I just read an extremely long story on a blog about a guy who's been married for several years to a frigid, unconcerned, disinterested woman and is looking for some sort of solution.
I ran through the comment section hoping that someone would offer sensible, meaningful advice but all I saw was spirit, spirit husband, spirit wife, ogbanje, deliverance, prayer, spirit, marine, spirit, spirit, MFM on and on they went. I just couldn't deal so I shut down the page. For the umpteenth time I find myself asking; what is wrong with Nigerians?!
Last night like I told you guys I watched Da Vinci's demons and there was this episode where nuns in a convent were all running mad, having hallucinations, mumbling gibberish and tearing their own flesh or gorging their own eyes out. In true religious fashion the convent called a priest for an exorcism. Everyone believed the problem to be spiritual (even though the priest knew it wasn't, but I digress), during the first exorcism he ended up killing the nun saying something about seeing her eyes light up the minute before she died just like she had seen God; she had been freed of her demons. Da Vinci however refused to believe that everything could be attributed to demons and asked for one more day to investigate, and it was discovered that someone had poured poison on the feet of a statue that the nuns occasionally kissed when they prayed. And that's how they got treated for their diseases and got cured.
Nigerians, we tend to believe everything is spiritual. Is it any wonder that we're one of the most backward nations in the world with all our country's wealth and natural resources. Sit back and look at the most successful countries in the world, the richest nations, the biggest economies; look at Saudi Arabia, China, United Arab Emirates, USA etc and then check just how "religious" or how Christian they are. If success and progress was by how religious one is then Nigeria would be a god among nations!
Someone's wife is obviously in dire need of psychological help. She obviously needs serious therapy and mental evaluation and all the confused husband gets told is that his wife has a spirit husband?
I have said and will always say the religion will be one of our greatest undoings in this country. But hey, let me not go into a rant of how poor our people are in spite of how religious and prayerful we are, in spite of the number of churches you can find on one street, let alone a city.
Or should I go into a rant on how our spiritual leaders get fatter and more robust on the offerings of their impoverished congregation? How do you drive your hummer jeep with your 30 MOPOL and ask a lowly civil servant who's praying for help to feed the kids to continue to sow, sow and sow even more. They say; sow till you BLEED. That's when God feels it. WTF? How about you Mr Pastor sowing into the life of this impoverished person from the several millions in the church's coffers? I attended a church service recently and saw this happen (for the 100th time) and I wanted to pull my hair out! Ok, I've digressed. Topic for another day...
Of course the spirit world exists, and the physical is controlled by the physical, but God gave us minds and brains for a reason; the free gift of thought. We need to begin to THINK and not chuck everything down to real or imagined ogbanje spirits, otherwise as people and as a nation we will never grow.
I couldn't go through all those comments but I pray that even just one person could convince that guy to successfully persuade his wife to get some much needed medical help. Yes sir, do pray for your wife and your marriage but please get madam to see a seasoned medical professional. If that story is true then that woman really needs all the help she can get. They shouldn't just see a counsellor, his wife must get help; they must get to the roots of her problem and begin to deal with it from there.
Meanwhile we as a people need to begin to key into this free gift of thought.