I need advice. Can you post this for the blog readers to help me with their views on what they think of my situation?
I’m a 29 year-old single mum whose kid is 6 months old (I was not married). My ex and I broke up when I was 2 months pregnant after I found out I had been his side chick all along and he was getting married to someone else. I have forgiven him and I’m happily raising my baby with no input from him. I have a comfortable job, nice car and apartment; in fact I’m doing extremely well financially.
I have this guy (Max) who has been on my case for the last 10 years and has been proposing to me for the last 3 years. Now, Max says he still loves me and he’ll love my kid as his own. He wants to marry me immediately (no dating) and he’s prepared to send his relatives to come see mine in December. In Jan (when I was 7 months along), he wanted us to go do a registry wedding but I refused because it didn't make sense. How can a man want to get married to a heavily pregnant woman who is carrying another man’s child?
Max is a very good and selfless person. I've known him since I was 12 and he has everything I want from a man. My main problem with him is I feel no love, no attraction towards him. I do not even think he’s handsome.
Being a single mum and at my age, the probability that I’ll get married to a man I love is slim. Besides what has love brought me other than my son?
I must also say that, for the past years, every time I prayed to God for a husband, Max would call uncountable times begging me to marry him. Is he the husband God has created for me?
What should I do? I know he cannot keep waiting and I’m scared if I accept his proposal I may be making the biggest mistake of my life. What if I later meet someone I like? But aren't there arranged marriages that are successful?