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Thelma Asks... (On Turning Back The Hands Of Time).

In an email correspondence with one of our blog readers a few weeks back he suggested that the reason I was going through some certain things was probably as a result of some things I did or didn't do in the past. I'm not sure if I agree but there's a possibility. 

Last week a friend said to me "if I knew all the things I know about my husband now I would not have married him". I quite sorry for her but in truth we all have our 'if I knew then what I know now' stories. 

What's yours?
If you could turn back the hands of time what would you change. 

Would you have filled your jamb form differently? Would you have taken that other job instead? Would you have never hurt that friend? Would you have married that other person instead or not married at all? Would you have refused to have that abortion? Would you have aborted that pregnancy instead? Would you have belonged to a different family? Would you have worked harder? Would you have pursued another career? Would you have never lost your virginity? Would you have never gone to that place if you had known that what happened to you would happen? 

What would you change if you could turn back the hands of time, what would you do differently?


  1. Thelma I don't even know where to start. I'll be back.

  2. I would only choose my words more carefully. Lesson learnt

  3. If I had known would have chosen different friends in school...cost me some years sha but all in all...I still give thanks...that naughty house wife....

  4. Some of these may come off as regrets but my actions back then were the results of how much wisdom I had. Key on my list would be..

    - Call mum frequently to tell her how much I love her
    - Spend more time building some great friendships I had back then
    - Not get married as initially planned
    - Take up that opportunity when promoted into higher role in my church
    - Keep running one promising business I built back then.

    Good thing is that I am making best use of what life has thrown at me since I cannot go back to undo these things.

  5. If I could turn back the hands of time I wouldn't be too trusting, I would have picked better friends.

  6. I should have picked my second school option in the big city. That would have given me more exposure

  7. I would have studied harder and not married my husband

  8. I should've kept my virginity abeg, those 3 earlier frogs no be it at all.

  9. I would have picked a dynamic set of friends.

  10. I would have insisted on Queens College Lagos, instead of yielding to my dad's persuasion of boarding school, though I learned a lot about lives' many lessons there, who says I couldn't have done better at QC. It's been years, but I just still wish I had.
    I would have read more in Uni and not rely on my guts to take exams - I always knew there'd be something to write. I had a good grade but could have done better.
    Maybe I wouldn't have frustrated my ex that much.
    I would still be a virgin
    I would just have gotten my own apartment after I got my job instead of staying with my guardian for my dads' sake.
    I would have saved all the moneys' spent on aso-ebi for some ''ungrateful'' friends
    I would have been less respectful and considerate! - It gets really annoying and feels foolish sometimes.
    I wouldn't have ....

  11. There's a lot to say o. First I would hv taken my studies more seriously. I don't regret not bin a virgin but I wouldn't hv slept wit some guys I dated. Then I would hv done a lot of tins differently during my wedding.Mrs m

  12. I would have lost my virginity before marriage. Its just not worth it, now i'm wondering what I missed.

    1. thank God someone finally said something about this! I always ask this question.. why will you choose to buy a car you never drove before and don't have nothing to compare it with ?

      i'M NOT referring that question to you. It's just something I think about. following the christain route, we should not have sex before marriage but what if you guys don't have that chemistry.. oh well "memethinks" is over now lol

    2. @memebaby, I beg to disagree with you on this one. Am quite sure anons issues doesn't just have to do with their virginity and if he/she looks closely, they would realise that they really are not missing anything.
      As per you relating sex before marriage to test-driving a car before buying it, well, I don't see how they both relate. Do you take the car home and drive it for one week, one month, one year before eventually paying to own it? no, you do not. and as a matter of fact even though you test drive the car for some, what? 10minutes/miles, and it seems fine, it still is certainly no guarantee for an everlasting usage. you eventually get tired of driving the car and you decide to loose it for a better one. How can you then compare this scenario to an everlasting relationship as marriage?
      Loosing your virginity before or keeping it till marriage has never been and will never be a recipe for an everlasting home. However, the bible admonishes us to keep our bodies because it is the temple of the Holy Spirit and Christ dwells in us, besides when we commit sexual immorality (fornication or adultery), we sin against our own bodies, and that is in fact, according to 1 Corin 6: 18 the only sin we commit with/against our own bodies. People should learn to stop relating virginity to their marital problems. Sex in marriage is one of the many ingredients that makes for a successful r/ship. After all, when you encounter so many sexual partners prior to marriage, do you eventually choose who to spend "forever after" with based on best sexual experiences? I'm sure the answer for the majority is no. It is infact this same reasoning of "testing what you want to buy" that eventually breeds couple problems as per sex, because you go don see say this one wey u eventually buy no good reach the one wey u been test before but no buy.
      My people, understand what God says about pre-marital sex and why he would rather yo obeyed him on that. Also understand clearly why you have problems in your relationships and remember there's nothing that cant be resolved as long as all parties involved are ready and willing to.

  13. I wouldn't have left my baby daddy for the 'obi is forverer a boy' I thot I was in love with
    I wouldn't have had my one and only very emotional affair with a married man. While I found the courage to walk away before he walked away from his vows, I still feel guilty everyday.
    I would have paid more attention to studying in school rather than relying on my 'intelligence' to scale thru.
    I wouldn't have trusted certain friends with my heart and money
    I wouldn't have picked up d habit of smoking as a way of easing d tension and pressures... quitting is such a struggle
    I would have gone easier on my mother during my growing up years.
    I still wouldn't marry a virgin, but I'd have been more careful who I gave the cookie to
    I would have been more spiritual and careful with life, and wouldn't have had the need to write down all this 'stories that touch'!

  14. HMMM, If I could turn back the hands of time .... I would have put more interest in mathematics, and not allowed my parents to move away from our old abode!

  15. If I could turn back d hands of time, I won't have married my hub who has clearly shown dat his mum n sistas are more impt dan his little family. I wld also have ensured I didn't get pregnant wch made us get married as I was doing better than him nd now, it seems he was wth me for wat he cld get. I also wld av faced my exams squarely and given more in my job as it is affecting me now. God help me facing job n marital issues at d same time isn't wat I will wish on an enemy. I pray God helps me.

  16. Well,if wishes were horses,beggers would ride..
    I would trust people less so I won't get hurt..
    But still,am living thankful and grateful,it could have been worse,but it Got better like old wine.


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