Good morning Thelma, I have a story to share and would love ur opinion and the opinion of others, it goes thus; my dad left my mum when we were little kids(I and my sis),the incident left her devastated and after 5years she got married to my step dad. The irony of it is that,as the little child I was then, I never liked him, for no just reason but my mum was happy with him, she felt she found love again. He showed his animalistic behaviour after five years, he did the unthinkable.
He raped me,beat me and brutalized me,when mum found out and challenged him, he beat her up too. I was just 13years of age, it was a terrible case of depression, hatred, pain and agony. this continued for d nxt five years until I had to move out to stay with my aunty and after few years with her,at age 20, I moved to my own one room apartment and became free and I still live alone, though in a better environment and apartment.
My anger now is this, mum insists dat no matter what happened I should forgive him, which I hav done and she also insist he would be d one to collect my bride price and stand as my father on my wedding day, I am not getting married yet but the thought freaks me out. He has apologized several times because he is getting old but that connection and flow just isn't there, I could puke at d sight of him.
Now my question goes thus; should I dance to my mum's tune and allow him stand as a father on my D day, am I taking my hatred for him too far? T, i need comments and people's opinions please because I need to settle this before I locate or settle with Mr right.