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Tee plz help me ask, how important is it for a woman to know how to cook? Is it a deal breaker if a woman can't cook? I am good at so many things and I'm an intelligent lady but people talk and behave as if if you cannot cook then you are completely hopeless. Also I want a man's POV, how important is it for your woman to know how to cook on the scale of 1 to 10 and why. 
Thank u. 

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  1. On a scale, 5. Atleast my lady shud be able to cook my favourite meal(Banga soup and Pounded yam) just like Mumsy does It, Dats all. I don't even mind being in d kitchen with her tho! NB: I'm sure Mumsy won't mind teaching her.

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    1. U wld be doing the pounding I suppose? Cos all ur gymming can't be in vein!

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    2. I usually pound wen I'm home, so I'm not bothered...

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  2. That picture tho. ROTFL. I just can't.

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  3. Ah ah, this cooking ish again? This is really becoming tiring.

    Ok, let me use myself as an example: I can't cook, but I can erm..boil rice, fry eggs, fry plantain, yam, fish. I can make stew, so long as it's not fresh tomatoes. I can boil yam. Indomie is a side attraction. That's about it. Can I cook? You be the judge, but if I can do all these then I can cook anything given the recipe.

    In your own case is it that you don't like to cook or you don't know how to cook? Two different things. If you can't cook, there's always room for learning. So ignore anyone who's giving you heat on this issue. As for me, if my SO can't cook no biggie. We go learn am together.

    If you don't like to cook that's quite an issue. What happens when you start having kids? Are they going to be relying on Chinese buffets? Someone needs to teach them politics of the kitchen. Whether you're a master chef or at level *boil water*, your kitchen should be your office at home.

    As for that being a deal breaker; well, intelligent and proactive girls always overshadow all else with reasonable guys (excluding bedmatics o). Stay blessed.

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    1. Well said, Memphis.
      I think if I eventually learnt how to cook, then anyone can. I remember when I was a teenager, and the torture my family had to go through anyday I cooked dinner. So so complain - tastless beans with stones, tasteless rice... tasteless everything, and one out of two times, the food was probably burnt. It was horrible.
      Then I decided to make an effort, which is where I think the major issue lies. In the past, I just couldn't be bothered being in the kitchen. I felt someone else could do the cooking, there were more stimulating things I could do with that time, and at a stage remember complaining that I couldn't cook with onions because it brings water out of my eyes (ke, seriously?)... I was just generally extremely lacklustre about the kitchen experience, and it reflected in my food.
      I think cooking is like many things in life. Just like a student who is passionate about school work eventually gets good grades, but a kid who is just managing so his parents won't complain would get management grades, etc.
      The moment I realised "Alright, Ada_ugo. What is it about your food that people always complain about? Why does your own pot of rice taste completely different from Mummy's own?" The moment I started to care, that's when everyone started asking "Ada_ugo, did you cook this food? It tastes good, not like your normal cooking"... and subsequently, I started to get better.
      So for me, it comes down to three main things:
      1) Having the passion/desire to cook a good meal
      2) Being able to follow a recipe (because let's face it, if you have a recipe, how hard is it to follow "leave the 1kg of chicken to boil for five minutes, then add half a teaspoon of salt"?
      3) Having a sense of taste. As long as you know what's sweet, and what's not, you yourself would know whether the food you are serving others tastes good

      If you are able to sort through the above three listed points, you should be able to cook good meals.

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  4. It's important d African gal child should know how to cook,in dis part of d world,a woman who cnt cook is seen as spoilt,lacks home training n all dat,believe u me,d way to a man's heart is his stomach after SEX.I suggest u learn,no harm in learning.

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    1. Seriously, mabel I've been an ardent reader of this blog without commenting. Of recent your comments strike me as either naive or just reaching out. Please learn from this blog about how to think outside the box. Do not let the *African* ot *Nigerian* mentality take over the whole brain. Think, think ehn. Stay blessed.

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    2. I agree with the no harm in learning part. My cousin could not cook to save her life but since her wedding she has made google and YouTube her friend and now she is so much better. Blogs like wives connectn helps too.

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  5. If she cant cook at all, na wahala be that because at some point in the life of the family, when the politics of feeding those constantly hungry mouths becomes paramount, then either constantly eating out or employing a cook becomes the available options.

    Personally, I cook pretty well and I actually enjoy it.

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  6. Not all guys attach much to this cooking thing trust me. I for instance can cook but do not like to cook per say I find it tiring and luckily for me the hubster is not a food person, he's not interested in all those ghen ghen Nigerian food and swallow is like once a week but give him a nicely done noodles and he's s happy child. However, this does not mean I don't learn new dishes just incase I have visitors with choosy palettes I'll not go and fall my hand.

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    1. God forbid that I come home to noodles!

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  7. I have two questions:
    1. Why are you specifically asking for the POV of men?
    2. Do you eat?
    You don't have to be a chef to know how to boil rice and cook beans.
    Except you are rich and can afford to pay a cook. It is annoying when you say I can't cook and you eat it. Learn how to cook then. It's a basic necessity abeg. Like knowing how to bath yourself. Who do you expect to cook for you? Your husband? Your wife? Everyday? That is just plain wickedness. Am commenting generally - For both male and female.

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    1. And if you are implying what I think, which is : Is cooking an important feature of a "wife material"? Then I think the guys should answer this.
      All I can say is you aren't material that should be measured, removed from and added to. Stop seeking validation. Stop trying to measure up to standards set by myopic people. Learn how to cook though, primarily to feed yourself.

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    2. Not just herself but her family too. Her husband and most especially her children.

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  8. Well I believe there are 3 important skills to life: Cooking,driving and swimming.
    As for cooking,its not just bout knowing how to but having the will to actually cook at all times.I know a few who can cook but aint keen on it. So my dear know how to cook to save ur life atleast...

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  9. I always get confused when people say they cant cook. Its like so what do you do for food male or female? You have to be able to feed yourself, no one is saying be a 5 star chef, but woe betide anybody who cannot follow instructions on a recipe. With google damn near every recipe is available online, just follow d damn thing.

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  10. The way I understand the context of this question is that; can a woman prepare variety of foods apart from the basic rice, yam, plantain, stew and noodles? I say this, because I believe every adult male and female knows how to prepare these simple meals to survive on their own, after all, we lived alone either as students or singles. So the question sounds to me like; Do men wish to marry women who don't LIKE to cook?

    Its not a deal breaker to my hubby because from scale 1-10, am 5 and some times I don't like or feel like cooking and he simply brings home a take-out.


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  11. Depends on the kind Of hubby u got oh..Atleast its not dat u can't make the simple things in cooking...my hubby would say food is just a fuel for him,so he does not attach to much queries to my food...but some would knw if u use too much Maggie,salt,or pepper....but in as much there are blogs that teach how to cook...so learn.....that naughty house wife

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  12. Woman please forget POV of anyone & just go learn how to cook. If not for anyone, do it for yourself & ur future kids.
    Cooking schools aren't expensive & in a short period of time, tops 2weeks, U'll be able to make an English Breakfast, Nigerian Lunch & Chinese Dinner. Need I say u'll be proud of urself? Plus the joy is awemazing!!!

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    1. Love the "proud of yourself part". I don't understand it when ppl are like I can't cook and if it's a deal breaker. My dad is in his late 60s and yet still makes his own food. He knows that for health reasons that there are certain foods he can't eat outside and since his children aren't around to cater to him, he makes his meals himself hence it is important you learn to cook for yourself. Yes it is a deal breaker for a lot of men if you must know. I have this prreeeeeety aunty that the husband used to beat and she'll run to our house. As a child I didn't know why until she made her pot of beans then I understood why but the good thing is that she was trying to learn. As for me, my children must know how to cook MUST!

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  13. But who can a woman say she doesn't know how to cook? How can someone cook and it will b tasteless? I am always shocked when I hear someone say 'she can't cook' how on earth is that even possible?

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  15. From a woman's point of view. Eating out is expensive so why throw away that much money when you can cook myself. Learn how to cook it's not a big deal. J

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  16. Where is T ohhhh,since morning?haba,plsss T post something new. I MISS u ohh

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  17. You don't know how to cook or you don't like cooking? No problem, just stay away from me.

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