I need to understand why men do this. Your friend's girlfriend is welcome into the fold, she cooks for you guys, she hangs out with you guys and follows you all for parties and other social gatherings, and during this time you guys call her "Our wife", "The Mrs", "Iyawo wa", when you guys know fully well that she's just a side chick and your friend is seriously involved with someone else and his family has already even met with hers' to 'make arrangements'?
Why do men do this?
If, since you 'don't know her from Adam' and it's "none of your business", and you have to be loyal to your boy, and you're not a snitch therefore you cannot tell her that she's just a side piece, then why can't you, you know, maybe just shut up? Why further convince her that she's "The Mrs" when you know fully well that in a few weeks she'll be kicked to the curb, be discarded like a used tampon?
I find this particularly painful because presently someone dear to me has just experienced this, I've also been there too and you have no idea how stupid and humiliated we feel when we find out that all along we were just being played and you idiots all knew ALL ALONG, yet you continued to convince us that we were his 'The One', the best thing to have ever happened to him.
When we cooked for y'all you ate and licked every last morsel off the plate and sang our praises and told us that your friend was a very lucky man to have found us. When we had issues and we came to you to try to help out, you doled out advice and told us not to worry, everything will be fine, you assured us that he loved us with all his heart, it's just that sometimes he can be a little spoilt, but we shouldn't worry about that, we were his, all the while knowing that we were just pieces of ass to him, and there was probably even four or five more of us. Just WHY?
I really need answers. Why do men do this?