ASKING A BIG FAVOR NWANDO. There this post on Linda Ikeji's blog titled "this may not be news but......" shows tweets of some girl ranting about wives and side chicks and guys. That needs analysis on this blog. I think it's a waste of time to comment on LIB but I know it will make an interesting topic to be discussed here. Hope my request will be granted.
Well here goes!
Read from the bottom.
Ok. Let me begin the debate/analysis/discussion.
Well, I'm speaking for myself right now; for all the choices I've made, and for the times I've had to vie for a man (who belonged to another or not), I wasn't "forced" to. I was fully aware of my choices, I was aware that I had a choice to not do that, I was aware that no matter how strong my feelings were it was ultimately my choice and my decision. I was aware when I was wrong. I was aware of the possible consequences. I'm not a victim of any man's superiority or sexism. And I'm not aware that someone can actually be "FORCED" into this position without their own 'consent'.
That said, the world we live is patriarchal and favours men more, that's not news.
That said also, I've already said I don't believe in generalizing. There ARE good men and I'm blessed to have crossed paths with few.
But hey, this is me speaking for me.
I really wish I know the backstory of Sugabelly's tweets, I think that would help put things in context a lot better, would help (me) relate more.
What say you?
On a very real note, like I said, I'm speaking for myself, based on my own persperctive and views which are birthed from my own personal experiences. So I have to ask you all; DO MEN REALLY FORCE WOMEN INTO THIS POSITION?
If you can relate, if you've got an experience that has put you in a position similar to what Sugabelly is talking about please share with us. I would really like to know and learn more.