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Delay Is Not Denial.

I told you guys I was with my mum yesterday, as usual we started gossiping about stuff and I asked her about one of her close friends who's in her 50s. I told my mum that when I called her a few weeks back she was sounding unusually happy. My mum laughed and told me the secret. So aunty *Katherine who's never been married at 52 and has lived a very sober, solitary life reconnected with her teenage boyfriend who she used to go to the farm and the stream with many many years ago. He left for England in his early 20s and got married to a white woman who died some years ago. He began to feel lonely and in need of a new companion and thought to take a new wife and everytime he thought about it the name Katherine kept repeating itself in his ears. He finally came back to Nigeria last year to search for his long lost love and months later they're now planning their wedding. Aunty Katherine is so happy, this woman had given up on love and marriage and had resigned herself to living and dying alone. 

So when I saw this Post I also thought to share with you guys. I know we're probably not that advanced in age but let this be a reminder that for that problem which you've already accepted as permanent, that hope that you've already given up on, there just might be shiny bright lights at the tunnel's end. 


I Met my ex-husband in 1993 when i was 18 and we loved each other . And in 1994 we got married. He travelled abroad in 1996. i waited for him for 9 years before i joined him abroad by then i was 29 years . After i joined him, he got irritated, saying i should hurry up and have children . He started making caricature of me making references to me as barren . I started training as a nurse and after i got a job in the same hospital as him. Before i knew it , he began having affairs with people in our work place.Even when i was a student.,It wasn’t easy , cos my home was hell. i had abuses on my childlessness. How i passed my school exams ,till today i don’t know. He started dating my manager at work cos we were both in the same industry. Even when i confronted him , he didn’t deny it .
I had issues with irregular periods so we tried IVF and it failed . All hell was let loose .Then he called me that someone was pregnant for him and that someone was my manager at work. I Begged him to still stay with me even though there was a child on the way. He said he wasn’t interested and that i should leave his house. I cried and cried but God told me that he will give me a child. By then i was 38 years. He was insulting my parents everyone that spoke to him , he picked a fight with,. later he moved out of the house to live with my manager. He also got me a divorce just to get rid of me. I still refused to leave cos i loved him and i remembered how far we had come .
Finally i moved in with my sister and we divorced in July 2011. Then I started seeking God more than ever.

March 2012 i saw this guy at the station awaiting for a bus who happens to know my sis. And we got talking , and after chatting with him, he asked suddenly if i was married and i said no. He took my no and said he would want his bro to marry me . May 2012 his brother called to say has heard a lot about me and that hes interested in me. Even when i told him i was divorced he didn’t mind. We got married. Between Jan – Feb i began taking fertility medication 2013. In Feb i missed my period. And that was when i tested and found out i was pregnant. And in Nov 2013 i had my pretty daughter at 41years. 
The joy in my heart when i see my daughter has caused me to forget the pain i went through as well as forgive my ex-husband. God is so good . He has wiped my tears . I don’t know what you are going through ,but keep trusting God and he will surprise you . And to the men , as much as its in your power do not abuse your wife because of any circumstance that she cannot change. Support her , go through that journey with her. I am in a happy place now.My husband is a gift from God . I encourage everyone to hold on to God he knows how to change your story .


  1. This story touched me. This reminds me of the bible passage that says "the heart of man is desperately wicked" I'm glad her story has a happy ending most don't

  2. Been trying to comment since. Lemme see if this will go through. Happy birthday to Sasha Bone, Ifys baby,.......and Congrats to Mrs M..and Dr N. I'm specially happy for Dr N. Its like I just had a baby myself even though I don't know how it feels. Been a while. Miss everyone. Whatsup??

    1. Welcome back. You were missed too. Now Ifesinachi, Steele......... where are you? I hope all is well?

  3. Hmmm...delay is not denial eh? okay! I'm waiting. God is good eh??? Okay. If she insists. I'm in such a dark place right now. Unfulfilled desires, unanswered prayers. It seems like the things I have no desire for are what I'm getting...and God is good. okay.

  4. Delay indeed isn't denial. A couple in my church gave birth to a set of twins (a boy and a girl) on the 25th year of their wedding anniversary.

  5. Yes, delay is not denial. God doesn't fail...He doesn't even know how to fail.

    1. 'He doesnt even know how to fail' chei!!! indeed He doesnt..

  6. I and my boyfriend were meant to be forever but he met another girl at his work place. She did everything to break us apart B'cos she was younger and attractive, and finally my boyfriend moved in with her. I tried few cheap spells but to no avail then I ordered the most powerful love spell from and I don't regret it! i and my boyfriend are back together and happier than ever. if you are heart broken and you want your lover back contact this spell caster Robinson, he is A top spell caster of the season, he has such a perfect view on love spells that I believe he can solve any case given to him. I recommend his love spell to couples in need of help. Use his services, call him +19715126745 and you will have your lover back.
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    1. Chei Chloe DiarisGodOh!!! Ordinary boyfriend is what U are casting spell up & down for? & he is still an ordinary boyfriend? Not even a husband? Ur village people are dancing sekem on your marital future oh!

      To this post, Delay is certainly NOT denial. Just like the stickers I see on cabs "Destiny can be delayed but it won't be denied". #WordsOnMarble
      Me am over patient with God sef. I don't care or worry anymore. I'm just letting Go & Letting Jehovah. His hands are never short.
      Ruby D, I see U!

    2. This hustle is real oo, these fraudsters looking for who to dupe all over the internet. It beats me how someone ll go through all this trouble, open a google account, commenting on posts just to get magas, and to think that people ll still fall for this crap baffles me. Thelma Please delete that comment, we dont do voodoo here, take your silly spell to another blog where empty vessels like u dwell. I ll go anon on this before u ll start stalking me for spoiling ur market *tongue out*

  7. God is great, his mercies endureth forever

  8. When we have unanswered requests, unfulfilled desires, unachievef goals, it appears God has abandoned us or He is non-existent. Truth is, HE knows what is best for us and the timing. Surely, HE is ever faithful


  9. Indeed! HE is ever a faithful GOD. Our timing is different from HIS.
    HE says just as the sky is far away from the earth, so are HIS thoughts and ways are far different. I thank GOD for these testimonies and rejoice with the people.


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