which, and you'll mess up if you mix seasonal people with lifetime expectations. Some people get married to people they were only supposed to be with for a season and then they wonder why they're having so much hell in their life. That person was just supposed to come and teach you one thing, you didn't know it so you just fell in love, and now you wonder why you have no peace.
...And people just have to learn how to be by themselves, I don't understand all these people always saying oh I need somebody, Lord where is my man? Lord where is my woman? That's crazy as hell! If you don't know how to be by yourself how are you going to be with someone else? Stop praying about it, shut up and Wait. Go and work on you, that's what this time is for.
I'd rather be sitting around alone in a corner and be happy, than be with someone in my house and wonder what they're there for. You'll be surprised the things people put up with just to have somebody say they love them.
I've seen too much in this life to want to live without peace. There are only 2 places in this life that you'll have peace, the grave and your home. And if you can't have peace in ur home then there's something seriously wrong, I'm sorry."
Everything about this rings so true to me. Presently I'm thankful I have "let them go" and I'm somewhere in life where I'm content and at peace with my aloneness and working on me every single day.
I pray for us single ones (this is a prayer I say daily for myself) that God would give us the discernment to differentiate between seasonal people and lifetime persons.
One thing I've also learnt is that I'm better off alone and happy than as part of a couple and miserable. I remember saying to my Ex whom I wrote about in the I dodged a bullet post; "I was happier before you came into my life. Your presence in my life is meant to make me happy but it's doing the exact opposite. How is it possible that I feel lonelier in a relationship with you than I felt when I was single?"
Yes, he was a seasonal person and I'm glad things didn't work out because even I knew that I wouldn't truly have a happy life with him.
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