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Nigerian Gay Pastor; Jide Macaulay on The Expiration of Being Gay.

I've never heard anyone say being gay has an expiry date. 
Although I have difficulty reconciling being homosexual with being a pastor, like I told a friend yesterday when we were talking about bleaching expert; Pela, I admire anybody who's willing to embrace their individuality, sexuality and 'uniqueness' regardless of how they're perceived by society or how people might judge them. 

But this is just me, these are just my views. I'm all for doing whatever makes you happy as long as no one gets hurt, and I choose not to buy the baseless conclusions that homosexuality is similar to paedophilia and bestiality and I may tear my ears off if I have to hear that one more time. I would rather a man come out of the closet as gay, than marry while having trysts with other men, thereby possibly exposing his wife to STIs she may not even know exist, and also ushering her into a life of unending frustration and disastisfaction as he would never be able meet her sexual needs. 

Anyways I just wanted to ask you guys; if someone very dear to you is secretly gay, would you encourage them to stay in the closet and remain frustrated and repressed but free from judgement and condemnation
Or would you encourage them to come out of the closet, embrace their sexuality and have a shot at happiness and love but risk getting judged and taunted?

I'm not even sure what my own answer to this question is...


  1. I am bi-sexual, I enjoy pleasure from both sex, do u advice me to come out too? Nope. Behind closed doors thelma.
    I ask myself how did I get here? I was abused as a young teenager and since then, babes get drawn to me. Most times I avoid them, but hey I enjoy the act.
    Still asking God for the grace to stop. before you judge me I plead guilty

    1. Well it's not sincere if she's anonymous, and no one can judge an anonymous commenter. Lol

  2. I would encourage them to seek God and help! I totally categorize them as one wt d pedo n bestial folks. While trying to understand and accommodate people's need and right to b true to themselves, I am not and will never be that liberal. It's a twisted and dark force at work in their heads for all I care... for let God b true and all 'freedom human right activists' men b liars!
    Got me a gay cuz, and while he's one of my favourite people, I still think he's not normal. Nobody should even give me the "judge not" sermon, cos I don't see them as sinners (aren't we all?) but as people under bondage.
    As per 'Pastor' Jide... God help his 'christianly' self b4 it expires on earth. Odikwa Egwu!

    1. We are all twisted. I don't see being gay as one bit abnormal. Really who is the judge of what is normal and abnormal. Animals have gay sex. Few years ago it was abnormal for a woman to be a doctor or a lawyer, even in America. Why it's such a biggie is what I don't get. Oh! I know. The bible says it's a sin, so is a woman talking in church (check corinthians).
      If you will be a good christian, stop choosing only the parts of the bible that is in your favour.
      Homophobia irritates me. That's the crime. That's the sin.

    2. My dear, I clearly remember YOU don't believe in d bible. IMO, that makes you unqualified to understand much less debate what it says or doesn't say about sin. Mayb when thelma does a post connecting to something we both believe in, we'd have something to learn from each other (if it's worth d higgy hagga of course).
      As per my crime of being homophobia... am yet to see one court system that'd try and convict me for dat. Same however can't b said for 'our' homosexual friends(thank God). #abnormalandtwisted
      And while we'r singing d freedom songs, let's write in d right to have sex with our children, crawl on all fours and chew weed like animals just cos we wanna b progressives... am dancing already!

    3. You cannot be homophobic and have homosexual friends.

    4. Sin is not a christian word, dear Muna and it's not applicable to christianity alone. And when you realise you are talking of human beings like you who can feel pain and hurt, who might even be reading this, depressed and ready to commit suicide because homophobic people like you have told them they are abnormal and sick, maybe you might stop joking about it and comparing it to pedophilia and chewing weed.

    5. @anon...dt line was list on U obviously. @ifesinachi... read ur first comment. U mentioned sin in direct reference to the bible and followed up with my 'selective' Christianity. seeing as dats d only religion am interested it, I restrict d use of the word to what I believe in and not it's meaning across religions.
      I have no intention of offering my shoulder to d just about anybody to cry on. Suicidal tendencies are sad but totally beyond my control. They should seek help! Spiritual or psychological. Whichever rocks their boat. We mustn't all play good cop in ds movie.

  3. Alas Ifesinachi has said gay sex isn't sin. ok, fornication isn't sin, cheating on ur boo isn't sin, and yet u rant about such tinz. Nwando asked a question about a family member living in d closet. answer dat Pls.

    1. How about you get imprisoned for 14yrs because you cheated on your boyfriend or slept with a man that isn't your husband. And mind you this question wasn't directed to christians alone. Don't assume that I share the same religious beliefs as you. For all i know, I believe in LOVE and KINDNESS and don't care what hole rocks your boat as far as you are being kind and loving.

  4. Thelma I would advise them to stay in the closet and be happy. I don't think they can be happy if they come out, especially in a country like nigeria. they're better off hiding biko.

  5. Being gay is a sin just as fornication is.The fact people engaging in the later are not condemned as people in the former does not make any of them less a sin. J

  6. This gay thing is a really tough stuff, some days i just say let them be, whatever rocks thr boat, but then again, i would not want being gay to rock the boat of my brother or my son

  7. Being gay is unnatural, abnormal and is a sin.
    That it's said some animals have gay sex does not make human gay sex any more natural; no. So do some animals prey on weaker members of same kind, should we too humans do so? Because there's a proof of animals doing so, making it seem natural.
    Even gay people know they're doing wrong. They know it.
    I don't think gays should serve jail terms as it's a sin against one's self, as fornication, adultery.
    I wouldn't advise one who's gay to come outta their closet and be happy. What I would is, seek help. It isn't an easy habit to stop/ temptation to resist.

  8. cccc and Muna I am soo happy to read the comments of people like you who speak the truth no matter how politically incorrect it might seem. You have said it all I have nothing else to add


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