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Siblings & Relationships. (How Much Do Their Opinions Matter?)

Sometime last week the topic on Moments With Mo was Siblings. Some questions were asked which I found quite interesting and I would like to hear your thoughts on them. 

Who are your siblings to you? How many siblings do you have and how much do you value their opinions? How far do your siblings opinions affect your own decisions? If they don't like someone you're romantically interested in or involved with would it matter to you? If for instance your siblings don't like someone you want to date or marry would that change your mind? Do you need their approval for the choices you make? Would you date your sibling's Ex?

Now this last question was weird because one would think the answer would definitely be NO. Yet Toke Makinwa said she knows someone who dated three blood brothers and is presently married to one. Hmmmm! Weird right?

But then I actually have a friend who's married to the elder brother of her Ex boyfriend so...

Please I'm very curious TT readers is any of you in this situation? Isn't it awkward? Doesn't it feel weird knowing that you've had sex with both brothers? Don't you worry that they both discuss their sexperiences with you? Do you find yourself comparing their size and performance? LOL. 

Anyhoo, back to the matter. 
Me, I've got 3 siblings. I value my siblings' opinions. I'd like their support but I don't necessarily need their approval. I would never date a sibling's Ex! Nevvvvvvvvvveeeeeeeerrrrr. If my brothers particularly don't like a guy I want to marry then I would see that as a red flag and probably turn down the proposal. 



  1. Hmm...personally I don't do friend's Exs so siblings Ex's would be out of it for me....I also feel that whoever I choose to be with isn't anyone's business....if you can't wish me well then shut it....I don't think it is right for anyone to be given that privilege/right to have a say in my relationship or who or not I should date....I am an adult and if the relationship doesn't work out fine, I count my losses and move on....buh I think as an should be able to make decisions pertaining to your dating life without anyone's advice or judgement...#myopinion..

  2. Is Toke sure? How can someone date three brothers, how much more get married to one? That's crazy. I have 4 siblings and their opinions matter a lot.

  3. The elder brother of an ex once asked my hand in marriage as he was convinced his younger brother was not serious enough for me to get tied to his garment. Needless to say I didn't end up with either of them.
    I have got 4 siblings and would love their approval of my better half but that is secondary. However, my eldest brother's opinion does count a lot because often times, his judgements are correct. That is not to say he intrudes. As a matter of fact, a lot of times, he is quiet except for cases that are just too bad.

  4. I have been in a situation where 4 brothers were all asking me out. At different times of my life. I had a big crush on d eldest but he was waaaay older than me then. Let me start the gist well. I met the 3rd of the 4 brothers, I tot hee was fine and was about to say yes, when I ran into the 4th one, chao, he was tall dark and handsome, we dated for about 3 months, just kissing and holding hands kind of relationship. I realized he was too much of a play boy so I moved on, all this while the 1st Bro. Had a serious crush on me and I never knew and he never said until we met in kaduna later and he professed his love, brother number 2 and I went on several dates also, just because of all the katakata, I didn't date anyone. The matter tire me.

    1. Lol. Reading it sef tire me. Maybe all the brothers have the same spec and you're their spec.

  5. I av just one sibling n we aren't really open to each oder cos we grew up apart,though once in a while she gives her opinion,I listen n also work in between it using her opinion n mine n it works for me. I cud date my sibling"s ex n as long as d guy didn't brk my sis hrt. My happiness matters a lot.

  6. Thelma, loving that clock in your living room.

  7. While in Uni, my older cousin who is about five years older than me, had issues with who I was dating because of some past issues they had before I met my then boyfriend. None of which I knew nothing about and he tried to ''command'' me to break things up. I stood up to him and made him realize that I wouldn't just because of him. We eventually broke up after three years and few months and it had nothing to do with my cousins' sentiments at all.
    My own brothers don't interfere at all, if I don't gist them they don't even ask. It's only if I don't seem happy that they ask whassup and if I don't mention the reason being about my relationship, they don't push it.

  8. Dividends of being the 1st Child.
    No one will say phim about who I choose to marry. But i'll make them comfortable around my future hubby though. I do value their opinion but it wouldn't influence my decision. No be me go eventually live with the man for house?

  9. Oh, I will NEVER be friends with my siblings Ex let alone date them. No way!
    But my siblings are free to do whatever rocks their boats,

  10. Either ways I and my siblings would love support from each other, In a situation where I don't like my siblings lover or date, my attitude tells them automatically. Growing up, my sister had one guy on her case, they were in love ATM, but I never really liked the dude, he was a broke ass, and my sister would spend popsy money on him. While so many rich suitors flocked around her. But then again my sister loved him and I loved my sister, so I had no choice than support them.

    But my siblings can't influence my marriage sha, and I can't date a sibling's Ex.

  11. In as much as im the last of 6 and they are way older (my direct elder sis is 5yrs older) I do my thing, I dont need their approval and they do not give me a hard time when it comes to who to date .
    I cannot date my sibling's ex tho na ah that's just wrong.

  12. My Elder sister's Ex is currently on my case..deleted him off bbm,stopped taking his calls,blocked his number but dude still calls with other numbers..he even went as far as telling my elder sister how much he loves and would love to marry me bla bla thinking I might consider if my sis gives him the go ahead..this dude just doesn't give up! He still sent an sms yesterday telling me he can't get me off his mind. How on earth do I get this guy off my back?? When man never finish,e come be my sister's ex???? Her leftover??? Mba Nu

  13. I don't have any sibling so I guess this post ain't for me.

  14. I have 2 siblings.
    Yes, I respect their opinion concerning any issue about me, but not necessarily I should accept them.
    NO! I won't marry an ex of a sibling!
    Toke said she knows someone who dated 3 blood brothers and married one of them? HUMPH! I comment my reserve oo!

    I remembered talking about sibling rivalry in my old blog and highlighted that spousal approval is usually a sensitive issue for siblings. It can either mar or make siblings relationship.

    When someone is in love, they see no wrong with their future partner, and if they do, they turn the blind eye, or believe they can change them. BUT their loved ones who wants the best for their sibling would try to make the sibling see reason, how they intervene and how the sibling in question handles such intervention, would determine how they would relate afterwards.

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  16. I value my siblings' opinions even though they seem not to be aware of that fact. a sibling's ex?..hell no



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