When they go for shopping which is a very beautiful and fun experience for almost every lady. But for the fat girl, it’s a rather sober experience. In many cases, sizes are deceptive to the extent that a size 12 dress will be tagged size 18. She has to through every cloth in the store before she finds what fits her. Sometimes, she ends up not seeing any flattering outfit. Again, the sadness begins.
Then she turns to her tailor to make a good dress for her. A beautifully styled dress she saw in a magazine page. The tailor makes it, it’s still not flattering. Sarcastically, the tailor says, “I find it difficult sewing for fat girls, it is too hard”. Again, the sadness begins.
Her soon-to-be-married best friend calls, “Wendy, will you be one of my bridesmaids”? “Don’t answer of course you will”. She is excited.“Will call you up later so we go choose the dresses with the other girls”. Her heart drops. Shopping bridesmaids with the other girls, she knows will be a huge nightmare because she is the “fat girl”. While shopping, The saleslady says, "We don't have your size, so here's the biggest we do have," and she gives it a try. Of course, it never fits. Her underarm fat is spilling over, her back fat is folding over the waist, and she can't get the thing to slip over her butt. But it looks beautiful on everyone else! And she is left feeling guilty for being more than a handful. Again, the sadness begins.
At NYSC orientation camp. The fat girl is handed her dress bag. She opens it. The kaki trouser is as small as a size 6’s whereas she is a size 18. “Ma’am, dis kaki is too small for me, can I get a larger size”, she says to the platoon mistress. The lady murmurs, “Exchange with someone else”. (lol, we’ve all experienced this). And she looks around, no one has her size. Most of other corpers, she may ask will reply saying, “NOO!!! I no carry orobo size”. Everyone laughs at her. Again, the sadness begins.
Every fat lady go through post-traumatic dress disorder. It is the condition that occurs when a person, usually female, feels disappointed and traumatized while leaving a clothing store. It could happen when she views old photographs and asks herself "What the hell was I wearing" It could also be the traumatic stress she feels between the moment she post a picture on the Internet and the moment somebody likes it or responds. Fat people go through this stress all the time and the society is not being fair at all. 80% of Heart-related illnesses which fat people suffer are because they spend most of their years depressed, not just about their size but because of social prejudicial.
Written by Jennifer Ogo Okolo.
Source: Linda Ikeji's blog.
While I appreciate the writer's good and noble intentions, this article only makes plus size people look like joyless, hopeless victims. I'm all for encouraging society to be kinder and more tolerant, but articles like these only only serve to foster a 'Pity Me' mentality.
Yes, we face certain challenges, some of which Jennifer has mentioned in this article but nahhh, most of us don't go through life with dark clouds hanging over our heads, and when we do it's rarely as a result of weight issues.
Some of us are even happier and more confident than our slimmer counterparts. Memphis did you hear that? Because you've said too many times "fat people have no self-confidence" or "fat people have low self-esteem" and I always want to reply you but I just never have the time or energy.
The sentiments herein are 'nice' so how come I couldn't stop shaking my head when reading this? I'm fat or plus size or big or whatever and I know even fatter, wayyyyyy fatter people than myself who have healthy social lives, happy relationships and are not in the least bit miserable, as this article portrays us to be. MISERABLE. Yeah most of us would like to be slimmer, some of us work towards it but that doesn't stop us from living life to its fullest.
My dear "fat" people, if you have this "Again, the sadness begins" attitude PLEASE SNAP OUT OF IT NOW! You cannot beg or ask the world to be nice to you, the world doesn't owe it to you either. BUT YOU owe it to YOURSELF to be happy, fulfilled and optimistic. If you are not happy with your size then please adopt a healthier lifestyle, do not accept to be the Guest of Honour at anyone's Pity Party.
The ONE question I have is this; how come the emphasis is on fat women, why doesn't society judge or treat fat men the way it does women? Why is society less tolerant of women? Why is little or no pressure put on overweight men but overweight women are constantly the the receiving end of society's unfeeling intolerance? Why would a woman carry a baby for nine months and receives constant scrutiny, ridicule and judgement for having a pouch or muffin top, yet some men look 9 months pregnant with nothing but beer in their bellies and don't get even a tap on the wrist from "society"? Ok that's more than one question but really they're all just one question. LOL.