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A Blog Reader's Plight; Sunday Tonic

Once upon a time I used to go to church to hear the word
To listen to the preacher and be inspired
To praise and worship and feel uplifted
To pray and be blessed
But not anymore. 
Now I go to church with one thought at the forefront of my mind
Will he notice me today?

I spend all week waiting for Sunday to come, Sunday comes and the service ends too soon
He sits on the same floor, at the same spot, just adjacent to me
He's always immaculately dressed, tall and well shaven
He always stands out from the crowd, a tall sexy fountain of dark chocolate
Did I add single too? Of course I searched for any rings on his left hand
When will he notice me?
How much longer can I bear to suffer in silence?
How can I arrange for us to meet?
Could he have a crush on me too?
Thelma I have a church crush and now he's the reason I go to church on Sundays
Monday to Saturday I spend fantasizing about him, imagining what he's doing,
Who he's with and if he's happy,
If he's thinking about me and impatiently waiting for Sunday service too,
Imagining how we'll finally meet. 
I've played out so many scenerios in my head, but I have a favourite. 
One day the preacher would say join hands with someone beside you and pray
Then from the corner of my eyes I see him pushing through and ignoring those sitting around him
He determinedly walks to my row and looks me in the eyes,
His eyes are two blazing pools of fire
Then he takes my hands in his and mutters; Let us pray.
All the while holding my gaze
I feel the electricity run through our bodies as he prays and I try not to pass out 
From excitement
And when the prayer ends he doesn't go back to his seat but stays closely at my side
Marking the beginning of a life long love affair
Culminating in marriage and the birth of our beautiful kids
But let me come back to reality. 

What do I do;
Just casually walk over and say Hello?
Or continue to wait till he notices me?
Blog readers what do you think?

Oh well, I wrote this myself. The blog reader basically told it to me over the phone, says she cannot write or put these feelings in words so I wrote it out as best as I could from what she told me. LOL. 

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  1. My dear life is too short to keep things to yourself o,pls walk up to him and tell him how you feel,be mature about it.if he feels same way,good for you,but if not,atleast d burden is off ur heart,u will feel better.all d best.

  2. Exactly life is too short. Try and find a way for your paths to cross and meet. But I hope he is really single. Btw T I knew you wrote this, sounds a lot like you.

  3. Concentrate in church, stop fantasizing and i do pray the Lord heals ur heart

    1. Momoh I no dey understand U sometimes oh. Is it not the same God she went to worship that put Love in all humans when he created us? Let her feel all what she feels & some more! So many marriages start like this!
      Poster please walk up to him & after pleasantries have been exchanged, simply as; Can we be friends?
      Maybe he's as shy as Memphis & needs a lil tickle. Do it with a lil smile & DONT shiver!

  4. They say church is the best place to meet your significant other, I don't know about that because meeting someone in church doesn't guarantee that the person is right for you.
    Anyway I like what Salam said, be mature about it. During service try to concentrate on the reason you're in church, listen to the word, not just with your ears but your heart too. Something else might occur to you, either you get the confidence you need to walk up to him or you start asking yourself some serious questions like, why are you so attracted to this man. First of all being in church doesn't mean that your natural physical urges are dead but you should be able to discern.
    If after all that you still want to meet him then you should have a good reason already planned, don't just walk up to him and start fidgeting and acting nervous. Women aren't the only people attracted to confidence, men too. So be sure to talk intelligently, don't make it obvious that you are attracted to him, make him more curious and leave him wondering about who you are so he'll look forward to seeing you again.
    Most important, talk to him like you're not gushing on the inside. Be calm and collected.
    I know this might be hard cos you're obviously already smitten so take your time.
    One way to approach a man so that he won't think you're cheap and lose interest instantly is to act expensive, hope you get my drift.

  5. Okay, I hope you are finding time between your euphoric fantasies to get uplifted by the Word, because crushes come and go, as do men, but the Word of God stays forever.

    As for your crush, it just wont do to fantasize about him all week and hope he's doing the same about you. I'm sorry to burst your bubble honey, but d'you think you're the only girl that has noticed he stands out? There's probably an entire harem of you looking your best on Sunday to catch his eye. Subtle hope rarely achieves anything as far as crushes go, because as sad as it sounds, your crush could be completely oblivious to your existence.

    You need to do something different... activate your stalker mode if you have to. Arrange a coincidental meeting. Where does he park his car? Oops, the spot right next to his just happened to be the best spot for you to park that day. Where does he sit? You know what, you have only just discovered the chairs in that vicinity are very comfortable. Who are his buddies? Guess what, they are just the kind of friends you've been looking for..

    You have to shine your eye o, or one day Mr Fine Guy may not come to church anymore, and there he is... gone with the wind, without you so much as knowing his name.

    Plus, you should speak to Baba God about it all; it is afterall happening in the Church :-)

    1. So many likes for your comment. I can't say more.

    2. That sounded like too much stalking! Good strategies if all she wants is to get laid, not so good if she is looking to be his wife in the future.
      The guy may be on to some other girl or strictly focused on the reasons for coming to church.
      Subtle interaction that is not prolonged is enough to know if the guy is game or not, anthing beyond that smacks of desperation; guys can smell that a thousand miles away!

  6. If you love somebody walk up to him and tell am you love am oh #inafricanchinasvoice

  7. I don't think you should walk up to him.You have to fill ur mind the the word of God so u can benefit from what u went to church to get.

    1. Ibisco no make me laugh abeg...
      I think you should go say hi to him, just try to be a casual friend and watch him closely, from there you would know if he's worth the trouble or not, if he turns out good enough for you then you can subtly do your thing with wisdom o but if not, then you can walk away knowing you didn't "fall your hand".

    2. Ibisco no make me laugh abeg...
      I think you should go say hi to him, just try to be a casual friend and watch him closely, from there you would know if he's worth the trouble or not, if he turns out good enough for you then you can subtly do your thing with wisdom o but if not, then you can walk away knowing you didn't "fall your hand".

    3. Ibisco no make me laugh abeg...
      I think you should go say hi to him, just try to be a casual friend and watch him closely, from there you would know if he's worth the trouble or not, if he turns out good enough for you then you can subtly do your thing with wisdom o but if not, then you can walk away knowing you didn't "fall your hand".

  8. Please organise a hook up! Maybe at a church function or after service. Just look for someone he talks( to a mutual friend preferably ) to talk him into getting with you. Find the right opportunity, when it doesn't look like you are coming up too strong and let him do the rest............if he doesn't reciprocate then, he probably doesn't like you.
    If you muster courage, then walk up to him and start up a conversation........E.g, how was service? What church group do you belong to? Basically neutral questions. Don't ask for his mobile no, so you don't seem desperate or pushy. If he wants you, again I say he will come after you.

    My personal opinion though. I stand to be corrected.

  9. Oh dear,this happened to me; I crushed on a guy in church for more than a year.Bros was tall and fine, I mean i used to daydream about running my hands up and down his upper body Abi na torso while service was going on(MFM for that matter oh).
    Anyways I knew I had to get over the crush cos twas just lust and Bros prolly didn't even know I existed.
    Then one fine Sunday,I caught Bros using his side eye to check me out(he would do this when he thought I wasn't looking).these 'looks' continued ,even my sister noticed one day.Needless to say,the crush came back in full force.I was happy,thinking God had 'answered ' my unuttered prayers.
    Bros even joined the department I was in,that's when I noticed a 'few sometinz'.He hardly did anything in the department, he would just sit by me and say nothing.the tin tire me,got over crush very readily
    Still see him sometimes cos we've got mutual friends but we never talk.the whole thing is just weird.
    Phew,sorry for the out!

  10. Church is the last place I would wanna meet my future husband though, I've got this church stalker, really scaryyyy, real life modern day stalker, never knew they existed foril... After service yesterday, I literally ran out of church just so he wouldn't get the chance to say hi, I didn't even wait to greet people...I'd rather meet my husband in a shop, or at the gym or something.

  11. lol when you should be listening to the word of God. So after service approach him and say "I'm curious about you, why do you always sit in the same spot every sunday. I look this way and you are always here" please don't do that "how is service thing" too boring. That question will catch him off guard and whatever he replies just repeat "I was just curious" give him your sweetest smile and walk away. Next sunday he will look out for you if he is interested. J

    1. Gbam! A billion likes!

  12. Every guy I've ever secretly crushed on turn back 'loving' me.. Weird?
    Few of my friends say they experience same thing.
    The sad thing is this.. when the crushee returns the affection, my own 'love' disappears.
    Maybe because I always crush on men that look and act tough.. Men I feel I can't have (that's what the whole crush thing implies rai?). Then all of a sudden, he notices me and starts showing me his soft side.. In my head I'll just be like.. Oh.. I thought u were tough and all that!


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