Good evening Thelma. I'm in my mid to late 20s and I've been dating my fiancé for more than one year now. In the beginning I just wanted to have fun because my ex bf broke my heart. I met my
fiancé and I thought he will just be a rebound bf. I don't know how we fell in love but somehow it happened. He has met my mum and my brother. (We are only two, dad is late). My mum is ok with him as my boyfriend. But now he wants us to get married and I'm happy but I'm scared. He is more than 20 years older than me and he is a divorcee with 3 grown children. I don't know if it is wise to marry him. I've never met his children but they know about me, he said he has told them he wants to marry me and they support him. I really love him and he has everything someone can want in a husband but I know marriage is different from dating. Please what do you think about marrying an older man, and a divorcee too. Please you can post it on your blog so that blog readers can advice me. God bless U.
Someone close to me is married to a divorcee and the main issues that I've noticed are that you/your kids are rarely ever priority. Also when she's excited about something; pregnancy, the babies etc, he always has this "been there, done that" attitude so he doesn't really share in the excitement. Also where there are kids from the previous marriage the wife is never really out of the picture.
There's also the issue of making comparisons between this new wife and the Ex, but I guess that doesn't apply to everyone.
A few other general observations (most divorced men that I've met tend to have insecurity issues that happens to make them controlling). I guess that doesn't apply to everyone either.
But besides these, she seems to be enjoying her marriage so...
I know a few ladies who are married to older men and they're seemingly happy. A friend of mine (Age-29/30) is married to someone in his early 60s. The only complaints she's told me about is that they don't share similar interests, he doesn't do stuff like go with her to the movies etc, and he's a bit too serious. He's also quite controlling (but that's not my story to tell so *lips sealed*). But generally she seems to be happy too.
A few however complain that sometimes the divide is just too great and they have nothing in common with their husbands and wish they'd married someone closer to their age.
I've not personally been in either situation so this is the little I know.
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