Have you ever dated or been friends with that kind of person that can hold on to grudges for years on end? The type that will still talk to you and smile at your face even while they harbor so much bitterness against you in their hearts.
I guess for me because I've always been the kind of person that will let you know when you offend me that I feel offended. I don't care if we fight, scream,nor argue about it, just as long as we talk about it and put it behind us, and I expect that when I do something that hurts or offends you, you extend the same gesture to me too.
I was reading something last night that reminded me of someone from my past. Three weeks after we started a relationship he suddenly changed and started treating me 'anyhow' but for the next two years refused to fully break up with me. It was about two years later when I said I wanted out completely and that I was tired of all his sh*t that he exploded and told me that he had put up with more sh*t from me.
This guy then proceeded to tell me something I did 3 weeks after we started dating that made him change towards me and then things I did subsequently after those 3 weeks and the next two years. When he listed these things I had goose bumps all over my body! How?
So he was there when someone called me on the phone 3 weeks after we started dating and asked if I was in a relationship and I said No. So he saw me in the club (Baccus) that weekend I came to Lagos and lied I was in Enugu, about four months later. So that guy that called my phone (one year after we started dating) and said we met somewhere whom I subsequently went to visit at home was his friend and it was all a set up? And all these were over a year ago and this MONSTER was just telling me now????
I couldn't understand it. How could he have known all that and said nothing, acted like all was normal and refuse to end our so-called relationship? How does he sleep at night?
Admittedly I was young at the time, those were my carefree years and I wasn't the perfect girlfriend (partly because he wasn't the perfect boyfriend either..... which I'd just learnt was as a result of lying and humiliating him in front of all his friends 3 weeks after we started dating). But as far as I was concerned anyone who could hold onto something for that long and still kiss me and profess love to me can kill me in my sleep in the middle of the night.
Have you ever been with someone like this? Someone so passive-aggressive that they can hold up to the hugest grudges and greatest bitterness without saying a word about it yet carrying on like everything is normal? How do you cope with people like that?
If you're that kind of person, please what makes you act the way you do? And more importantly, how do you sleep at night?