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The Travails Of Mrs 'Married To a Stud'!

Last night my friend came over and she's one of these evil lot that don't believe in being sick and bed rest. She needed to go do something and needed company. I was still woozy from the drugs but it wasn't so bad, besides when she told me that there's this barbecue place where they do burgers, grilled chicken/turkey, turkey gizzard (never heard of those before yesterday), grilled seafood and all, I suddenly began to feel my head get clearer and my limbs get stronger. 

So on we went to this place. It's this cozy quaint place somewhere around. The minute we walked in I saw him. Indulge my fascination with matters of the heart, or the loins or whatever, LOL, it's just the way I'm wired, not much I can do about it. 

Yeah, so there he was; all 6ft1 of him, tall and almost lanky, with the nerd glasses, then he spake and his intonation was positively pleasantly Bri-ish. I'm like dude, what are you? My fantasy come to life??? He owns the place and came to welcome us in, then he and I had a back and forth exchange, asked my name and told me his, and we chatted for a bit while a waiter took our orders. 

The minute he stepped away my friend said "I can see what's going on right here". I asked the chica what she meant and she stated that our chemistry was almost burning up the whole place, and that our flirting was beyond PG 13. I was a bit embarassed, yeah I knew we flirted a bit but I hadn't expected anyone to notice, besides it wasn't intentional, it just happened. Well, like she said we did have some insane, intense chemistry. 

When our order was ready we got up to go. Mr Perfect bade me farewell and I promised to be back next weekend (Uju Beibe, take note). We walked to the car and my friend says he came outside and watched us leave. "I think he's in love with you." She said, I was already making a mental note to return to this joint sooner, during the week, and explore that chemistry further when she added "Such a shame that he's married."

Wait, What?!

"Ahn ahn, you didn't see the wedding ring?"

Errr, no. If I did I wouldn't have carried on with the 'flirting', I wouldn't have carried on with the day dreaming that starts in a single woman's head immediately she meets a prospective 'The One'. I wouldn't have let my gazes and smiles linger longer than was necessary!

Why haven't I learnt to make it a habit to check men's ring fingers? I can't count the number of men I've met once, only to be subsequently asked if he's married and I absolutely had no clue just because I didn't let my eyes wander and search. Oh well... Another one bites the dust. LOL. 

My question though is for the wives of these Adonis. How do you go about your day without going into cardiac arrest at the thoughts of what's happening with your husband? How do you not put a leash on him to keep me from wandering to the wrong places? How do you not have daily mobile-cam that follows him around just so you can be sure that all these Lagos gehs keep their hands off him? How do you keep the fear and worry at bay knowing that your hubby is every woman's fantasy and some women have no regards for a man's marital status? How do you women do it, worse yet when you know he's not only hot, he's also got this natural charm that's particularly appealing?

Like, How does Boris Kodjoe's wife feel when she hears or reads what some thirsty women want him to do to their bodies? Or how did Jumobi Adegbesan feel when RMD was this sex symbol that women just couldn't get enough of? I often wonder how my friend *Sola feels about her stud of a hubby; does she feel proud to be his Mrs or is the pride tinged with fear and worry?

Sometimes I honestly wonder if I can marry someone that hot. I mean, even average men get disturbed by women outside regularly, how much more one that looks like a younger, taller Taye Diggs?


  1. Thelma pls be looking at finger oh don't be wasting chemistry. Rings are not the only indicator though a lot of married guys do not wear their bands.

    ... oya ppl with taye diggs look alike hubby should come and answer

    1. LOL. Phrasea you're hilarious. You're so right sha. ROTFL @ wasting chemistry. I think another problem is that I get scared to check, I'd be so embarassed if I get 'caught' looking at his finger. So sometimes I just look away.

  2. I know am finer than le boo and he knows it he is the one always trying to put the leash on dont tell me u rep
    september 9 seriously?...two of my exes were both September 9th too...and I so much hold them in high esteem....#irepseptember9##that naughty house wife

    1. Yep, I am. You should bring cake, I like the one with brandy in it.

    2. Hmmm...hope u aint gon get tipsy birthday in advance birthday mate....u just won a space in my heart....#irepseptember9##...that naughty house wife

    3. I can handle being tipsy! No worries, just got you a "banana island" in my heart too. Happy birthday in advance to you too, any plan for the day?

    4. Chill out with le boo and friends....might even send in naughty house wife

    5. I will be working till late, but will spare time to host my colleagues after close of work.

  3. We just trust them na ni Hehehe #inmymindimmarriedtoastud. But anyways that's beside the point....I'm so happy today, my brother's wife just had bouncing baby beautiful boy. The first grandchild for my parents I'm just too happy, I have been floating on cloud 9 for the past two hours #firstnephewever#firstgrandchild and guess what! He looks like me lucky child lol

    1. Yay! It's just the 1st and good news is already rolling in. Congrats Tolulope, congrats to your parents and your brother. But are you really sure he looks like you? He's just a day old na. LOL.

    2. Yea right, he looks like you indeed. Let his mother catch you! Congrats joor, I can imagine the excitement.

    3. Lool I'm telling you this boy is my carbon copy hehe #auntyoflife...thanks guys! Wale u are right everyone is so excited, I'm boning work for the rest of the week now, I'm taking "aunternity" leave :)

    4. Congrats Tolulope, lol @ aunternity leave

  4. "besides when she told me that there's this barbecue place where they do burgers, grilled chicken/turkey, turkey gizzard (never heard of those before yesterday), grilled seafood and all, I suddenly began to feel my head get clearer and my limbs get stronger." - this made me laugh.

    Thelma, fingers without rings can be deceiving, there are so many men with "lost" wedding rings and they are too busy to get a replacement.

    Trust is the only thing that keeps you sane. You've got to be on top of your game - don't stop being the woman he fell in love with, a little upgrade will help. Prayer helps too.

    Congratulations, Aunty Tolulope! If you feel this way now, I'd love to know how you'll be when your own babies come.

    1. :) thanks Enjay, don't mind me o I don't know how I'm feeling like I'm the one that had a baby. When she was in labour I was feeling labour pain too o Lool( I'm not even joking). Can't wait for mine to come as well!!!

    2. Don't stop being the woman he fell in love with, a little upgrade will help - very wise words.
      Men were built to chase after their woman, and when he catches you that doesn't mean you should stop running ie doing the things that made him chase you at first. As a matter of fact you should run faster because there are plenty women looking to be chased outside. If you stop running he'll start chasing the next runner that catches his fancy

  5. Trust is the word, when I dated a girl that was out of my league, trust was the only thing that gave me confidence that she's mine and other guys can queue behind. Right now, if I can't trust you, then we can't date because trust is more important than love in a relationship. Love can come later, but if you don't trust someone, you'll always doubt them.


  6. If you have a beautiful husband, its trust that will keep you going, the day he betrays that trust, you will doubt him for life.

    1. Awwwww, Beautiful husband indeed...
      Well, I neither have a BF nor Hubby let alone a cute one, so no comment.
      But a man's ring finger is what my eyes sees even before the man oh! If no ring, I look for other signs. Then when we get talking, I ask if U are single ni & carry out my FBI work on him!
      Tolulope congratulobia....

  7. ASKING A BIG FAVOR NWANDO. There this post on Linda Ikeji's blog titled "this may not be news but......" shows tweets of some girl ranting about wives and side chicks and guys. That needs analysis on this blog. I think it's a waste of time to comment on LIB but I know it will make an interesting topic to be discussed here. Hope my request will be granted. j

  8. Thelma, any woman married to a stud should learn to play the blind, deaf and mute or she would end up having hpb! Women should not look for what was not lost, else, they would find what they were not looking for in the first place.
    Feeling better now? Take care.

  9. hahahaha...(and i will keep laughing)

  10. A guy told me today that the wedding on the very married finger doesn't count anymore........

  11. Lol, that ring is like a chick magnet to irresponsible girls sha.
    Meanwhile the only thing that can help in this kind of situation is trust. The most damaging thought you can have is to think that another human being is out of your league, think that and you'll never have a day's rest if you settle with that person
    The minute the person's phone rings or you're out and someone says hi to your partner you'll start hyperventilating cos of anxiety and panic. I used to think like that before then I worked on myself, now I know that any woman will be lucky to have me and if she doesn't see it then it's her loss, not mine.
    I'm in a relationship with someone that gets mad attention from men but I trust her and we usually laugh about it. The same way she trusts me too, the only time we might feel some type of way is if you're starting to give a particular person too much attention, and we don't hesitate to nip it.


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