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Ciara Returned $500K Engagement Ring. What Would You Do?

Father please forgive me for having an opinion on someone else's SO when I don't even have S  talkless of O. But I always just felt Ciara was settling, with Future. I mean, YOU ARE CIARA bae! It's like you don't know who you are... I always imagined her with some Prince Charming kind of fellow, you know, someone like Justin Timberlake or Tyler Perry or maybe Taye Diggs and not Future. Future... Not like I have anything against him but...

Ok. That's all besides the point. So in case you haven't heard Cici called off her engagement to Future. And in case you also haven't heard she returned the engagement ring he gave her which is allegedly worth $500,000. And now some people seem enraged by this singular act. 

On one hand, the engagement is cancelled and the wedding isn't going to hold, neither is the marriage. So it only seems right that she returns the ring back to the giver. 
On the other hand the ring was given to her and is therefore hers. So basically she has every right to, and ought to keep it. 

I don't know but errr, I might look at it and say "this is my compensation for emotional suffering and having to deal with a cheating schmuck", then I'll trade it in and blow the cash on an extremely unforgettable vacation or something.
      Or I might be too hurt or upset and not want to have any reminder of the schmuck who betrayed my trust and cheated on me so I'd return it. 

What would you do? And while we're at it what are your thoughts on returning gifts that were given during a relationship. Would you return something your Ex gave you while you guys were dating? Would you demand for the things that you gave your boo during the relationship?

So far I'm yet to return or demand for anything, but that's just me. What about you?


  1. 1) If she had a friend like Keisha Greene,she wldnt return the ring
    2) This was a topic on According to Him and Her on BET (Friday at
    3) If he didn't ask for a return,I wldnt give it back. If I don't want a reminder,I'll give the gifts out to random peeps but him.
    4) I wld sell the ring and splash the cash on a good vacay to venice or ibiza. The ring becomes useless if there's not gonna be wedding

    1. I hope you'll take me along. Remember I told you I had a dream last night where you were driving a brand new tomato red convertible Benz, and I immediately woke to say a prayer for God to make that dream a reality? Sasha Bone remember me in your paradise. LOL.
      Oops! That's not to say I'm hoping you have a broken engagement... Just appealing to you to remember me in the event of a windfall.

    2. sasha, I also said a quick prayer for you when I saw Ibiza in your comment, it is on my to do list for this year and I know God can use you to make it happen.

  2. Keisha thought me not to return d ring, I earned it. So no, nada, zilch. I ain't returning no ring. It is my retirement benefit. Especially when we talking dollars or pounds... naaaah. I can't vex like that. Abasi akan.

    1. Return fire!!! Yorubas will say idi ti je (yansh don chop am). I don't return gifts no matter how angry I am.

  3. For what? Return fire. Even if he asks me to,it will take much fasting and prayers from him before I do.

  4. T, I sure won't return nada. This isn't about naija mentality o. The guy and babe have a child together now. It's part of child support. She shld hv called me for advise. Ta ta. Clare

  5. T, I sure won't return nada. This isn't about naija mentality o. The guy and babe have a child together now. It's part of child support. She shld hv called me for advise. Ta ta. Clare

  6. I traded mine for cash......


  7. d word 'return' wud nt even be in my diction sef.its payment 4 damages incured biko...

  8. I wouldnt return any material thing except for a ring.
    I returned mine, Wetin i wan carry D diamond ring do na? Besides it would only bring memories of the past, @such moments, one would be so filled with breaking thoughts to think of material things.
    Btw ciara got bucks of her Own.

    1. How are you doing now?

    2. Yep, she's gat more bucks than Future. She can even be his boss. So u see Y it was easy 4 her 2 return d ring. If not Ciara and her love for gangster niqqas, wonder wht would hv made her atracted 2 future, a niqqa dt has 3 kids 4rm different baby mamas and lacks respect 4 women!

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    4. @Mr wale i am better each passing day, thanks so much.
      @eesah, love made ciara overlook the baby mama drama, i guess she thought she could wither the storm. Am sure the ring aint her problem now. Besides she just made headlines with The ring.

  9. It depends on the relative cost of the gift to your worth. If you got a BB bold 3 few years back as a gift, when you were kind of broke, would you return it now that you're buoyant and can effortlessly afford a Z10? Well, I would return it, and if I don't I would surely discard without blinking. Ciara could be worth about $50million (not certain of her real worth), so $500k to her is like a *side attraction*. GOD bless her. :-)

  10. Anyway, I did NOT return mine oh. I go Rumuola junction go sell am. The whole process was therapeutic sef!
    I spoiled myself silly with it in one day! No time! It's MY ring.
    But hey, it's Ciara, maybe it meant nothing to her!

  11. Trust my Nigerian sisters not to mistakenly return anything, especially one with huge financial benefit!

    1. Wale ur comment made me lol. Mrs m

    2. Wale your comment made me laugh

    3. I returned the ring. I believe am engagement ring is not a gift but a symbol of intent to wed. It should be returned unless the man insists you keep it. However, if it was given as a birthday or Christmas or valentine's day present (and I generally don't agree with engagement rings as gifts) it can be kept. In my own case, I carefully packed the ring back in the box with the certificate of authenticity and sent it back.
      We got back together eventually so I got the ring back though, and now it has a partner lol.

  12. Mega-hugs F & Ruthy,babes after my heart
    I pray not to ever have a broken engagement but I ain't returning nada.For what now?

  13. Looking at it this way, the gift has a significance you accepted it because you wanted to marry him. Keeping it might insinuate that you're still holding on to him. And for record, if it was a cheap ring or something you can easily afford you'll return it

  14. My x still owes me money and I am sure the idiot doesn't plan to return it cos it's been over a year, guys that borrowing from chicks are the worst

  15. @ Wale, I was waiting for ur comment o. Hahahah, I knew u wld yab us naija babe's.
    My brother, lf Future were a Nigerian, I'm sure he would come for the ring.

    You know we Naija babe's do the extra for our guys. So don't blame us if we decide to compensate our selves. LOL. Clare

  16. This just made me remember my friend who was at one time engaged to be married during our service year in 2012..the engagement was called off and the guy asked for his ring back. My girl didn't even say anything,she asked me to accompany her somewhere,not knowing she wanted to go sell her ring! Just like Ruthy did,my friend spoilt herself silly with the money but not in one day

  17. I returned my diamond studs, the psp even before I knew I had to move on. I gave out the red shoe and most of the clothes even the Marc Jacobs bag, I didn't return the piaget white watch though but that one found a way to disappear on it's on. I still miss that watch.... I wanted no reminder of him lying around and that was when I moved on completely.

  18. Not only return, arrive nko?... He will have to snap my finger in pieces/bugle my house to take it back.


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