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Thelma Asks...

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There's something I've wondered about for a long time so I'm just going to ask in hope that I can get a reasonable answer. I can see this going in the way of "it's a man's world" but I'm sincerely hoping for something else, actual answers. 


I tend to read a lot of stuff (which admittedly includes things I probably shouldn't be reading but...). I cannot count the number of articles I've read instructing/educating/informing/enlightening me on how to give (better) blow jobs. These are usually very detailed, well written articles. They're not filthy or crass or disgusting, they're often just very well written educative pieces. 

I saw one today on a (non-sexual) forum, it had steps and very vivid details on how to achieve this and while I found myself unwittingly drawing my lips over my teeth when the article said to "Wrap upper lips over top row of teeth like you are imitating a toothless old person.", I immediately felt ridiculous and thought; wait why haven't I ever seen any article instructing/educating/informing/enlightening men on how to give (better) cuninlingus. JUST WHY???

Why? Is there a reason I don't know about why it's only normal for women to know how to, and men not to know how to... 

(I'm deliberately not asking why there are articles teaching women how to keep men, husbands, be better wives etc. I'm particularly interested in oral sex and if there's a reason one is more important than the other, besides the health risks). 

Comments

  1. Wrap upper lips over top row of teeth like you are imitating a toothless old person. ROTFL. I have died this night. Lmao

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  2. Hmmmm,my guess is 80percent of men are gud practically in bed n oral SEX while most ladies are still learners e.g muah but sincerely d society at large feel ladies are meant to know more wen it comes tins like dat

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  3. This girl sha.. i agree, men needs the tutorials more.

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  4. In my days in the 'jungle', I know the kind of shock gals displayed when I express my intention for an 'Australian kiss'. It's good things are changing now and it's not so 'eeewwwww' anymore.

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    1. 'Australian Kiss' took me a while to get Lol smh , so many names for one sexual act , nah wah ooo

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    2. Haba,which one b Australia kiss?never heard of dis before ohhhh kai,am googling right away,cnt wait to start kissing in d Australian way. lLMAO

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    3. Yes o, just seeing this Australian kiss tingy for the first time, goggle to the rescue!

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    4. You don't need to google,my dear. Its written on d wall already. Its taking a dive in the 'south' side, get it? Australia and South....

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  5. Na wa o, Thelma I couldn't agree mmore, everything in this life is about woman learning to please a man. Thank God for feminism, I would have killed someone if I was born in the era of my folks.

    Seriously, a lot of girls don't knw how to give blow jobs sha, Ii don try give me hubby, he says my teeth always get in the way. CEO

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  6. Na wa o, Thelma I couldn't agree mmore, everything in this life is about woman learning to please a man. Thank God for feminism, I would have killed someone if I was born in the era of my folks.

    Seriously, a lot of girls don't knw how to give blow jobs sha, Ii don try give me hubby, he says my teeth always get in the way. CEO

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  7. Thelma it all boils down to what you're trying to avoid. It is a man's world. Sorry.

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  8. Lmsao! Enjay u are a case!
    Well, I think the men folk find it a lil easier "giving head" seeing as the act is just like licking a cone ice cream tenderly....

    Cuninlingus is nothing compared to "a BJ" because nothing falls, refuses to stand, bends, gets really hard etc
    So Yes, women NEED more tutorial for our own comfort.
    Have U noticed how we women feel pain in awkward positions while the dudes can keep thrusting in & out even if his female partner is standing on her head?

    More tutorials please!!!
    Night folks.

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    1. But when they are thrusting in and out is any effect being made? The men too need tutorials, we all need tutorials! And that icecream cone licking business, not everybody knows how to lick icecream properly... tutorials for all!

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    2. Out of curiosity, dis is no english class but do u 'lick icecream' or 'Eat icecream'

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    3. Haha. Uyi this your 'lick ice cream?' question. I remember when I was out with friends and same question came up, one guy said lick, another said scoop!, and the other said eat and drink! And they were even giving explanations. LOL!

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    4. Uyi that's the difference. I intentionally said lick because that's an act. But eat? They'll chew ur clit then. LOL

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  9. well, I have seen quite a lot of online posts on how to please a woman and a man ..but they seem to be written by more females ...cunnilingus et al..
    and mabel, 80% is a bit too high..i think it varies. My ex was very good in bed but did not know how to give good head..putting lots of saliva..disgusting!!!. then a rebound guy was so terrible in bed and he's penis was on the smaller size but he knew how to work his tongue and lips!! he always told me to literally sit on his face! (too much information for y'all ? my bad lol) thinking about it just made me giggle lol. so miss, it varies.

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    1. Hmmmmm...interesting, let's hear more nd learn

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  10. I for one don't know how to give BJ,better put;I'm yet to give any man 'a' BJ. I get so irritated easily so,it's a no for me. For me not to feel guilty/selfish at the end,I don't allow him give me the Australian kiss(borrowing Eazee's term) either unless he insists and before allowing him,I make sure to tell him I ain't going down on you ooo..lol

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  11. Maybe because a lot of men refuse to acknowledge their deficit in aspects of pleasing women, so there's less search on the internet, so writers are writing due to popular demand?
    Or generally females are more curious & want to please and 'keep' their men so the need for more tutorials for them?
    Or maybe because women are more 'shy' to explore, follow their intuition and learn on the job, so a need to teach them and help them learn in private, before going ahead to do the thing.

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  12. Biko alot of guys don't know how to give. Some use their teeth and end up bruising the chic

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  13. Funny thing is most guys only know how to thrust in and out, the thrusting gaan is questionable... some go too fast as if it's a first to finish something while some are slower than snails you'll be wondering if it's a hip problem or what. Don't get me started on oral sex shiiiiiiiii, some guys kiss you here you'll wonder if they thought your tender lips were some kind of hard ponmo they are trying to teach a lesson rme. Lemme stop here biko, guys need this tutorial on oral sex more than females, sex is not just to pull pant, fly inside and dig like there's a treasure chest in there.
    As for bjs you can practice with those really big lolly pops :D

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    1. Your +18sexual-rating just went way up with 10000points! Lolz...

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    2. Phransea I could not stop laughing at ur comment! Ur right jare; methinks guys cld do with tutorials on 'how to make a trip Down Under' worthwhile. Especially as what pleases varies with each chic, while for guys it's pretty much textbook and the 60/40 rule applies for most guys (60% skill/ 40% enthusiasm) n since guys r visual beings, d sight of how much ur enjoying wat ur doing often makes up for what u may lack in skills. Unfortunately, we women ain't wired d same way n u have to have skills to make an impact. Simple! N a lot of guys r clueless on that issue.

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  14. hahahah, i learnt on the job.

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  15. Truth is both sexes need tutorial not only on oral sex but on the art of sex. The trick is to keep your mind open to learning new, exciting things an unlearning old, dour ones.
    K.O.H.

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