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Is There Really Anything Wrong In Marrying For Money? (Dabota Lawson'sEngagement)

Last night I read on  LIB that Dabota Lawson's wealthy multi-millionaire boyfriend had just proposed to her. 

Linda Ikeji reports that the man also recently bought her a Range Rover SUV and is Abia State born and Lagos based billionaire, Prince Sunny Aku, the CEO of Novena Majesty Furniture, said to be in his 50s.

Dabota shared her relationship goals and a picture of the hubby-to-be on her Instagram page, below. 

Ok. So I can see how this is really going to get tongues wagging. I found this particularly interesting because just a day before Sasha Bone and I had this conversation about young ladies marrying (older men) for money. It was an exciting conversation, Sasha has an 'interesting' perspective of most things. LOL. 

But seriously though, I need to ask;
-Is there a possibility that she's marrying this man for reasons other than his money?
-What exactly is wrong in your own opinion, in a woman marrying for money, especially if its the man himself who's proposing the marriage? (I would really appreciate rational and detailed answers to this question). 
-Why do people think that when you're dating a much older wealthy man, it just has to be about the money. Is LOVE completely out of the question?

Personally I'd say Dabota, JUST DO YOU. As long as you're at peace with the choices you make, and you're happy (or have a semblance of happiness), just do you! Some of the people wagging tongues and chatting BS would give their right hands to be in your position. 

Photo source: romancemeetslife


  1. I dnt tink it is love..

  2. U won't convince me that it is is purely for the money..then love can come later

  3. We all know it's purely for d money,but I kip asking pple,can money buy HAPPINESS?anyway she cud b happy. I wish her wat she wishes herself. As for me,I cnt MARRY for money cos I get easily irritated n Moody,so def,d GUY wud know I dnt love him but rather his money cos I cnt imagine an old man's mouth kissing mine awwwwwww* puking tins*

    1. Hey! I'm 24 yrs young and I don't Like your comments on TT. Yeah, I don't knw u much but I won't even imagine your mouth Kissing mine. I Love kissing though! Hehehe, that said, I feel she has the rights to choose whoever she deems FIT enough to be her husband. Congratulations my lady.

  4. People marry for different reasons. A guy can stick to a girl that has serious atitude problem just because she is pretty and vice versa. Some marry for the family name which can open doors if you get what I mean, so if a girl decides to marry for money so be it. Remember different things make different people happy. Some girls are only happy in r/ship where there is so much money. Yes money can make one happy and I heard older guys give the best attention any woman can ask for. One man's meat is another man's poison. Personally if i'm looking for money it has to be a young guy i'm generally not into older guys. J

  5. People marry for different reasons. A guy can stick to a girl that has serious atitude problem just because she is pretty and vice versa. Some marry for the family name which can open doors if you get what I mean, so if a girl decides to marry for money so be it. Remember different things make different people happy. Some girls are only happy in r/ship where there is so much money. Yes money can make one happy and I heard older guys give the best attention any woman can ask for. One man's meat is another man's poison. Personally if i'm looking for money it has to be a young guy i'm generally not into older guys. J

  6. Like d above anon noted, some people are happy once there's money. In the end it's her life and I strongly believe there's more to a marriage than love. Different other variables come to play including finance. And priority placement is Different for us all. So if a girl decides to weigh in d money more, it's just as ok as it is for most guys to weigh in looks more when considering a relationship with a girl.

  7. I would say I wouldn't date a guy based on his bAnk acct but I will marry a guy based on how he intends to take care of me and our children. I will even delay the marriage rites if his account is not meeting my expectations sha. I for one gets obssessively paranoid thinking about a penniless future because my biggest fear is having a husband that will depend on me financially and I also fear I will lose respect for him. So in other words, while I won't date a guy based on his riches, I will not marry the same guy if I don't think he will be a good provider. So it is also safe to point out that money is 65% of happiness in marriage if not 70%. As regards marrying an older man, he would be very young at heart and extremely wealthy for me to embark on that journey. I think she is doing it right oh if you ask me.

  8. The picture Dabota put up about goals is something! Lol. It kinda suggests her relationship is money- motivated. Might not be so.
    It's not always about money when ladies marry older guys. It's just difficult for observers to agree.
    One thing I know though, the older guy's money makes you listen to him in the first place, then you see he isn't just about money.
    Also, it's actually no body's business why one decides to be with another. Totally not anyone's business! It's the usual that lotta people talk about people,make people's lives subject of much speculations, wrinkle their noses etc, without even genuine concerns about them.
    What I think is purity of intentions matter a lot in marriage.
    A man/lady decides that they really want marriage to work and be happy in it, and for them money sincerely does it. They choose based on that. For another it's about feelings, intelligence and all, they choose based on that too. The downside to this is, when it's only money, the lack of it would destroy the marriage. But then some people may never become poor! So the marriage works!
    No matter what one decides, as long as it doesn't harm others, it's their lives, their choices, their pain or gain.

  9. Money is an important part of a relationship, its also possible d old man treats her right and also adores her, there are people u meet and the rules change, this kind of man ll not be manipulative in any way or keep her guessing abt d rship n all. So money might ve played a huge role but love cld also be there.

  10. I aint saying she's a gold digger but she aint messing with no broke nigger...lolz. After that Kanyes track,I guess its case closed.

  11. I personally think every man (abi na girl?) for himself.
    Everyone has a reason or reasons for getting in a relationship with someone. it could be the swag, their job, their look, their religion, their money, etc.... i personally think judge not, so you would not be judged.
    .... but... and this is a very big but, i hope she is marrying him in the true sense of marriage, and not to chop and clean mouth. becos that one will be a problem. but if she's marrying him out of love, and he is doing the same, then to each their own :-)

  12. No one's motivation for marriage should be money alone, even though money is a very important part of every marriage (let's not deceive ourselves by saying otherwise). If there is more to it than the money, I think its fine. If its just the money, it wont be enough to keep this ship sailing.

  13. Personally I don't bother with the marriage choices of people that aren't close to me so to each their own
    That said, whatever reason you marry for try to make sure it's not one you might live to regret, if money is the reason then trust me you might end up being very unhappy, of you think the man wants to marry you cos you look like a trophy and not because he loves and respects you, then you'll end up being a bitter woman. If the man is marrying you cos your body is banging and your sex is good, don't forget that there'll always been a more banging body with even greater sex out there and if she catches your husband, pele. Personally the only reason I can marry someone is because we are each other's number one fan, we have mutual love and respect for each other.
    I think some girls are more attracted to the maturity of the older men but that maturity has to have a large bank account because I've never seen a hot girl marry a broke older guy.

  14. If I go with your logic steel, do you agree that you may be someone's number one fan today and marry that person and years down the line you won't feel that way towards the person. So the fact about beauty and banging goes for a woman that you love. both situations your spouse may find same qualities outside after some years in a marriage. Whatever makes you happy stick to it in finding your life partner even if in money. Some people will ask" what happens when there is no longer money" my reply to then" what if the love vanishes" J


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