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1) When I saw this picture below I thought about bad advices, because three years ago someone gave me this same advice. So here's what happened. Some guy was toasting me but he had a babe. I told my friend who in turn told her aunty who in turn gave me this advice, which I took because it was given to me by a married mother of 4 in her 50s, so she had to know what she was talking about, yes? 

Well long story short, it ended up not being very good advice for me. BUT I ACKNOWLEDGE THAT THIS MIGHT WORK FOR SOMEONE ELSE. LOL. 

2) Forget about doing your Masters for now, get a husband first. Well I've not done the masters yet but what kind of advice is this? Oya nau, I didn't go for the masters. Aunty where is the husband? *RME*

3) You're too skinny, you look sick. Add some weight. Well I listened and look where that got me. 


LOL. What's the worst advice you've ever received? Do tell!


  1. First of all, no one should ever take that too thin advice. You'll live to regret it.
    Worst advice for me, pin him down with pregnancy. I'm so happy I didn't listen. We're married now without me first getting pregnant. I thank God I don't have to spend the rest of my life wondering if he married me because he was forced to or because he wanted to.

  2. Hmmmm,never had a worse advice because I dnt listen to pples advice,99 percent of times,I follow my hrt because pple wud advice u but wudnt tell u d truth. I only listen to opinion den I decide on wat to do.

  3. Lol. I agree with No 1. Ladies get ready to snatch or share.

  4. Someone told me to get sperm from my dead beat ex bf bcos I have early ovarian failure and go pay for IVF. For a man who after I disclosed my situation too and confided in him he gave me a get pregnant clause. And I said eff that I am not auditioning for anybody. I broke up with the misery october 2012, met my husband August 2013 and I was still carrying bitterness. My husband took me to the registry june 2014 and he had full disclosure of my status.
    imagine if I had gone through the ivf out of desperation I would be paying the kids schoolfees and taking care of them alone. Mbanu

  5. Worse advice ever. There Is no perfect husband, marry dis one. Let me not complain sha.

  6. Wise decision Miss Pink.
    T, advice #1, Bullshit, I won't snatch nor share my man, Exclusivity at its peak is what I deserve & demand or nothing. *RME*
    Advice #2, Double Bullshit, whether single or married, Do You. Get all the degrees if u so desire, get all the money if you so wish etc.
    Advice #3, Triple Bullshit, I only tell people to be FIT, weather skinny or big, be fit. No carry food kee yasef.

    My worst advice was "Take the Job Ruth, God understands u need the money that's why he provided this job, he also knows it won't give U time to preach or attend meetings but he'll understand ur inabilities"!
    LOL. I guess God understands when we fornicate intentionally too. #Rabbish!
    I DID not take the job. I'm trying to Give Jehovah MY Best...

  7. I Refuse to be intimidated by worst advice for me...beside am suffering from commenting block if there's anything like that.....dnt want to blive the fact that I might be depressed.....op all bvs are fine sha....that naughty house wife

    1. NHW commenting block kwa? ROTFL. Please get well soon. I hope they're fine too, a lot of them have been quiet of late.
      Please don't call it a fact; the depression. I refuse to believe that you might be depressed. You're always bubbly and happy and that's how it's going to remain o! Abeg oh! I dunno what's going on, depression/unhappiness seems to be becoming an epidemic of some sort but just like you I refuse to accept that.
      Naughty house wife, you'll be fine ok? Don't let anything get you down. *hugs&kisses*.

    2. @ the naughty housewife ….. pele, you'll get over it hang in there, Im justing gradually creeping out of my own commenting block/depression
      @Thelma thanks for reaching out via email. Turns out that irrespective of our "happiest people on earth" title, any situation could do a 360, with all the bad news left right and center, impeding political doom and madness happening around us, anxiety is in the air, a lot of Nigerians are angry, bitter, hopeless, depressed and studies have linked doom and gloom with depression.Our faith is the last card.

  8. I think you should do a whole post on depression and how to deal with people with depression. Because bubbly and happy faces are just masks depressed people put on. A friend just lost an always "happy and bubbly" friend to suicide. The poor girl was wearing a mask and no one saw through it.
    Naughty house wife. We might not be of any use to you and whatsoever you are fighting but am sure T and most readers of this blog can give you listening ears whenever you want.

    1. I thought about it and maybe I'm in a bit of denial but I'm generally trying to avoid "dark" topics for a few days. There's just so much gloom and doom everywhere, like a dark pall hovering around.

    2. Hmmm "in denial" nd dats my second

  9. "Listen to your elders they know the best"
    In the 21st century?? Only those who do things "the new way" succeed...CHANGE is the key fact now.

  10. Don't go for your Ph.D men would run away from you because you are a single lady (even though I am just leaving my mid 20s). I never budged, saw this as a way to even sieve through the men who lacked confidence.
    I am happy I never took that advice because I have the most confident man ever who is not threatened by the fact that I will have a degree higher than what he has and so proud of me even------UG

  11. Worst Advice
    Fidelia just close your eyes and marry one of these guys thats askin you out.

    Ermmm No thanks.
    I'll get married with my eyes wide open.

  12. Dnt b like London Girls and have a baby out of wedlock because no London guys ll marry u. This was the advice of my ex bf friend after i found out that he lied abt his age, marital status( seperated But still leaving with wifey) and aving another child wif wifey without me knwing, while dating. On countless time i did asked abt d baby, but he said na His cousin child. Anyway long story short am wif the most perfect Man nw. Treats me and my pumpkin with Pride. Am the one holding marriage dwn sef

  13. Worst advice?I don't have any,I DO ME as long as it makes perfect sense to me and I live as I believe..with God,best decision ever!

  14. No such thing as ''advices'' honeybun. Plural is still ''advice''. erm worst advice I ever got....let me see......maybe......''manage the man you have blah blah blah..'' thank God I didn't settle for other news, Thelma I dreamt of

  15. I don't have a *worst advice but I have one that was bad. My roomie then in my 200l *advised me not to buy my new bf a valentine's gift that it would seem as if am too eager lol, we had just started dating two weeks prior to vals day and I asked her as an older experienced person what she thought I should get for him and she said NOTHING. I followed the advice and I still cringe when I remember it now because he was so sweet that day

  16. Pls mine was too dumb,i wll talk abt it some other time.cuz d useless advice lead to series of ugly events.i took it frm my very close short sighted friend bcud she also listerns wen i advice.


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