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Thelma Asks...

I'm going to ask all you single people in the house one of  my least favorite questions and I expect answers!

And I'm asking both the ladies and the gents; one reason (at least) why you're still single? Single as in not in a relationship or not married. 

I'll answer first. 

People are too damn complicated. Dealing with myself alone is already quite calamitous, to add someone else into the mix is simply recipe for a riptide!

Lol. Ok, seriously... Let me think about it and get back to you guys but in the meantime, like I already said; I EXPECT ANSWERS!


  1. www.eniwealth79.blogspot.com3:44 pm, September 25, 2014

    I'm more than sure than I've ever being that to have the best marriage, one has to marry ones' best friend. Enough of the frogs already! Yes it will take time before we become besties and we have to start some where. What better time to be more mindful/careful of the kind of people I let into my space if not now? All these sweet talkers should take several seats abeg.

  2. www.eniwealth79.blogspot.com3:45 pm, September 25, 2014


  3. I am still SINGLE, because the one i LOVE does not love me, he claims he likes me but not enough to take things further, and the ones that LOVE me,i dont love them, even if i have tried to love them back. Life is so unfair. So now am just waiting until i meet someone with whom i will be on the same page with.

  4. because I'm a student and still eating "thank u ma"

  5. 1. Cause he is yet to pop the question and can't have me putting a gun through his head to do so.
    2. Am enjoying my me time and learning new things everyday cos hmmm....once in....some things just cut off. So lemmi enjoy my single hood even though Boss keep giving me hell with the damn question "When I'm I getting your card"?
    3. And the list goes on.

  6. because I just ended things with my bf in december, was in a relationship for 3 years! I need to breathe, it's been fun going on dates and just seeing what is out there. Maybe next year, no pressure from this end.

  7. Well, I'm Still Single cos after dashing outta my 5yrs relationship 4months ago, I'm only just meeting a man 3weeks ago that makes my tummy knot.
    I'm yet to accept to be his Girlfriend even. Lemme play small Shakara, then I won't be single anymore, Just Unmarried. LMAO!

    1. Ruth remember he might be reading this lool

  8. Hmmmmmmmmm. Will I say am single?maybe am.single not in a serious relationship n not married because I haven't just met that person who would ticks all my boxes. Am in a relationship but we both dnt take it serious cos we both know where and how it would end,SO is battling with an estranged wife n fighting divorce at 40 and I am not ready for that so am just enjoying the cash,gifts n d flow. I sound bad shey? But am not.

  9. Me sef don't know why I am still single? One thing I know is that I am heartbroken.

    1. You'll be fine Hun, your heart is stronger than you give it credit for.

    2. A pretty lady like you shouldn't be heartbroken ore mi... lolz * from za lady downstairs*

  10. I am single because I am too young to focus on any man, allowing him to distract me from my goals.
    I am yet to meet someone who deserves what I have to offer.
    I need to give myself full attention and I'm trying to love myself more.

  11. I'm single because the 2 guys I've dated were lying, cheating bastards. I broke up with the last one in February and have been single since then. I haven't been on a single date sef. I'm just too hurt to open my heart again. I fear I may get married out of necessity rather than out of love cos it's not like I lack suitors

  12. thelma i have good news for d house. I had a preggy test today and it read +ve. Le boo and i are so excited in anticipation of baby no2. Thank you Jesus ! zinny

  13. thelma i have good news for d house. I had a preggy test today and it read +ve. Le boo and i are so excited in anticipation of baby no2. Thank you Jesus ! zinny

    1. Congrats zinny...if its a girl,name her after me! I asked first!!!!

    2. sasha! You gotta pay to have her named after you. It is never free.

    3. Believe me,my real name is more adorable than!

    4. that's fine but you still gotta pay!

  14. Why do the wrong ones love you right? That's why am still single.

  15. Ermmm

    They said I am too picky & choosy and always finding something wrong with every dude.ehnnn, as I now have standards nko?

  16. Ermmm

    They said I am too picky & choosy and always finding something wrong with every dude.ehnnn, as I now have standards nko?

  17. Congrats Zinny. Wishing you a stress free pregnancy.

  18. I'm single because I'm not in a relationship....rotflmbfao. okay. I'm single cos I'm not sure I'm in a relationship, Infact I'm not in a relationship. It takes a lot of effort to get into one, and maintain one, and stay loyal. But these niccurs ain't loyal... so there... my humble submission.

  19. Congrats zinny. God see you through your timesters.
    @Tee, God bless you for me.

  20. I'm sinlge cos It takes WITS for a girl to love me.(No pun intended)
    Girls of nowadays are either a trainwreck outta Sad superstory relationships dat they lack enough to trust me.
    On The other side, girls who fall in love with me out of naivety automatically ticks off all other boxes.
    So I'm stuck In Singledom.
    Btw, I'm still too young to bother mysef abt it.
    Hey! I'm not trying to be Rude or cynical.

  21. Am still single cos I want to focus and build me for now... and maybe cos I have commitment issues? Maybe cos am yet to meet the one that makes me forget my name? Ultimately, am still single because I choose to make me happy

  22. Please where is Subomi, It's being long I noticed her comments

  23. definitely sasha, consider it done ! I just hope it'll be twin galz, so one for u and d oda for ruthylicious. Tank u all****big kisses*** hehehehe...... Zinny

  24. I'm single because I want to be mind fucked. People are always focused on the physical, which gets boring after a while. I need a good mind fuck

  25. Am not even sure if am single in the true sense of the word cos my heart is with someone bt all will be revealed soon.If it doesn't work tho,I will be single to develop myself and grow,r/ship na work abeg.

  26. Single because she let go of her heels and took off like a bolt earlier this year

  27. Haven't met someone yet who loves me 4 just me....either they're golddiggers or plain ass It's God am looking up to now....time is ticking but he has the answers

  28. I am single because there are very few gentlemen out there, and I'm still working on me, my career, my dreams....haven't got time for relationship drama.... surely, there's gotta be more to life......

  29. Relationship, commitment and the whole nine yard isn't a joke o! Anyway, don't know why am single.

  30. Because I'm think I'm still in love with my ex so I don't wanna take my new relationship that seriously lest it leads to marriage.

  31. I don't have the heart to love any man right now..I feel like they're all out to get me and break me all over again and I'm not ready to let that happen cos It took the grace of God to get to where I am today. I'm just happy with myself



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