I think I was about 10yrs old when my older sister came grumbling to me. We were circumcised. Seeing as she is only 2yrs older than me making her 12 at the time, I wondered why she was so concerned as I had no clue what that meant. She tried to explain. I still didn't see how that would affect our lives, after all it happened when we were babies and the pain was not anything I remembered. But she kept saying we wouldn't enjoy sex. Forgive me but I always was a late bloomer, always following her lead, another reason why my parents made sure we didn't go to the same boarding school so she wouldn't 'spoil me'. I attended an all girls boarding school and remained blissfully unaware of boys, aside from having the occasional trying to look good for when we had joint events with KC and Odogbolu boys. Oh, those innocent times. But honestly, no one really took any notice of me.
I wouldn't have taken any notice of me either. I was stick thin, no breasts and no curves. Fast forward to Uni days, when guys actually started to take notice of me. I gave up my virginity rather easily, I suppose just trying to seek approval and love. But I felt nothing really. And with my sexual experiences after that. Most I did to please the other person, I always saw myself as detached from the experience. Was that down to inexperience on the part of the players? Or my sisters words ringing in the back of my head. We wouldn't enjoy sex. Is that what made her a bit of a free spirit? Experimenting with boys and girls? Was she searching for the elusive enjoyment? But when I met someone I actually loved, I longed for the sex. My emotions fully engaged. But alas, I have never been able to orgasm from penile penetration. Only direct clitoral stimulation. And then i worry sometimes, am I frigid? I can't be frigid if I feel the stirrings, can I? And want the contact. But is it still at the back of my mind a desire to please my partner?
There was actually a Wemimo movie (for the yoruba movie lovers) where the the theme was the ills of Female Genital Mutilation. The protagonist was a woman who was circumcised and saw no need for sex outside procreation. Having given her husband 3 children, she concluded sex was not food and promptly locked up shop. The poor man resorted to extramarital affairs, which led to a pregnancy and ended up marrying he other lady. A tragic chain of events was set in motion that saw the whole family destroyed, and at the end of the day, the lesson was do not circumcise your daughters, as they will not enjoy sex and the results can be catastrophic.
So I am asking. Any other circumcised blog readers out there? What has been your experience?
And I would like to hear from men who have been intimate with women that were circumcised; are there any particular challenges? Is sex with them tedious or less enjoyable than with an uncircumcised woman?