“True love” someone wrote, “is like ghosts which everyone has heard of but few have seen”. So much has been said about it…yet so much remains unsaid, I believe. Well, not anything that I can point to now.
Puzo wrote, “When a woman loves you, you can piss in the sink”. But after you had pissed in the sink, she’ll cry her heart out and sleep. Only to wake up in the morning and smile at you.
What of when a man loves? “He can trade the world”, Bolton mused. But I say, “He will fight against his world; change or utterly ignore and refute the things he once believed in … and become shameless! He simply betrays his ego.
Truth is, no one ever ends up with the person they first truly loved; because often times, we love them more than they love us, and they hurt us…. They love someone else who can never love them the way we did…and still do.
At this point, the person before this piece seems to be standing before a mirror. The image is familiar. Most of us had journeyed on this ship. Then at a time, we found ourselves rudderless… shipwrecked and washed up ashore. Only to wake up in the ghost-haunted island of loneliness and melancholy.
Adele’s “Someone like you” reminds me of true love. What it does to us and how we neverreally let go of the ones we truly love.
First, we hear the flying gist of how they’ve found someone new; how they planning on settling down. We pray and wish it’s all not true as something tells they’ll come back. But we were never too sure. Maybe the new person offers what we couldn’t offer. And we don’t know what it is. And it’s a dream come true to them.
Thus barfed Adele almost tearfully- “I heard that you’re settled down… married now/that your dreams came true/Guess she gave you things I couldn’t give to you”.
Then comes the wedding. Whether we were invited or not doesn’t come to play, because we will end up being there at last. Just like we appear knowingly or unknowingly wherever they are, that sometimes they think we are stalking them. This is because we appear there with the ineptitude of a secret service greenhorn. We gatecrash at this wedding because we find it difficult to let go!
“I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited/but I couldn’t stay away/I couldn’t fight it….
This is to tell them- “That we are not together doesn’t mean it’s over… for us”
“I hoped you see my face and that you’d be reminded that for me, it isn’t over”
Then you turn to the pages of the past. It’s been like eternity but the memories are still coated in green! It was just like yesterday.
“You’d know the time flies…”
You remember maybe the adventure- the making out on the couch, knowing you two could be caught any of the family members; yet you ignored the fact that somebody maybe watching. Then the night on the lawn in front of the cathedral. The angels and saints bore witness…. The stars and moon too, as you trapped each other in the warmest, tightest embrace. It was heaven!
“…bound by the surprise of our glory days”
Nothing was or will ever be like it. Though it’s ended, there’s no need to worry because that will make things worse. It’s part of life-lessons to learn and things to remember.
“Nothing compares. No worries. No cares/regrets and mistakes, they’re memories made”
But it surprises you it ended the way it did. Who on earth would have known?
“Would have known how bittersweet this would taste”
In spite of the nightmarish heartbreak, we wish them luck-the very best.
“I wish nothing but the best for you”
Wishing them luck, we hope to find someone like them.
“Never mind I’ll find someone like you”
But that’s n’Awka! It will never happen. It doesn’t work that way and never will. We’ll never find someone like them. We could find someone better but never will we love with the same fire, such intensity that mocks madness. This is true love-the one we never wish to let go. It has no semblance. We have only one true love…the rest are gibberish copies.
True love is to us all, what orgasm is to women. Even women have more orgasms.
By Chimezie Ogenna Nwodo
Barrister Chimezie is one of our blog readers. He wrote this after a break up a while back.
As usual I've got a question. Do you believe we have only one true love in our life time? Personally I don't think so, I mean if we do then most people have missed it because I doubt if 85% of the population of people in relationships and marriages are with their one true love. That's a scary thought!