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Dealing With The Burning Pain Of Unrequited Love.


The one thing that's just as bad and sometimes worse than heartbreak is unrequited love. 

Unrequited love: 
Loving someone who does not love you
Loving someone who does not know you exist
Loving someone who once loved you but no longer does
Loving someone you would do anything for when that person is very oblivious to you. 

Have you ever felt or endured the pain of unrequited love? Sometimes what burns the most is the intensity of the love you feel for someone who loves another, or someone who once loved you but no longer does and there's nothing you can say or do to make them love you again, sometimes it's deeply loving someone who leaves you eternally in the friend-zone. 

I've experienced unrequited love. Some people who don't know what it means will tell you that you have no self-worth or low self-esteem. What they don't know is that these have nothing to do with love or the heart. The heart loves who it loves regardless of your sense of worth. And when this person whom the heart loves shuns it, it sometimes causes the heart to bleed. 

The worst kind of unrequited love is love once requited. Seeing someone you've shared your body, secrets, moments, tears, laughter and love with, treat you like a stranger or even an enemy when you still love them so deeply. That's a devastating kind of love. 

Have you ever experienced unrequited love, are you currently experiencing it? How do you deal with the rejection, the hurt and the unending disappointment? 


  1. Well,for me,the 2 men my heart is proudly unrequiting for are Boris Kojoe and David Beckham.
    How am I coping with knowing I know that they know that I don't exist? Their pishure fills the void...

  2. Thelma I think unrequited love is even worse than heartbreak. I'm currently experiencing it but he's my Ex's best friend and I don't even know where to start from. We talk and we're actually friends but he says my ex is still in love with me and he cannot betray him. I really don't know what to do. I'm in love with this guy. I have pride so I cannot beg him but every night I just beg god to make him love me too.

    1. And you are waiting for your ex to come back? Is there hope and future in that? Otherwise, use your tongue to count your teeth and move the heck on. Your ex's best friend does not appear to be a good candidate except both of you don't mind or if you both are just planning on a fling.

  3. T do you also think about those you put in the friend zone, this is how they feel too. #everybodyhurts.

  4. Have experienced many silly things in life and my heart is pretty hardened these days even to many family members. I have gone past the stage to expect anything from anybody, some disappointments can lead to depression.
    I love me first and share whatever is left.

    1. I should learn from this

    2. Abeg when do you start your self love lessons , Cos im tired of wasting it on other worthless ppl.

    3. Wale, I'm with you on this.

    4. I really need to learn how to love me too. I'm tired of loving others too much at my own expense. I give and give and give until there's nothing left, I don tire.

    5. So true Wale. I so wish I can always think of myself first before others, it would save me from a lot of trouble!

    6. Agree with you Wale. I so wish I can think of myself first before others, it would have saved me from a lot of trouble in the past, now and in future. I remember my brother-in-law telling me I should always think of myself first and how every action would be beneficial to me before making a decision.

  5. #Word#, i luff me first and share whatever is left.Thank You wale.

  6. I've never experienced this before, maybe cause if I send you and notice you don't, it takes me 0.00.01 second to switch off. The speed at which it happens scare me sometimes but its kept me sane.

  7. Singing....I love me, I love me enough for the both of us.

  8. I was like Queen Spicey, Never experienced such or should I say I was the giving the unrequited love until I met this dude. God I love this guy ooo even if he wasn't willing to spend or so, I was just happy being in his company until recently I noticed I was doing more of the calling, pinging, texting, visiting etc. I just jejeli sat and spoke to my brain, if this is what they call love, pls aint interested biko. I have been on my own ever since. #would rather be loved than being the lover#

  9. I remember wen I went to this guys house under d rain. Kai n he wasn't even @ home or picking my calls. Wen I switched off was wen he was all over me but I had moved on even tho I still loved him. Mrs m


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