How badly can someone possibly be hurt to put them on a Love Strike?
For those who don't know what I mean by Love Strike it's simply putting your heart and emotions on strike, shutting your heart to love and making a decision not to let anyone in... Some of us have been so badly burnt that we swear I WILL NEVER LOVE AGAIN!
A blog reader once made a comment like that, I cannot remember the details and I didn't pay it much mind till last night on Sharing Life Issues where Loneliness was the topic of discussion several callers called in and said that they were terribly lonely and needed companions. Two of those callers said they were lonely because they had been single for at least 25 years because they were so badly hurt by someone they loved and trusted that they closed themselves up and swore never to love again.
Now more than 20 years later they find themselves almost drowning in the muddy seas of loneliness.
What I can't seem to understand is how badly someone could have been burnt, how terribly a significant other could have treated a person to drive them to that decision.
What makes even less sense is that while you go on a Love Strike, the person who drove you to that point moves right ahead, gets into another relationship, falls in love, maybe gets married and maybe have some kids, continues with their lives "happily ever after" while you remain closed off to loving someone again and subject yourself to eternal singleness and lonesomeness. You stay stuck in a moment.
I understand that some of us have been so terribly burnt that we shy away from relationships and commitments, and we embrace the 'sanity' and solitude. But how badly could someone possibly be hurt that you swear never to love again...
Have you ever gone on a love strike? What happened, what drove you to the point of no return where you heard the word LOVE and screamed "Never again!". And if you have called off your strike, what finally caused you to put an end to it; loneliness, pressure, the possibility of true love...?