So I told you guys about a blog reader who's also a friend who has this church crush that had more or less taken over all her thoughts in every waking hour of the day. I even did a post for her when emotions wouldn't allow her to pen down her emotions in her own words.
My dear sister stayed crushing and waiting for the day that the handsome young man will look her way. I told you guys he's single and always comes to church alone, as he's been doing for over a year now. Today my sister decided to be proactive and walk pass where he usually sits and maybe give a little smile, make a little eye contact, initiate a little flirting... You know the drill.
So with that in mind my sister wore this beautiful blue dress, did some really sultry smokey eyes and expertly defined her cheekbones with just the right shade and amount of blush, then finished the look with subtle nude lips. We got to church and I walked behind with a grin on my face thinking today na today!
But then as fate would have it today that this young lady for the first time in over a year decided to flash green light towards the young man, was also the first time in over a year that the young man came to church with a babe.
Ah! My friend was gutted. ruined. crushed. shattered. devastated. All at once!
With her head hung low we went to our seat and then we were asked to changed seats for some reason so we had to move to a terrace on the lower floor. For the first time in over a year my friend sat in a different place, on a different floor, in a different part of church.
Church proceeded as usual. My friend sat on my left, on my right was a talk lanky cleanshaven man whom I noticed particularly because his feet were so neat and well groomed so I had to look up at his face and he was not bad at all. All fresh and clean... I had to leave church shortly before the service ended as I was rushing to meet up with an appointment so I said goodbye to my friend and left.
She called me after church and it turns out that when service ended she stayed back and waited for the crowd to thin out. Everyone left and she was left alone. A few minutes later Mr Neat-feet comes back to the seat and politely asks if she would like to go for brunch. My friend shakes her head no but says she would need a ride home. Mr Neat-Feat offers to take her home although his own home is in a different direction.
They left church together, really hit it off in the car and had a very lively conversation AND they exchanged numbers (Update: he's already asked when they can have dinner this week).
My friend seems pretty excited.
Now children what can you learn from today's lesson?
Here's my take home.
-They say it's madness to do the same thing over and over again and expect a different result. My friend continued to sit in the same seat for over a year and still expected the guy to notice her which he still never did.
-The same day she changed her position somebody, probably even better suited for her located her. Pray for God to place you strategically. You can walk up and down looking for money, help, favour, assistance and still not get it. But once you are strategically placed, you can stay in that position and money, help, favour and assistance will find you.
-You all remember the story of sister Red Shoe and sister Blue Shoe? Don't be going to church prophetically claiming a man that's already betrothed to another. Single ladies Be guided! The former crush left church with his arm around the new girl's waist so she obviously isn't "just a friend", and it's obviously not a new relationship.
- Isn't it how amazing the moment we stop looking for (love) it finds us?
-If at first you don't succeed try, try, try and try again. And if you still do not succeed change strategies, tactics, maybe even change your goals! Remember that when God says No it's not because He doesn't love you, it could be because He has other/better plans for you (and I'm not even referring to love or relationships right now).
-When one door closes another...
PS: I'm not saying this guy is "the one" or this might lead to something big. But hey, it's a world of possibilities, right?
And by the way, I wrote this yesterday not today.