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"I Have No Gifts!".

Good morning all!
I hope you had a lovely weekend? I sure did and I'm absolutely shattered that it's over. 

Gifts though...
Sometimes people mail me for reasons besides their relationships or matters of the hearts, some have much more pressing concerns and this is one concern that several people seem to have besides trying to heal from the wounds of one heartbreak or unrequited love or the other.

Someone mailed me last week and asked if there was something wrong with her because all she is passionate is her job and not a career path in creativity that she's building for herself, she said she has no gift and all she wants is to work and rise on the ladder of success in the (corporate) organization she belongs to. 

While I honestly see nothing wrong with this I needed to point out to her that each and everyone of us have gifts. Yet I understood her frustration more than she knew, she's not the only one I've heard cry out "I have no gifts, I have no talents, in have no special natural abilities..." And the one that bothers me the most personally; what if I die without realizing all my talents or gifts? And that's why when Pastor Paul Adefarasin spoke about Dimensions yesterday I was at the edge of my seat all through (but that's topic for another day). 

I find this particularly worrying because I know that everyone has at least one gift. While I don't think every gift can necessarily fetch a person money, it's something that we ALL possess within us. And the thing is this; God didn't just give us these gifts randomly for the fun of it, He not only gave it to us with intent, He also has expectations. "What did you do with the talents I gave you?" (Remember the story of the Master and his servants?)

So I'll like us to do a little exercise this morning.

For those of us that say we don't have any gift or are yet to discover our gifts I'll try to make it easier by asking a few questions and I hope this helps. 
What are you exceptionally good at? 
What makes you tick; what (activity you do on your own) excites and tickles you? 
What is that one thing that when you're faced with you're truly at ease because you can do it so effortlessly and beautifully? 
Given the opportunity to be whatever you want to be what would you be? 
What was that thing that you were very passionate about or very good at as a child before maturity or your parents or society influenced your decision of what you wanted to be? 
What's that one thing that when you're actively doing you lose track of time, you willingly miss out on sleep, food doesn't matter? 
Is there something in particular people around you usually like you to help them with? 
Is there a particular activity that when you're engaged in you feel like you're in your (comfort) zone; it's just so natural, effortless and appealing to you?

These are just a few questions to give you perspective and some clarity. Please think about it and answer them, share with us if you will, but this exercise is specifically to enable you gain deeper insight into yourself. 

For those who know their gift or gifts please share with us; what are your natural gifts and how did you discover it/them? (Sharing might also help others discover theirs). 

I'll like to go further. I'd also like us to discuss other aspects of gifts; developing them, perfecting them, utilizing them and implementing them to realize and achieve our God-given purpose, but for now let's do just this. Before going into all of these there must first be a known Gift(s). 


  1. Mwaaaaah! God bless you T! *bear hugs*

  2. It feels like you read my mind this morning. My greatest fear is also dying without discovering my gifts. That's why they say the graveyard is where the most talent in the world is found becos most people die without knowing what they have inside of them.

  3. I think we all have various gifts, One could just be more domineering than the others. Also it depends on the one you choose to nuture.
    You may like to do something or it may come to you naturally but you just do not recognize it as a gift. while talent is acquired you really dont struggle with gifts.
    If you have a gift of organising or putting things and people together, it could grow into a talent of being an event planner,or HR Person.
    If you make yourself look beautiful and combine colors well doesnt mean you will automatically be a good makeup artiste or designer. You may need training to develop the gift.
    Also the eye that sees, sees not itself. Ask your genuine friends what they think you are good at.

  4. I would say dancing and cooking, from childhood till date i win every dancing competition am in, i ve never been part of a cooking competition but i cook well and i ve this gift that when i taste smthing new, in my head i can make up what ingredients is made off n when i try it, i always get it 80% right. But hey i dont want to dance for a living jor, i want to be a seamstress, even tho i dont have the liver to quit my job n all that salary for sewing *sad face*

  5. Dear T,thanks for bringing up this topic,Pls am really confuse about knowing the difference between my gift and my talent.someone once told me they re the same....

    1. Gifts and talents can actually be the same thing, the dictionary describes them as the same, they're both from God and they're both natural abilities that we possess. However I think talents can also be learned or acquired. I may begin to take cooking classes, learn how to cook and perfect the skill so well that I could be described as a talented cook. Same goes with singing, sewing etc. So in this regard I'd say the difference is that a gift cannot be learned, it's present in you already, yes you should develop it and perfect it but it's an ability that's already within you, it's innate. Talent on the other hand is something that you may pick up as a interest, develop, polish and perfect it to a point where you become so profoundly good or immensely skilled at it, that it can now be termed as talent.

  6. Iv been praying about this for a while now... made more sense when I heard Dr. Olukoya's message on "the rod in your hands" or somfn like that. About how the rod in moses' hand was useless until God showed him or called his attention to it. And so many other examples like Paul, Peter et al. Got me thinking seriously. Thanks for this post. The questions are on point. Very articulate post! :*

    I'd really love to read more comments that explain what people like/love to do and possible fields they can excel in.

  7. Nothing nothin nothing :(

  8. Funny enough d only thing I find passion in still boils down to s fact dat I would av to work and dats impacting knowledge(teaching,lecturing e.t.c) I tire seriously because nothing nothing ohh.

    1. Of course you still have to work, having a gift does not mean that you need to stop working or that you must become and entrepreneur. Your situation is even a beautiful one because you're working in an area where you are already using your gift, and that's fantastic. What's left to do now is to develop and perfect these gifts (your teaching, lecturing etc) doing this will only serve to elevate you.

  9. My Gift- Dancing, My Talent- Filmmaking, my Profession- Cinematography.


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