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Love Strike!

How badly can someone possibly be hurt to put them on a Love Strike?

For those who don't know what I mean by Love Strike it's simply putting your heart and emotions on strike, shutting your heart to love and making a decision not to let anyone in... Some of us have been so badly burnt that we swear I WILL NEVER LOVE AGAIN!

A blog reader once made a comment like that, I cannot remember the details and I didn't pay it much mind till last night on Sharing Life Issues where Loneliness was the topic of discussion several callers called in and said that they were terribly lonely and needed companions. Two of those callers said they were lonely because they had been single for at least 25 years because they were so badly hurt by someone they loved and trusted that they closed themselves up and swore never to love again. 

Now more than 20 years later they find themselves almost drowning in the muddy seas of loneliness. 

What I can't seem to understand is how badly someone could have been burnt, how terribly a significant other could have treated a person to drive them to that decision. 

What makes even less sense is that while you go on a Love Strike, the person who drove you to that point moves right ahead, gets into another relationship, falls in love, maybe gets married and maybe have some kids, continues with their lives "happily ever after" while you remain closed off to loving someone again and subject yourself to eternal singleness and lonesomeness. You stay stuck in a moment. 

I understand that some of us have been so terribly burnt that we shy away from relationships and commitments, and we embrace the 'sanity' and solitude. But how badly could someone possibly be hurt that you swear never to love again...

Have you ever gone on a love strike? What happened, what drove you to the point of no return where you heard the word LOVE and screamed "Never again!". And if you have called off your strike, what finally caused you to put an end to it; loneliness, pressure, the possibility of true love...?


  1. Its the classic case of letting others dictate the pace of one's life. Its easy to be down and out, but the person suffers for it at the end.
    I remember breaking up with my abusive ex in october 2012 and i was sooo bitter that i hurt many people who tried to love me in their own way. By july 2013 i literally had to wake myself the fuck up and say i am awesome, i deserve a great partner. August i was already set by the time my husband showed up and i married him 10 months later in the registry. My formal ceremony ironically is exactly 2 year from that awful break up.

    People need to stop playing God in their own lives and creating misery or miserable experiences for themselves. He didn't create you to be unhappy.

  2. Well,for some its not love strike but sex strike aka celibacy! Lol

  3. It finally my birthday. Celebrate with me

    1. Happy birthday anon! God's blessings always

  4. Love strike ke kilon je beh? I don't know what that means I break up with you, I move right on to the next one.

    Happy birthday anon

  5. I've probably said that over minor hurts and as such never really meant or followed up on it. I realized early enough in life that my happiness ultimately rests with yours truly. If U were to talk of going on a trust strike however, I can totally relate with that.

  6. Never been hurt before to the extent that I had to go on strike. But celibacy oh yes!...

  7. Hiannnn,me keee?go on love strike?T biko life is TOO precious,u hurt me,I bounce u and get someone better,and I would rightly flaunt that person right in ur face. I no send and I dnt dull. Guess wat T,I have a funny talent,I always see when a heart break is coming,so I simply catch d guy unawares and bounce.

  8. I can NEVER go on a love strike for anybody!!! I rather love the next person more but cautiously.
    No one can make me bondage myself & happiness that way. Life is too short & to me, all men aren't the same. Someone will certainly love me like I need & deserve & i'll keep loving till I met him.
    Though I think I have! #whooooooop!

    1. Awwww Ruthy, i just love ur spirit, wish u all d best with d new guy, dont forget to update us oo *winks*

    2. Ruth your courage is admirable. All the best dear.

  9. What if you just can't let people in? What if your heart is just closed up and its not something that you planned or wished for. What if you can't trust any man no matter hard you try? I have never gone on a love strike but love scares me so I always run away from it.

  10. I cant eva go on a love strike biko,ow wud I do my ex "ntoyin".I always break up wen u start misbehaving nd on too d next one,life is too sweet biko,many men in d lagoon.


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