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Calling All Men!

Good morning people! There's just something so exciting about Saturday mornings, don't you think? Well for those of you that work on Saturdays, please accept my sympathy. 

Anyhoo, it occurred to me that you, I, we only read and hear stories of heartbroken women. Do a post on heartbreak on this blog or any other blog/forum and the ladies flock out in droves telling their tales of woe and baring their battle scars, each one's story more pathetic and sorrowful than the last. 
And then when it's not posts it's mails. Unfortunately most people don't want their mails posted but the mails written by chics currently passing through one heartbreak or the other are sometimes almost as long as a chapter in a novel. 

I think it was when I read one particularly long and tear-inducing email some weeks back that I wondered, wait, don't men get heartbroken too? How come nobody ever hears a man talking about heartbreak?

I know for a fact that men get heartbroken. I also know that you guys deal with things differently from the way we do. You internalize a lot of things, you drink the pain away and you bury it deep inside of you. 

But I would really like to hear what heartbreak feels like for men. As in, an honest account. 

A few guys have mailed but even though I don't know who they are I still sense them trying to maintain some control, still trying to act all macho. It's like "yeah, she broke my heart and I'm hurt buh mehhn shiii, it's on to the next bitch, never loving another chic again. You women ain't loyal mehn, f*ck that sh*t". I'm like; issokay! LOL. 

Seriously though, men we know you have feelings and emotions too, more men commit suicide as a result of a broken heart than women do, so it's possible that you feel this pain even worse than we do. I know it's manly not to whine and cry and all that and I'm not asking you to, but for once, let's talk honestly about being heartbroken. 

Another thing that fazes me is how a man will sleep with a different woman every month and flirt with chics on bbm and other social network when he's in a relationship and then is shocked and heartbroken when his girlfriend breaks up with him. I've never been able to make sense of that one. Can you please explain it to me? 

Women, has that happened to you? Your boo repeatedly cheats on you like you guys signed an agreement at the beginning of the relationship allowing him to sleep with and flirt with whomever he wants, whenever he wants, and when you get tired and say you want out of the relationship they fall down on the ground and grab you by your ankles and swear that if you let them go they will die there on the floor.... Makes no sense to me. 

(I can't shake this feeling of excitement this morning. Have a blessed day y'all!). 


  1. Thelma I once dated smone like dat,he claimed he LOVED me n wudnt av sex WITH me cos according to him,he was preserving me. I was a virgin den at 20,but wat pisses me off d most was he had three hot babes he was shagging,I even caught dem pants down on several occasions but in d midst of it all,he wud beg n beg till I get tired n accept but wen d shit was too much for me to handle,I bounced him stylishly. I av also broken a guys hrt once Thelma,in fact I watched him cry like a baby but k wasn't ready to change ma decision

    1. Lol @ 3 hot babes he was shagging. That's y I laff at girls that are celibate or virgins and think their boyfriend is waiting for them. Sorry babe, he has like 3 hot chics he's shagging outside. Lol.

    2. Same thing happened to a friend of mine, her now ex told her he was keeping her while sleeping with other girls.
      But another girl on the other hand told her boyfriend to sleep with other girls while she kept her body intact, it made sense to me at that time, but it doesn't anymore

  2. @anon,yy laff at me?I wanted sex but he insisted on waiting,so u see. Not my fault

    1. Mabel I'm not laughing at you, it's just girls that say he's waiting for me that make me laugh

    2. He saw d wife material in u den...but dats total selfishness

  3. Well, my ex broke my heart by dating another guy and lying to my face. Our communication reduced and we just stopped talking, I was heartbroken because she was the first woman I ever loved. Deleted all her pictures and everything that'll make me remember her and couldn't sleep well for 3 months. We back as friends now, but anything we talk about the past it hurts me deep inside and I get all emotional, even as I'm typing this

    1. I gats a feeling I know u! It is well ok. The more heartbreaks u have,the more u wlndt feel a thing when the next one comes. Lol
      NB: don't let ur next suffer cos of ur ex(s)...

    2. True that. Iv just had my second heart break in 9months. I haven't even cried this time. I'm trying to laugh, so much and so hard. I don't even want to talk about it, just told my friends we had broken up, but didn't give them a reason, no matter how they pushed. Inside I'm really hurting though... to imagine he is an ex I reconnected with... mtcheew

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  5. Blessings....
    Yeah the joy of Saturday morning is wait.....what I don't have to get up early and prepare for work, rushing out the house, flaging down the bus out of breath and breathtakingly grateful to the driver for taking pity on you and stopping and you say breathlessly "thank you, thank you, so much woooo!"

    Yeah men have heartbreaks the difference is they usually hold it in (while we women let it out, shout it from the roof tops) and let it fester and burn their insides creating small decays until that too begins to spread and contaminate their being.

    have a blessed and joy filled weekend.

  6. I used to think that I'd experienced heart break till I broke my own heart by myself. I cheated on someone I wasn't dating yet but I was very much in love with. We were almost at that point of taking it to the next level when another girl came into my life and lust like I've never felt before took over and we started nacking. One day my love stumbled upon my text messages saw her messages, then I went in and saw her crying. She said that there's no way we can get to that other level cos I betrayed her trust. I heard a loud Crack in my mind and till now I think it was the sound of my heart, I won't lie. She's now married to another and we stayed good friends but never dated. Till today I regret cos she's a wonderful human being. It took me years before I finally got over her but whenever I see her pics I still feel butterflies. Oh well
    Now to the case of men that cheat and expect a girl to stay, truth is that they never expect to get caught. A man sleeping with another doesn't mean he doesn't love the one he's with. I know how that sounds but it's the truth, a man can nack a woman and forget her name immediately after he cums. For women it's different but I won't go into that now. If a guy keeps cheating and keeps getting caught it's cos he doesn't love his partner enough to code it properly. In some cases he's too chicken to break up and wants her to do it herself so he rubs it in her face. Some girls are too stupid and desperate to see it. Sorry but it pisses me off when I see a girl that thinks one particular man is her whole world and she must die on top his matter

    1. A girl who think one particular man is her whole world & she must die on top his matter? *checks my body temp*. NOT me anymore!!!
      Guys though, biko ur hearts can break. Lol. No apologies...

    2. Welcome back, Steele! "A man sleeping with another doesn't mean he doesn't love the one he's with." it means he doesn't love her enough, enough to respect her and know that he's doing her wrong even if she's not aware.

    3. Memphis i'll buy cold stone ice cream for that I promise.... LOL

  7. Women are more vocal and emotional than men. And a crying or shinning man is seen as a weakling in our society, so they put on a brave face and leak their wounds in silence.

    1. *lick*
      Jeez! Am getting tired of this auto correct! Shior!

  8. yeah, she broke my heart and I'm hurt buh mehhn shiii, it's on to the next bitch, never loving another chic again. You women ain't loyal mehn, f*ck that sh*t"
    Lol. Thelma ur not serious.

  9. have neva bn heartbroken ... In love as I type


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